AIBU for shouting after being locked out with my sick child?

This is missing the point but I like your fence

This is the beauty of mumsnet. “ I have never had fence posts like yours.” Next door neighbour is always clambering over the fence, but if her daughter gets locked out we lift it & she crawls underneath.

I'd be furious. It's clear the well-being of you and your dc didn't cross his mind.

It's hard to understand because putting the chain on must have been a deliberate act?

Your initial response to me, a stranger, was to tell me that you and your husband both wank.

Yes, you a weirdo.

Not every person on this planet has your garden.

The fact that you think we do and that you share your intimate moments with strangers on the internet makes you weird.

Me, not getting a fence you need to CRAWL under to get to your garden, does not a weirdo make.

You are a complete weirdo.

I hope you didn’t scream at him in front of your child!

My DH would totally do the chain thing absentmindedly. He takes other people's sets of keys, he switches off the lights when I'm sitting in the room, he leaves his bank card in the ATM etc.

You were roasting hot, your child was sick, you snapped.

You are human, flawed.

I assumed this standard type of fence. The panels slit in and can be pushed up.

Maybe. I've only heard of it on here.

Not one person I know locks their garden gate. But then, no one I know locks their front and back doors when they're actually in the house. This isn't aimed at you, I can understand you need to lock yours.

My doors get locked last thing at night or if we're out (don't go to work now - both early retirers), then opened again first thing in the morning.

It was just the crawling under a fence to get to the back door I couldn't understand.

Thanks for the invite but it would probably be too long a journey to see a fence. Ours are just wooden fences and we have a standard garden gate that we don't lock.

OP do you have the chain for safeguarding your son ? If so I can see why he would put the chain on - you probably both do it without thinking, so it’s understandable that he maybe did it on autopilot. I hope that thought induces some level of shame in the posters insinuating he was wanking or worse.

If you’d like to come to my home I can show you a perfectly standard garden fence. Each wooden panel between two concrete posts with a cast concrete base. The wooden panel sits on top of the base and can be slid up and down. That’s how they put the fence panels in after erecting the posts and base. What is it about the concept that you find difficult

Utter bollocks. They have an autistic child, and that’s very likely the reason they have a chain on the door at all - it’s called safeguarding. He probably puts the chain on the door so often he’s on autopilot. I’d bet this was a reflex. Your post says a lot more about you than it does about OP. Or her DH.

I guess it's the heat that caused your shouting,
At least you know now to email in future
I still don't understand the chain, who was going to interrupt him, surely he could told you not to interrupt?

This is the kind of thing dh would do - get lost in work, put on do not disturb and fail to notice us trying to contact him.

The dc have worked out that Findmy overrides everything, so they put him on all our Findmy apps and we just ping his devices until he cops on.

Where do these gardens exist? This has really opened my eyes about what people call a garden.

Anyway.

Have a nice night.

I take it you don't have ND children? Or any children?

It's stressful to get a call from the school at the best of times but when you're worried your child has heat stroke and you can't get them safely out of the heat, that is scary.

I'm obviously very abusive because I often screamed and shouted and kicked the hoover. Sometimes when I was on a walk and no-one was around I would stand and scream. Because that's what raising ND children does to you. And I'm autistic myself which did not help.