Hubbys job at risk because of family

Very stupid of your DH to let his brother use the card.

The brother wasn’t using it legally either. Op’s dh could have applied for a family card for him to use, but didn’t bother.

Ultimately it is DH’s fault. He is a manger himself he should know the rules, you have to live together to use the benefits of his employee clubcard and he has given his brother the card which is against the rules. It is his responsibility and if he gets fired, it’s his fault.

Obviously brothers partner is in the wrong for stealing and using the clubcard for part of the times but that’s sort of not the issue here.

Your DH has been caught out

She effectively did. If he gave it to his brother to use legally, and she took it and used it illegally, that is surely the same thing?
If I lend my brother my car and his girlfriend goes speeding in it, I'm not to blame.
Even if the husband shouldn't have lent the card, for the girlfriend to go and do something that is absolutely illegal-as opposed to it should really be a different card- is totally wrong. Your husband should say she stole it (she did didn't she-he never said she could have it?) as she's a thief anyway.
She's also really stupid-paying for some and still stealing?

Who cares.

Aldi is better.

I think it pays its staff better too.
Win-win

Op, you'll be pleased to know that I'm not going to join the pile on re gross misconduct! But I am curious to know exactly what his brother and SIL have to say about the disciplinary proceedings. Simply saying sorry obviously isn't enough so what are they saying about the fact that he's likely to lose his job? Have they gone into hiding? Are they saying it's not their problem? Are the brothers' parents aware of what has happened, and, if so, what do they have to say?

I don't think serial shoplifters think much about other people.

My DH was a manager there and your DH has been really stupid, they have very clear rules on the use of the employee clubcard. I think he's minimising the trouble he is likely to be in. He could very easily have got a card in his brother's name, as when I 'lost' mine when DH moved jobs my sibling who also worked was able to apply to get their second card in my name.

He shouldn't have given his card to his brother even if his wife wasn't a thief.

I am sorry to say that your DH may well lose his job. Benefits such as the discount card usually have conditions and rules attached to avoid abuse; if your DH has breached any of these he will probably be dismissed following a disciplinary process, especially as he is in a management role where he is supposed to set a good example.

Did your DH know, at the time BIL had possession of the card, that he was passing it onto his own DP to use.....or did he only find out after this happened? If he knew all along that makes it even worse.

Your BIL has really taken advantage of his brother and let him down. His partner sounds like a horrible person with no morals at all, but that is really beside the point. I think your DH's best chance now is to hold his hands up, admit fault and apologise for allowing untrustworthy people to access the card; he may just get away with a written warning if he is open and honest from now on.

Maybe because it was a one off, and your Dad actually had a valid card he should have used.

This happened to my sister when she used to work for Sainsburys, however nobody did any stealing, my step dad just used the wrong employee discount card. She got let off with a warning.

@Pickybitsheatwave The stealing by your SIL is not the issue. It's a red-herring. If he loses his job it will be because HE handed the card to someone else, against the strict rules of the supermarket, not because the SIL was caught both using HIS card and stealing. She will be dealt with for the stealing, but she should NEVER have been given the card in the first place. I'm sorry, but you are being quite unfair to say that your SIL is the reason why your DH may lose his job.

This ! Your DH is a fool

It really could. Another thing is that I bet the terms of the card are such that it is actually the property of the employer. So even if the husband doesn't want to go down the route of falsely accusing the in-laws of a crime, the employer might say they want to which still gets the husband in a right tangle. So you're left with concocting a cock-and-bull story about the card accidentally falling into SIL's bag and her using it by accident or something like that, and hoping the person investigating was born yesterday. People investigating misconduct claims against management generally weren't born yesterday, so it really does look like lying is a foolish route to take.

@Pickybitsheatwave so sorry, it doesn't look good for him.

The horrors persist 😱

OP is probably a bit more worried about the household losing one person's income while the job market is dire, and her husband being unemployable.

As a former employee of a big retailer, I don't think HR will accept this:

1. Employee breached the policy as soon as they handed over their card to someone else (who was not a nominated user) to use. Employer doesn't care that you were in a rush or on a yellow line.

2. Even if they did accept that excuse, it was DH's responsibility to get the card back immediately afterwards. He enabled BIL/SIL to continue using the card by giving it to them and not getting it back.

Sharing discount card would be instant dismissal at the retailer I work for. Surely your DH knew that

You clearly haven't read the thread properly as Tesco already know about it. They're the ones who approached DH.

My friends sister worked for M&S for thirty years. Friend had three children could use a family card. She'd never have abused this benefit and risked her sis

Any lying about the situation is going to massively back fire and kick DH in the teeth.

And FYI, there is a Tribunal publication on the misuse of "thank you" vouchers which you might find interesting to google.

Basically the company concluded that it was gross misconduct and met the threshold for a number of reasons, some of which have parallels with your husbands story, and that dismissal decision was upheld by two internal appeals and was unsuccessfully challenged at Tribunal.

So it gives you an idea of the sort of arguments and thinking.

I hope it works out in his favour they have been terrible to put him at risk like this but what a nightmare to lend it to them in the first place he should have just asked for a family card