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To think this stance is hypocritical?

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SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 12:22

This is in relation to one particular individual, although I am also aware of it as a broader thing.

Not so long ago I had an interaction with a FB acquaintance in which he stated, among other things - "I intend to do harm to the occult community." As an occultist myself, I am part of this community, and naturally don't like the idea of people actively trying to harm it/us. So I questioned him about his attitude.

(NB - he is not religious, he is a completely secular philosophical materialist, who disdains everything mystical or spiritual. That in itself is not an issue - people are entitled to personal opinions and personal disdain - but when people actively say they want to cause harm to myself and my community, that is a different thing entirely.)

Where I think he is hypocritical is in the fact that he is a champion of diversity, equal rights and minority rights. He himself is an ethnic minority where he lives and speaks out about prejudice and hatred towards racial minorities, LGBT, etc.

If someone is genuinely committed to diversity, then surely that diversity should encompass everyone? Every group/community?

A world without occultists is a LESS diverse world. Advocating for the (at best) marginalisation (or at worst, elimination) of occultists is in direct conflict with the values that he appears to hold.

I don't see how someone who champions diversity can desire to do harm to the occult community, and promote its marginalisation, without being hypocritical.

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VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 24/06/2026 16:39

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:37

@Swiftie1878

No idea - but even if he weren't actually to act on it, it's still upsetting to have it said to me, just as it's upsetting for other minorities to have people saying horrible things about them.

Oh for gods sake, you're not a "minority", any more than a kid who believes in Father Christmas is.

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:37

Swiftie1878 · 24/06/2026 16:36

And how would he cause that harm?
I suspect you are being overly-dramatic about this. People talk shit all the time.

@Swiftie1878

No idea - but even if he weren't actually to act on it, it's still upsetting to have it said to me, just as it's upsetting for other minorities to have people saying horrible things about them.

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Swiftie1878 · 24/06/2026 16:36

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:26

@takealettermsjones

I don't have their number. It's a friend from an internet message board I had very recently at that time got back in touch with and we only communicate by email (I did email them my own mobile number, but have left it up to them whether or not they want to reciprocate.)

I could have emailed them again to try to prompt a response, but I was worried about coming across to them as needy and obsessive, which is why I thought that assistance from Mercury would help. (I didn't get him out of bed, either.)

I'm wondering how you feel occultists are being marginalised though

I don't think that occultists are being marginalised as a general matter of course, but there are people who advocate for that to happen (i.e. they call for it to be banned.) And the individual I am speaking of literally said to me "I intend to do harm to the occult community". So taking him at his word, I would say it is very likely that he would call for the marginalisation of occultists, and he certainly wishes to cause harm to us.

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And how would he cause that harm?
I suspect you are being overly-dramatic about this. People talk shit all the time.

Paganpentacle · 24/06/2026 16:32

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 16:23

Common sense. Evidence. Science.

If you say so....

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:32

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 16:23

Common sense. Evidence. Science.

@CurlewKate

I personally give weight to John Beckett's words on the matter, from his blog post 'Facts and Reason in Paganism'

Facts And Reason In Paganism – Avoiding Materialist Assumptions | John Beckett

"Materialist assumptions are assumptions, not facts.

Materialism is not consumerism. Materialism is the philosophical assumption that all that exists is matter and the products of its interactions. It reduces human experiences of love and beauty to the interactions of brain chemistry. It assumes that Gods and spirits not only do not exist, they cannot exist.

Some scientists believe that quantum physics disproves materialism. I’m not sure it does, and in any case I’m very uncomfortable invoking quantum physics to “prove” anything. As a field of science, it’s still in its infancy. But whether it does or it doesn’t, materialism remains an assumption of science (or rather, of many scientists), not a finding of science.

So when someone says “there’s no way magic could work” what they’re really saying is “there’s no way magic could work in a materialist universe.” Magic could work by the intercession of Gods and spirits, but materialism refuses to consider that possibility. It says there is no evidence, but it excludes non-material evidence. All the times magic does work are dismissed as coincidences and confirmation bias, because the evidence points toward conclusions that invalidate their materialist assumptions and they refuse to question them.

That isn’t science – it’s claiming science proves something when it doesn’t.
Materialism need not lead to nihilism. Naturalists, humanists, and other non-theists take the assumptions of materialism and say “yes, and life is still beautiful and meaningful.” That’s a valid spiritual path, and for some, the only spiritual path they can embrace with integrity. But like all religious and philosophical paths it’s based on foundational assumptions that are ultimately unprovable."

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MrsShawnHatosy · 24/06/2026 16:28

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 14:43

@chirrupybird

I believe that some of my sigil magic has been successful.

