to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

This is off the scale bat shit mentality.

Do you let your DH walk through the lingerie section of M&S? Or are you worried he’s going to start humping the size 8 mannequin with perky tits?

You can't help how you feel, but you can't ask her to take her underwear in because you'll end up looking like 'the crazy, possessive wife next door'. You could buy your own sexy underwear to wear, wash, and hang in your own garden!

Thank you for a wonderful post from a male voice of reason that will surely help the OP.

Haha that’s brilliant! Or should I say, frilliant 😁

Rightio.

🤣 Diabolical you are!

I am aware that I was rather irrational at times when I had DD1 but this really is bananas.

If it was the other way round and your DH was so consumed with thoughts of you shagging your male neighbour that he was crying with jealousy then people on here would be calling him abusive and begging you to leave.

I'm not surprised your DH said he'd go to his mum's if you sent a note. I would die of embarrassment in his shoes too!

YABU on so many levels, sorry.
I know you’re feeling vulnerable but I fully clicked on this expecting this washing to be obstructing you in some way but this must be the most unhinged post of the day.

This!

YABU, OP! You are reducing women (us) to visually appealing commodities like a nice handbag or pair of shoes and not factoring in any of the other aspects that go towards the formation of relationships and mutual attraction.

So she’s objectively good looking. While he might, just like you, find her visually attractive that does not mean he will feel attracted - that’s totally different! The aesthetic “beauty” scale exists and we’re all on it somewhere (you know symmetry, “easy on the eye”, and all that), but the dynamics of human attraction operate outside of it.

Calm down - just because your neighbour is high on the aesthetic scale, doesn’t mean she’ll be high on the dynamic one when it comes to your husband! 💖

Buy yourself some nice knickers

I wouldn't want neighbours to see my underwear, so I get where you're coming from

But you can't ask her to bring hers in

Sorry hormones are messing with your head

I would put up a higher fence between you.

I'd like to think this is a temporary insanity brought on by pregnancy hormones.

No, OP, don't do anything. For the love of God.

Have a cold drink and a lie-down.

In other words, worn by someone who doesn’t wipe their arse.

Oh ffs she can hang wtf she wants out.😂😂😂

An undergarment worn to cover the genital and anal areas of the body. Sometimes known as pants, knickers or grundies.

"Skidders" might sometimes refer more specifically to the above described undergarment if it has been, or regularly is besmirched by "skidmarks", "scooter tracks", "go-faster stripes" or "brown bruising".

It's your pregnancy hormones. I've blown things up during pregnancy before that we laugh about now!

Oh my love I think it’s the pregnancy hormones making you feel like this. Hopefully your DH can reassure you that he finds you very attractive as you are! But I’d try to contain your crazy jealous thoughts and not share with him going forwards as you do risk pushing him away. Highly recommend hot milk for practical supportive and attractive nursing bras.

I read the three pages hoping no-one else had made the point that I wanted to make, but you have @Butchyrestingface 😭 Anyway, you made your point nice and succinctly, and anyone who recognises my user name will know that I would much rather spend an hour (or more) writing a not nice and long response to whoever the OP of any particular thread might be!

So, here is the version I hoped to get in before anyone else had a chance 😉

@Lookingback01 I am so sorry that you are going through such a rotten time at the moment, but may I suggest another side to the one that has made you so unhappy?

What if your attractive next door neighbour desperately wants to have a baby, and that she and her partner have already gone through two attempts at IVF, but have had no luck so far? Your maternity clothes - not even necessarily your underwear - hanging there on your washing line for hours at a time, might cause her a lot of painful feelings, but hopefully she would be sensible enough to realise that it would be totally unfair of her to ask you to not hang your clothes on the line just because seeing them, triggers her every single time?

If you are reading this OP, please don't reply here that it wouldn't bother you if your neighbour asked you to not hang your maternity clothes on the line, as you would understand her problem and would, therefore, be happy you could help her to feel better. Why I am asking you to not reply with such a response is because that is not the point I am trying to explain! You wanting to ask your neighbour to not put her unies on the line would be extremely embarrassing for her, very unfair, and totally inappropriate. I'm sorry for being so brutal OP! I do hope that your hormones, and this oppressive heat, settle down soon, and that you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy 🩷 xxx

Jesus Christ. Absolutely DO NOT ask her not to hang her undies on her washing line.

Please get this in perspective. You need to reassure yourself. Is your self esteem really low? Are you insecure. These are the issues that need dealing with. Not the neighbours knickers. Or as you say it’s hormones. But. Remember. Hormones take the lid off things and allow the truth to come up. So maybe you’ve been suppressing insecurities? 💜

Are you the same women that thought her husband was flirting with the women on TV the other day? 🤔

Aside from being a batshit thing to post, 9/10 the DH of women who are this insecure look like they’ve just trotted out from under a bridge and are not, in fact, cat nip to every woman around them.

Thank god in this case the DH seems to have his head screwed on despite the fact his partner has such a low opinion of him.

What on earth are skidders?