Hubbys job at risk because of family

Exactly this. Your husband is an idiot. Retailers are often very strict on use and misuse of discount cards and it’s often gross misconduct which leads to dismissal. He could easily lose his job yet and it will serve him right. What a fucking moron you married.

The card just magically ended up in his wallet?

I agree - but I think it is about more than his job tbh: he could face criminal consequences for participating in a fraud . It may impact his ability to get another job afterwards - but OP may already be panicking so was wary of saying so. Honestly, he has been really naive and too trusting of his brother. My DH wouldn’t even let me use his company perks as they are ‘employee specific’ and not for spouses and family. My DH would get barred from his professional memberships and never work again if he did this, even without criminal implications - really, OP’s DH has been very very foolish. He should seek legal advice and take representation to meetings with HR to try and negotiate his way out of this so that he can at least try to protect his future employability.

He's the one who commited the sackable offence by giving his brother his card. The shoplifting is reason he got caught but it's not the reason his job is at risk. You are angry at the wrong person. The police will deal with her, he is your problem.

I would suggest to the brother in law that he should write a letter saying he accidentally mistook the card for his, and his wife then laterally used it without know it wasn’t theirs. We only have one nectar and club card account that me and DH both scan. Once you’ve ascertained the card was used erroneously, your BIL/SIL are going to offer to pay whatever the shortfall is in items scanned vs. taken.

No that poster is a very special person and got an immediate, personalised reply from the top person of Tesco thanking her for her amazing services to the company.

I wonder if she’ll also be nominated for a Nobel prize.
I hope so as she is obviously such an important person and does so much good in the world.

His job is at risk because he gave out a card he shouldn’t be sharing with family. If he’d followed the correct protocols he wouldn’t be in trouble or held responsible for any one else’s actions. He shouldn’t have given out his card, even if SIL & BIL hadn’t been stealing the fact your husband was giving them a discount they weren’t entitled to means he was effectively stealing from his employer. Your DH is the one to blame here.

As a senior manager that isn’t going to fly. He should not only get aware of the rules, but also enforcing them on the people who work for him. It’s not inconceivable that he’s previously had to sack someone for giving their discount to someone else, as it happens more often than you think. Not only that, someone up thread says you have to sign to acknowledge you have read and understood the T’s and C’s of the discount card.

He’d have to be incredibly lucky to keep his job under these circumstances.

Sadly you are likely right - he’s facilitated and participated in a fraud. It may have seemed harmless, but the discounts are part of a contractual agreement between your DH’s company and the store. It was a really stupid thing to do. Am so sorry, but he is best speaking to them to acknowledge that he lent bro card not fully appreciating the legal aspect of what he was doing - and that he had no idea that his bro would pass the card on as this was done without his consent.

DH needs to be totally open and honest with his employers on this. He has to tell them exactly who he loaned his card to and why.
The shoplifting is a police matter surely.
I hope DH keeps his job but lessons should be learned here.

No matter how you try to spin this, the original fault lies with DH. He gave his brother the discount card when he shouldn't have done.

That is stealing from his employer, if he had taken a shopping list and done the shopping for them, they would gave legitimately been able to benefit from the discount whilst staying within the rules.
He can now either confess to letting his DB have the card, or lie about how it happened. You are right, he is likely to lose his job. Set of idiots.

I was wondering if that might work; denying that he ever gave it to them and that they must have found it or taken it.

If OP or her DH have used it in the same period that won't work though.

SIL sounds a bit of a nightmare and BIL not much better. I'm not sure I'd want anything to do with them.

Haha! You know the Strike books, where they had a nutter drawer in the filing cabinet?
That’s where your communications will be filed @TheseWordsAreMine 😁

When I worked at Asda many moons ago it was instant sack to let someone use your employee discount card. You could nominate another user but they had to live in the same house as you. They were unbelievably strict with this.

What's the matter with you? And why on earth would the OP give you her husband's name?

Good grief.

Sorry, yes I misunderstood.

He’d probably be dismissed for sheer incompetence if he claimed not to understand a simple concept like this 😬

They will get a reply straight away hahaha it’s automatic when I emailed them I always got an email straight back saying “thank you for your email if you would like to provide extra information please do above this line”
so they probably did get an email back from a robot just telling them thank you Hahha some people man

Thanks and agreed

Some idiot has apparently sent a link to this thread to Tesco head office. They also got a reply and all before 7am which is bullshit.

I'm bit lost on the email debacle..roughly what's that about?

Yes it was but I soon learned my mistake but I’m sure he will get fired for gross misconduct as that’s what I got and if not he is definitely lucky

Yeah right 😂 they’ll give him a crime number and that’ll be that

No you did not 😂😂

FFS you’re such a liar.

@ThisCoralGuide That must've been a bitter pill to swallow it shouldn't be different because he's a manager .
Employees across the board should abide by company policy.
That was an honest this is how it is post.🙏