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to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

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Lookingback01 · 24/06/2026 15:33

I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

OP posts:
NearlyNewNonny · 24/06/2026 16:02

Don't be ridiculous.

Feetballislife · 24/06/2026 16:02

You’d be better off focussing on your MH and doing things that make you feel good about yourself.

MrsShawnHatosy · 24/06/2026 16:02

No of course you can’t do this. Your response to her underwear hanging on her line is not her problem.

Stressmummy12 · 24/06/2026 16:01

No you can’t it’s her garden and her washing.

EmailsaysOOO · 24/06/2026 16:01

No. You have no say over your neighbour's washing line.

Henbags · 24/06/2026 16:01

You sound insane! But crack on! 🍿

shhblackbag · 24/06/2026 16:01

You need to get over yourself. Your neighbour is going to think that you're very weird in your house.

Scaryspicer · 24/06/2026 16:00

This is either AI for engagement, or it’s a weird troll. No way is this remotely real.

catch yourself on hen! He's probably already shagging her anyway so don’t worry

Very Funny Lol GIF
notanothernamesurely · 24/06/2026 15:59

You talk about maternity bras - how old is your little one? It sounds like something much bigger is going on here if you are crying over someone drying their underwear.

Hatty65 · 24/06/2026 15:59

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

You'll be lucky if he doesn't move out entirely if you send this note. NOTHING says crazy future ex-wife bunny boiler than this type of insanity.

ThisSillyPoet · 24/06/2026 15:58

Please don’t do it. She’s entitled to put her washing on her own line in her own garden. It isn’t about you.

Peterdottir · 24/06/2026 15:58

OMG YABSU! This will be so embarrassing. Please don't do it!

Coconutter24 · 24/06/2026 15:58

Are you usually a jealous person pre pregnancy? Sitting crying all afternoon because you’re imagining your DH developing a crush on your neighbour after seeing her knickers on the line is pretty extreme

drunkelephant83 · 24/06/2026 15:57

Also, you don’t have to sit in big black pants because you’re pregnant. I get it comfort.

but you could still wear nice underwear.. I don’t think I wore big pants until after the birth.

Paganpentacle · 24/06/2026 15:57

QueenSmartypants · 24/06/2026 15:50

Is it so dreadfully mumsnet to say that I'd never dream of hanging my lingerie to dry outside? 😂

Is anyone actually looking?

Sartre · 24/06/2026 15:57

Unless your DH is some sort of weird desperado I can guarantee he is not wanking over the pants on your neighbour’s washing line.

nonomo · 24/06/2026 15:56

You definitely can’t write her a letter. It’s not her fault that you’re jealous, and she will likely think you’re absolutely nuts.

It probably is just your hormones, & also perhaps you feel like you’re not attractive during pregnancy or something?

Stepmum900 · 24/06/2026 15:56

It’s not often I see a 100% YABU vote but today that is it.

ThatCyanCat · 24/06/2026 15:56

I'm sure I've read this before and it was ridiculous then too.

SweetnsourNZ · 24/06/2026 15:56

If this isn't a wind up I think you may need some help. Feeling a bit jealous and irritated could be considered normal hormones but crying and carrying on like you are doing sounds more like postnatal depression

goingtotown · 24/06/2026 15:54

Are you bored OP?

StarPyjamas · 24/06/2026 15:54

drunkelephant83 · 24/06/2026 15:49

Please tell us you are rage baiting? This has to be on par with the ‘my husband was flirting with someone on tv’.

If this is real this is a YOU problem, not your neighbours not your husbands.

This has to be on par with the ‘my husband was flirting with someone on tv’.

Ahh yes, well spotted!

BillieWiper · 24/06/2026 15:53

Why the hell does it matter if she's 'toned/slim'?! Stop caring about other people's bodies and clothing.

No of course you shouldn't tell her to bring her laundry in. Unless it's on a communal washing line that you need to use.

MrsVBS · 24/06/2026 15:53

You sound unhinged, if I was her and you asked me that I would think you were crazy and ignore you.

Tableforjoan · 24/06/2026 15:52

QueenSmartypants · 24/06/2026 15:50

Is it so dreadfully mumsnet to say that I'd never dream of hanging my lingerie to dry outside? 😂

How are the neighbour husbands meant to know your fit to fuck otherwise 😉🤣