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AIBU to be annoyed by SIL posting about every work shift?

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Mamasamba · 25/06/2026 07:03

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

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Cannedlaughter · 25/06/2026 10:01

I’d reply. I know how you feel, imagine how I feel doing it 5 days a week. With a crying face emoji. That’s all it needs.

pambeesleyhalpert · 25/06/2026 09:56

This would wind me up so much!!

Shinyandnew1 · 25/06/2026 09:55

When she writes, ‘work tomorrow..have a nice day in the sun!’ just reply-‘we’ll be at work, as well. Like we are five days a week!’

Imseriouslyyouguys · 25/06/2026 09:50

Just start posting the same every time you go to work. She’ll get the message.

Jamesblonde2 · 25/06/2026 09:42

Do it OP. A bit of reality for the SIL
and MIL.

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 25/06/2026 09:36

I would reply to them all with things like

‘same!’ Or if you’re off, just a simple ‘DH too!’

then it doesn’t look like you’re trying to one up her but you’re making the point that you are also working

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/06/2026 09:31

Mamasamba · 25/06/2026 07:03

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

So I would play her at her own game. You and DH send identical posts every day for the next fortnight and every time you have to do O//T. Big pouty faces etc. Perhaps even a message from your DP saying - ‘will you have time to make some supper for us to pick up on the way home?’

She’ll get the message.

pizzaHeart · 25/06/2026 09:30

I don’t think that you should comment but your DH should. It’s his sister. So every time when she is commenting he can reply: the same here, Im at work today and tomorrow, if she says that it’s different for him he could answer Mamasamba was at work too today and will be tomorrow.
SIL is going this poor me act for MIL to get special treatment so he needs to challenge her.
By the way if SIL has health problems and physically difficult work of course I won’t do anything of this sort.

MyDeftDuck · 25/06/2026 09:22

You could…..
Post similar comments of yours and OH work patterns etc
Comment a sickly sweet “oh dear, poor you” to SIL
Leave the family chat group permanently

PullTheBricksDown · 25/06/2026 09:18

Komints · 25/06/2026 08:36

You could just post this, every morning you go to work but she has the day off:

"Off to work! have a good day all xx [SIL] what are you doing on your day off today?"

Every. Single. Day.

Yes this. And on days when you're both working reply with 'me too! 😭😭😭'

TooManyTeeShirts · 25/06/2026 09:17

BrieCake · 25/06/2026 07:04

Start doing the same ! Take turns one of you posts the other lavishes with praise etc I’m sure she will get the message

Edited

This! Please do this and let us know how long before they react 😂😂.

Dancingsquirrels · 25/06/2026 09:14

Kill it with kindness and have some fun

"Poor you, that sounds really tough"

"Well done managing another shift this week" etc

She won't know if you're truly sympathetic or being sarcastic

nomas · 25/06/2026 09:07

Mamasamba · 25/06/2026 07:39

No she has friends there. She goes out with them. She has been there quite a while and is not a majorly taxing job physically or mentally tbh…

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Why don’t you and DH start to do the same? Post on the group every working day.

Stepmum900 · 25/06/2026 09:05

Yeah people are narcissists these days. Think it started with Covid and nhs workers posing for selfies to get praise

Bestfootforward11 · 25/06/2026 09:05

mildly irritating but not something to hyper focus on.

Anonycat · 25/06/2026 08:59

Your DH should just respond to his sister one day with a message saying "Sis, you do realise some of us have to go to work EVERY DAY, don’t you??" That’s what my brother would do!

Helpwithdivorce · 25/06/2026 08:56

I’d reply ‘Same, and the day after, and the one after that and the day after that. Well every day Monday to Friday. Must be nice to only work so little’

mondaytosunday · 25/06/2026 08:52

Why do you care? Just ignore it.
It’s just something to roll your eyes at and then forget. Life’s not fair so don’t let it get to you.
Or you could be bitchy and comment ‘well done X! So great you managed to do something most of us have to do every day! Go you’! You could even post anonymously.

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2Rebecca · 25/06/2026 08:40

If it’s the family whatsapp I would start posting every day or when she posts add “ us too just like most Monday to Fridays”

Komints · 25/06/2026 08:36

You could just post this, every morning you go to work but she has the day off:

"Off to work! have a good day all xx [SIL] what are you doing on your day off today?"

Every. Single. Day.

rwalker · 25/06/2026 08:12

You need to do a thank god it over looking forward to day after 5 days on the bounce post

Lomonald · 25/06/2026 08:08

JacquesHarlow · 25/06/2026 07:07

Not every message on social media or messaging platforms is a "summons" for you to appear and give it your full energy.

Not every situation n life is a comparative competition between siblings.

if that's how she gets through life (fishing for praise) then please, by all means let her crack on. It doesn't take away anything from you.

YABU @Mamasamba

I love this, yes this.

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 25/06/2026 08:08

Lol. Off to her "co-lab", is she?

cookbookjunkie · 25/06/2026 08:06

Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

So say that then.

'Well obviously there's no sympathy from us, SIL. We go in five days a week. Off you trot, and enjoy your other three days off. 😂'

I dare you.

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