Hubbys job at risk because of family

You will have to wait and see, but I think your husband should report her to the police and get an incident number. If sharing his card is not prohibited then they might give him a warning instead of sacking him.

I am sorry to say it, but I think your husband is very likely to be sacked for gross misconduct. I do hope I am wrong.

I understand your anger OP, but it's your husband who risked his job despite having three kids at home. Every time he gave the card to his brother he was risking getting fired. Also for those suggesting that your DH claims the card was stolen, please don't encourage him to lie further. If BiL has been using the card regularly, how does DH explain that? That his wife kept stealing it and returning it? They will have a record of the transactions, times/dates and CCTV. It would only take a few minutes to check and they would see quite quickly that it wasn't DH using it, unless they're twins.

The thing is, if he lies and says she swiped the card from your home, it’s not beyond the realms of possibility that an HR manager, tired of being lied to by dozy employees, will insist on a police report being made, as the card remains their property and she’s effectively stolen a discount from them, as well as shoplifted.

What happens when the police knock on her door and ask her if she took it? Unless she’s the sort to fall on her sword in guilt, she’ll deny it. And then the OP’s husband gets into serious trouble for lying to police, that could result in a custodial sentence. It’ll be difficult enough to find a job having been sacked for gross misconduct. You don’t want to add a criminal record to that.

I think he should go in there, offer to repay everything, be hugely apologetic and ask if they’d let him resign rather than sacking him. If he’s lucky, they might feel sorry for him.

Shes awful BUT your husband knew it was against the rules to give his card to his brother when he simply could have ordered a family member one.

Tbh id be tempted to lie and say sil took the card from your house without permission.

Exactly.

I first started working for a retailer with a discount card when I was 20 (a long time ago) and even then it was common knowledge that they monitor transactions made using staff discount cards. Strange patterns of spending, unknown payment cards, unusual locations can and do get picked up. And that was before self checkouts with CCTV.

Hopefully anyone reading this who works in retail (or knows anyone who does) and wasn't aware of this, is now.

Fact she’s used it before, and multiple times, means that’s not going to work.

In this situation where SIL obviously has no respect for your DH and is a known thief I would seriously consider telling DH's employer that the card was also stolen.

He will be required to protect his card, everyone who does this will say it was stolen,

But op even if she hadn’t stolen, they’d have caught it at some point and your husband would have been fired, it was always going to happen.

Cant he say she stole the card too...hardly if outstanding character is she

My air con is set to 69 degrees (f), so no heat induced hysteria here at least.

It’s gross misconduct, ‘bloody staff discount code’ or not. That he’s management actually makes it worse, and he cannot seriously plead ignorance. He’s also done it repeatedly, which is something likely to be revealed in the course of the investigation. If he’s lucky he’ll ‘just’ receive a warning and have his privileges removed, but he is facing dismissal.

Same rules apply for everyone no matter what your position. There’s no company handbook for in store staff and another one for head office staff.

You’re assuming he’s shop floor. He might be tescos head of property or something.

Have you or do you know anyone who works/has worked in retail?

They take abuse of staff discount very seriously.

That’s not true, Tesco usually dismisses for this.

Oh corne on, I know it’s hot but the amount of absolute hysteria on this thread about a bloody staff discount card is ridiculous.

OP your DH is likely to get a disciplinary for letting his Brother use his card as it’s against the company policy, so long as he admits it was foolish and wrong and commits to not doing again he should get a warning and note on his file. He will not be immediately frogmarched out the building followed by Sister Olenna shouting SHAME , SHAME …

On a wider point, if people keep taking the piss with these perks, guess what happens? The perks get withdrawn. For everybody, pisstaker and non-pisstaker alike.

If it's Tesco he will lose his job. The additional card holder has to live at the same address. Letting someone else use your clubcard is dealt with as theft from the company.

If he hasn’t already done this, I would also do this. Say it was left out on the side at home and get a slap on wrist.

How bizarre that he is more annoyed at you for your reaction than BIL AND his bit on the side for her actions?!

LTB while he still has a job!!

I’d say she stole it.

I think she was using legal/illegal as a proxy for compliant, not to be dramatic. I don't imagine she thinks OP's DH is going to be thrown in jail.

“…..We report.”
Whose we @TheseWordsAreMine ?

While its awful she did this, I agree. Your Husband wont be losing his job for her theft, he would be losing it for misuse of his staff discount. That was occurring with or without the theft, he knew the rules and did it anyway.

The theft is not great but thats not what may lose him his job so you are focusing on the wrong thing, they cant fire him for someone else stealing. They would be getting rid of him for stealing, misuse of that discount is the same as theft, it wasnt intended to share around everyone and he would have been told the rules of use and as management he would be pretty clear on the rules.