to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

Same here, though clearly that's an unpopular opinion as the majority of people like to string up their skimpies up like they're Tibetan prayer flags!

Not me. No nay never. When I was a teen, a perve went around the neighbourhood stealing women's knickers off their lines. One day he saw a nurse hanging out her laundry, sneaked into her house through the open back door, hid for hours, then raped her in a long drawn-out ordeal. He later went on to kill another woman who tried to fight him off.

A retractable line in the bathroom, a Poundland multi-peg hanger with undies on the inner pegs and socks 'doing the Buffalo Girl' (around the outside). Unnecessary to flash the skimpies stash, unwise and so easy to avoid.

Yes she is and feeling emotional and lacking in confidence.

Aww OP I remember the pregnancy hormones. Please don't worry about your lovely husband and ignore the underwear outside, shes not doing it on purpose, it's just hot outside so people have their laundry out.

He won't leave you just because he's seen some pants on a washing line and she's not trying to entice your husband like the plot of an old 70s sitcom.

Stay safe in the heat lovely and take care. Please ignore the vipers (most probably haven't clocked you're expecting) Congratulations on your pregnancy. Xx

Why on earth are your issues her problem? If thia is genuine you need help

My next door neighbour did this when she was actively seeking a man but she was 60 at the time. All sorts of colours in matching sets duly positioned right where our vertical blinds were facing in the upstairs landing window. Nothing else on the line just these massive bra & pants - we howled with laughing, I think they were there for my other half to see 😂 she just made a fool of herself.

She got a new fella 3 years ago & we haven't seen her undies on the line since - thank god.

At different stages of your life you will be hit with unwanted emotions that can send you spiralling, this is just one example - you're probably not feeling 100% at the moment and her underwear is a perfect example of how cruel our emotions can be in reaction.

Years ago I used to wear skimpy undies & I pegged them out on the line - my O/H said one day 'xxxxx next door will have a heart attack if he sees them' & I just didn't get it - why would my undies cause him grief 🤷‍♀️ 10 years later I get it - people have washing line phobia & your neighbour is probably innocently just drying her undies.

🙄 oh no this sounds terrible. A terrible and almost unbelievable scenario. Have you considered asking AI for help with this rather unusual situation?

Maybe repost on the Becoming a Parent board and ask for tips on pregnancy and mental health and self esteem? And report this post so it is taken down @Lookingback01

I hope all will go well for you.

In my youth I was that neighbour...and my husband was cheating ON me. But some women were horrible too. All very upsetting. I stayed faithful (and never had any neighbour make eyes at me over the laundry line).

Do seek support 💐

Its your hormones i was batshit when I was pregnant to 🤣🤣

MCF86
I was expecting a tongue in cheek ending...

That's just what the OP is worried her DH is thinking about.

That’s crackers love! Never consider it again. She should be able to peg a gimp suit out if she wishes. So glad you didn’t act on that thought. You’re going to scare your husband away with that behaviour. Hormones really are wild! Hope you feel better about things soon.x

This sounds fully hormonal to me or very very young.
I’m guessing you’re not normally like this and you’re perhaps also finding your body shape changes a challenge, especially when people are wearing less. Don’t give yourself a hard time about it and whatever you do please don’t tell your neighbour, you will be mortified when you settle down a bit and a lot of neighbours would respond by taking things further, I’m sure I would, just for fun, and it will just wind you up even more

Ha ha I hope this is a joke and I can't believe I'm responding but if it isn't a joke please don't speak / write a note to her that won't go well.

Can you change the fence to allow more privacy on both sides or maybe grow some plants to block the view. Trellis and a climber?

This is a joke yeah?

you would be ok living next door to me, big black pants folded in half to make them look smaller,it doesnt work lol they are still big,

Have you lost your fucking mind?

He probably does fancy her tbf
Hope this helps

This is not an AIBU type thing. You should be asking “am I losing my mind?”

Eta: and I genuinely mean this.

Seriously, yes.

Deer, alpacas, badgers, foxes, and Black Shuck are all beautiful.

Yes

HTH

Yes you’re being ridiculous. If you husband wants an affair, it won’t be seeing her underwear that’ll tip him over the edge. He’ll do it anyway.

Why rude? I just mean she wouldn’t have neighbours. I’m rural FGS.

Not RTFT but I'd have thought in all this heat, delicate undies would be better shade-dried.

I sympathise - hormones can make you believe crazy things but definitely don’t do this!