AIBU for shouting after being locked out with my sick child?

That's all good! Sounds like you both care for each other very much. Don't worry about the shouting anymore. You had good reason and your DH understood immediately. He didn't leap to the defensive, he straight away saw that you were upset and how hard it had been for you and DS. Fine to have some residual anger, but I think you are both all good.

YANBU. You’re only human, you had to drive around with a sick child when the current weather is resembling an oven, I’d of absolutely blown up as well, probably more than you did!

What? 🤣🤣🤣🤣Don’t be so ridiculous

I agree. I would also be livid and would have lost my temper but you can’t go round shouting at you DP. And I’m not judging harshly (especially as you have said you apologised) as this is from someone who raised my voice at my wife (both women) the other week (didn’t scream at her but was deffo raising my voice in frustration) and even though I think she was in the wrong, the first thing I did was apologise for shouting as it’s never acceptable. Even if they’ve done something awful or stupid.

100% reasonable. I hope he was very very sorry.

Agree with this.

He was interviewing. Presumably he put the chain on the door to mitigate against anybody disturbing him in the interview process.

Hope you are feing ok.
When you get very angry and upset it leaves your immune system very exposed for several hours. Deep brrathing can help.
It also leaves me absolutely shattered.

Ignore them. You had a right to be raging. NOT because your partner was, apparently, wanking (WTF) but because he was thoughtless.

Hopefully he's learned his lesson.

'One of the few things that criminologists will agree on is birth-sex is the single most important determinant of whether a person will be prosecuted or convicted of a crime. Males account for 75 per cent of all convictions each year. They account for 93 per cent of all murder convictions and more than 99 per cent of all rape convictions.'

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I cannot believe the amount of poor women on this thread that think a locked door means their partner is "wanking".

Do better ladies and stop projecting.

It wasn’t a big deal?

Fucking hell what did you expect the OP and her poorly non-verbal child to do on the hottest day of the year?

Sit down on the pavement and wait patiently? Sit in the car idling with the aircon wasting fuel? The poor lad was probably extremely confused and distressed.

But it’s okay, us women just need to shut the fuck up and pull ourselves together when men are being thoughtless and selfish.

Sorry, this doesn't ring true. Forgetfulness doesn't make you go downstairs and put the chain on the door after your wife ans child have left the house. Forgetfulness would make you forget to put it on when they're in the house. Forgetfulness will make you forget to take it off after your partner has said they're coming home.
If I had a pound for every time an absolute saint of a man turned out to be a sociopath I'd have at least 5 pounds. He put that chain on to stop you seeing something. He probably does it every time you leave. I'd suggest give it a week or so, and come back and check the door next time you leave about 10 mins later. See if it's something he does a lot.

Another one. So many unhappy women on here.

How bad is your life that your mind goes there?

Also the fact he came down oblivious is astounding?! How???

I don’t agree. If it was a) not the hottest day of the year b) child had ordinary needs c) child has not vomited d) OP didn’t have mobility needs which meant having to scramble under a fence hurt her e) he hadn’t seen her message - sure, maybe it would be disproportionate. All of these factors means he is a total arse and honestly I would be raging enough to LTB