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Hubbys job at risk because of family

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Pickybitsheatwave · 24/06/2026 23:11

DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

OP posts:
PuppyMonkey · 25/06/2026 07:34

We report

Grin

this has all gone a bit dystopian.

JustMyView13 · 25/06/2026 07:33

Crumpled86 · 25/06/2026 07:19

Whether he could trust his brother or not it doesn't matter. Handing over his own card will be considered misuse of the card and they take that sort of stuff seriously. He should have ordered another card. The only way around it I see is to say that the card was stolen or misplaced.

The only way around it is to further lie? Of course not, he has to come clean if he’s to leave with an ounce of dignity. When has compounding a lie ever improved a situation? Their first question will be - why didn’t you report it lost or stolen?

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:33

Blueberrybonanza · 25/06/2026 07:31

There is an anonymous protector (of the brand) phone line for Tesco so if ThesewordsRemine works for them it can be reported.
But it is an asshole move (see my post above)

I'm not saying it can't be reported.

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:32

Avie29 · 25/06/2026 07:31

You could plead ignorant and say you didn’t realise you couldn’t let family use your discount- Morrisons employees have a friends and family discount which i know you don’t have to be living with the employee to use, you could just say that you thought it was a similar thing?

There's is a similar thing with Tesco.

But they have to order a separate card for them.

Ops husband is a manager. It's highly unlikely he doesn't know this.

Blueberrybonanza · 25/06/2026 07:31

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:22

Oh I absolutely don't believe it. Who gets a reply within 20 minutes at 6.30am from a major retailer?

There is an anonymous protector (of the brand) phone line for Tesco so if ThesewordsRemine works for them it can be reported.
But it is an asshole move (see my post above)

Avie29 · 25/06/2026 07:31

You could plead ignorant and say you didn’t realise you couldn’t let family use your discount- Morrisons employees have a friends and family discount which i know you don’t have to be living with the employee to use, you could just say that you thought it was a similar thing?

Duvetdayforme · 25/06/2026 07:29

Your DH is a fool. Why didn’t he do things properly and order a card for his brother? Then he wouldn’t be at risk of losing his job even if SIL stole. The disciplinary matter here is the failure to follow the correct procedure.

Obviously SIL stealing is a criminal matter but that’s just how they found out what DH had done.

Blueberrybonanza · 25/06/2026 07:24

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:00

This post has made it public. We report.

Who is we? Do you get a staff plaudit or incentive - asshole of the month badge?

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:22

ToiletKaren · 25/06/2026 07:19

Thesewordsaremine has form for posting antagonistic stuff on all sorts of threads.
I wouldn't assume he/she is telling the truth about informing Tesco.

Oh I absolutely don't believe it. Who gets a reply within 20 minutes at 6.30am from a major retailer?

Dollymylove · 25/06/2026 07:21

tilypu · 25/06/2026 06:51

😂

I'm sure Head Office have someone monitoring their emails at 6.50am

It will be an auto reply

99bottlesofkombucha · 25/06/2026 07:20

Speakeasier · 25/06/2026 00:37

The thing is though by enabling his brother to use his card he’s conspiring to commit fraud/steal from the company he works for. How can he not see that? At the very least that has to be a final written warning but I’d imagine it’s gross misconduct and immediate dismissal. How on earth will he get another similar role without a reference?

Does your husband’s family have a tenuous grasp of ethics?

This

ToiletKaren · 25/06/2026 07:19

Thesewordsaremine has form for posting antagonistic stuff on all sorts of threads.
I wouldn't assume he/she is telling the truth about informing Tesco.

Newabodemode · 25/06/2026 07:19

Fixed the thread title for you OP

Hubbys job at risk because of family he breached his contract of employment/ cheated his employer.

Crumpled86 · 25/06/2026 07:19

Whether he could trust his brother or not it doesn't matter. Handing over his own card will be considered misuse of the card and they take that sort of stuff seriously. He should have ordered another card. The only way around it I see is to say that the card was stolen or misplaced.

Sassylovesbooks · 25/06/2026 07:17

If your husband gave his brother his own card, when he knew he should have ordered a separate one for him, then yes, I think he could be in the shit. He shouldn't have been allowing his brother to use the card, let alone anyone else. The fact his brother's partner has been stealing, whilst using the card, makes the entire situation worse.

Backedoffhackedoff · 25/06/2026 07:17

Checkout supervisor drunk on the power they don’t usually experience more like. What a loser

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:12

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:09

All transactions can be found.

This thread needs to be deleted.

Sure, all transactions can be found. Of course they can.

But they might need more than ops username in order to do so.

But of course - you asked for names. I'm sure op will very quickly be on the case to pass that info on to you 😂

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:09

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:08

It's just at well you did!

A) you have no idea who op is or where her husband works
B) Tesco are already aware that the card was misused

It's also quite remarkable that you got a reply in just twenty minutes, especially given that you reported at 6.30am!

Such a hero

All transactions can be found.

This thread needs to be deleted.

Dollymylove · 25/06/2026 07:08

I think you should ask for this thread.to be deleted OP

tilypu · 25/06/2026 07:08

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:00

This post has made it public. We report.

It's just at well you did!

A) you have no idea who op is or where her husband works
B) Tesco are already aware that the card was misused

It's also quite remarkable that you got a reply in just twenty minutes, especially given that you reported at 6.30am!

Such a hero

maidai78 · 25/06/2026 07:08

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:01

I have, email sent, reply recieved.

I would imagine this thread will be deleted long before office opening hours

Sherararara · 25/06/2026 07:04

FacingTheBack · 25/06/2026 06:57

It’s a bit of a plot hole, isn’t it? You could just scan one less item instead…

👍👍👍

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:04

McSpoot · 25/06/2026 07:03

Are you drunk?

You have no idea about retail. It's 2026.

Dollymylove · 25/06/2026 07:04

TheseWordsAreMine · 25/06/2026 07:00

This post has made it public. We report.

Ah ok. You work for Tesco

Ethelspagetti · 25/06/2026 07:04

I would deny all knowledge and say I’ve lost my card and cancel it. Then never lend the new one out.