to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

You’d be surprised tbh if you check out the relationships board on here…

I don’t have them on show! I hang socks and underwear on the smallest line, and then t shirts, tops, etc ok the outer lines. I have one of those washing lines you hang on the side of your house and it springs out!

TMI, but I am in sturdy M&S period pants at the moment, and it would be a whole different kind of discomfort to a different demographic if I hang those out to dry in public.

Hi there

I found the pregnancy hormones sent me quite peculiar and look back feeling really aghast at the way they made me feel, and the things they made me think, say and do.

These utterly plagued me following the birth of my first child too, and I became what I would consider (many years on) slightly unhinged, very frightened, very paranoid and overwhelmed.

So, these feelings are not really “yours”, they belong to the bloody hormones.

I am really sorry you are going through this particular wringer, but I think the hormones caused me to fixate on the strangest things. If it wasn’t your neighbour’s underwear on the line, it could be something even more off the wall.

I did find counselling really helpful when I finally got it- and I had it during and after my second pregnancy because I think that these crazy hormonally induced thoughts can sometimes be a prelude to post-partum depression. So I wish someone had said to me what I am saying to you now, back then.

Were I you, I’d look for some sort of counselling intervention right now.

FWIW it’ll be ok, eventually. These hormonally induced feelings/beliefs/paranoias will pass, but you need to take really good care of yourself and your mental health as long as you are being rocked by this hormonal onslaught.

Thoughts are with you and feel free to message me privately. Laughter can be a good antidote and I can share with you my own hormonally induced peculiarities which are funny (only retrospectively). ❤️

Honestly, who marries, and breeds with, a man dumb enough to be so easily led by a pair of frilly knickers…? 🙄 And why is it your neighbour’s responsibilty if he is? Get a bloody grip woman.

Absolutely not insecure, just not weird hun. Agree with pp, she 100% knows what she’s doing. It’s grim behaviour 😬

If this is serious, a pastoral chat with a GP or doula or chaplain really would be in order. Jealousy will also make a child's life miserable when there are children to 'compete with'.

You cant ask that of her !
If it bugs you so much hang one or two sheets on yours so you cant see them.

I mean, coveting one's neighbour's undies is exactly the kind of thing that eats away at the soul, no joke.

Temptresses sometimes turn into great saints..

It would be simpler if Hot Neighbour could be suspected of turning into a water serpent on Wednesdays, and then one could simply burn her at the stake.

This can’t be real!

You sound insane! You would give your neighbours the funniest anecdote if you made this request 😂

Tempted to hang my skimpy lingerie out to see if any neighbours make a comment 🤭

The reason I clicked on this thread was that I had just walked past my neighbour's washing line and thought how cheerful her pretty sheets looked, and wondered if I should make more use of my washing line.

I thought someone would have hung something outrageous to dry like a giant striped marquee blocking everyone's light, or something unusual like ritual witchcraft robes.

Maybe I should have envied my neighbour her Sex Sheets.

I feel sorry for you that you’re that jealous 😔 I used to be the same and it’d taken me a long time to become more secure in myself. I’m surprised you told DH as you’ve now just brought it to his attention! If you trust him and don’t want to cause issues you need to work on this. Hormones make you act irrationally.
PLEASE DONT SEND A NOTE! She will think you’re crazy and it will cause an issue that doesn’t exist.

You need some CBT therapy to work on your trust and jealousy issues.

Given that husbands and fathers commit child sexual abuse at a far higher rate than clergy, perhaps the hot neighbour only has a chance with seducing wives.

Just sending you a massive hug. Pregnancy is so bloody tough. Is your husband still giving you reassurance that he fancies you / thinks you’re beautiful and so on? I’d chat to him about how insecure you’re feeling as that sounds like the root of the issue. But you definitely can’t ask your neighbour to bring her pants inside!

How would you feel if she wrote you a note saying “ don’t hang up baby clothes on the line as my husband might leave me for someone who can give him a baby.”?????

perhaps never writing notes to a neighbour would be a good start

Is everybody missing the bit where Op is wearing maternity bras? It's very possible she's pregnant or just had a baby and is feeling very vulnerable.please be kind

I would personally just put up 6ft fences and just mention it in passing, that your looking at putting climbing plants up which will need bigger fences. Mine was a new build with middle height fences, got 6 footers now. Mine is are actually now covered in climbers 😊 and looks beautiful x

Seriously, schoolkids are not on Mumsnet! This tedious 'have the schools broken up yet' line is just so tired and boring and was never funny.

Do you mean to tell her you're afraid her undies will cause Dh to fancy her? Please don't do this, you will embarass everybody concerned and risk causing a fall out with your neighbours. Do you think you might have pnd and anxiety, I'm suggesting this kindly because it can cause your thoughts to spiral.

You’re more batshit than op.
Myob is my advice.

My dm always comments on my knickers and how they can’t be covering much, It’s so annoying.

Are you serious!?

This is an atrocious idea.

Why do you think it’s acceptable for an old man to potentially go and try make a younger woman feel uncomfortable and ashamed in her own home?

And even if an old man did make a comment about the OP’s neighbour washing line, it will be his pathetic issue to get over, not the neighbours.

You should look up Hotmilk nursing bras. They are made for maternity, breastfeeding and then after weaning and they are actually pretty. The flawless one is very sexy and also incredibly comfortable to wear. Wish I had discovered them with my eldest!

Up your game. I wore VS when breastfeeding. Not in the early days, but later on when ds was a few months.

Line dried washing is one of life's simple pleasures for me.
Your neighbour actually sounds pretty awful (unless your washing line is full of Ann Summers specials enticing helpless husbands away from their loving families like the pied piper of kinky laundry of course!)