I also did a ritual to evoke and communicate with Mercury (a deity associated with communication) to request that he influence/cause a friend to contact me quickly. Considering I received an email from that very individual not long afterwards, I consider that to be successful.

More likely a coincidence.

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:28

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 16:23

Common sense. Evidence. Science.

@CurlewKate

As far as I'm aware, science does not say that magic/occultism is not true.

Philosophical materialism is not the same thing as "science." Materialism is an opinion, not a finding of science.

Science may not currently provide support for occultism, but that's entirely different to saying that occultism isn't real/true.

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CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 16:23

Paganpentacle · 24/06/2026 16:07

Who says its not true?

Common sense. Evidence. Science.

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:08

Blimms · 24/06/2026 16:06

No, I fall into the category of someone who believes in science.

You can call me ‘prejudiced’ if you like in an attempt to shut me down . I have little respect for anyone who is anti science such as those who believe the earth is flat. I put the idea that a person can perform magic into the same category.

@Blimms

I am not attempting to shut you down. You are free to say what you like. I am simply saying that I view it as prejudice.

Occultists are not anti-science at all; the majority uphold science. Not sure why you are conflating 'anti-science' with occultism, it doesn't reflect the mainstream of occultists at all.

I am certainly not anti-science in any way. I accept current scientific knowledge as accurate (evolution, for example.)

I simply believe in additional things.

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Paganpentacle · 24/06/2026 16:07

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 15:35

Believing in things that aren’t true and encouraging others to believe in things that aren’t true is objectively bad for individuals and society.

Who says its not true?

Blimms · 24/06/2026 16:06

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:46

@Blimms

Well, you don't need to approve of what I do, but if you take a negative attitude to all occultists as people - simply because we think and act differently to you - then I would say that falls into the realm of prejudice.

No, I fall into the category of someone who believes in science.

You can call me ‘prejudiced’ if you like in an attempt to shut me down . I have little respect for anyone who is anti science such as those who believe the earth is flat. I put the idea that a person can perform magic into the same category.

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:04

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 24/06/2026 15:55

I mean, I think everyone who voted for Trump is a bloody idiot, is that prejudice?

Same with people who enjoy watching cricket. (Absolute weirdos)

Same with people who believe in magic, or religion, or a cult, or most conspiracy theories. Anyone who chooses to ignore reality basically.

I don't wish them ill or harm. I'm not averse to a little light bullying though (especially those cricket freaks)

I mean, I think everyone who voted for Trump is a bloody idiot, is that prejudice?

I loathe Trump, but having a negative view of every single individual who voted for him (without knowing them personally) would probably count as prejudice, as the term is generally defined. It could be seen (depending on one's view) as a more understandable or even justified (to a degree) prejudice, but it would probably count as prejudice.

I personally don't think that having a negative view of all occultists simply because we are occultists is a justified prejudice. We think and behave differently to you; that doesn't make us uniformly bad people. I presume that you have not spent a high amount of time amongst occultists, but I like to think that if you ever got to know any significantly well, you'd perhaps rather like them?

I don't think it's accurate to say that occultists are "ignoring reality", per se. We have experiences, experiences that lead us to believe that such things are real. We are not ignoring other aspects of the real world, we're just adding to it, if anything. I think that occultists deserve to be treated with respect, just as anyone does.

I don't wish them ill or harm. I'm not averse to a little light bullying though

The individual I am speaking of certainly does wish us harm.

And if you actively engage in bullying people, that is causing harm. It's disappointing that you think bullying is ever acceptable - it's cruel behaviour and it hurts people who don't deserve it.

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ChequerToRed · 24/06/2026 16:02

cordeliavorkosigan · 24/06/2026 15:40

There is a pattern in those who are vocal about diversity -- they seem to want everyone to look different and have different identities, but think the same. Exactly the same. It misses the point of diversity having advantages, but there we are.

Yes, and they very often seem to have their own little unexamined petty bigotries and hypocrisies bubbling under the surface, all while projecting an image that they are Good (better) People who are Correct In All Things. Theres often a big ego there as well. I give them the same side eye as ardent Faragists.

Sploon · 24/06/2026 16:01

It seems like occultism is directly at odds with science, which I find problematic. I think exactly the same about religion. I wouldn't necessarily describe myself as tolerant of all diversity though - I don't ever voice my opinion on religion because it isn't kind to, but I have thought quite hard about it and don't support something I think is inherently problematic.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 24/06/2026 15:55

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:46

@Blimms

Well, you don't need to approve of what I do, but if you take a negative attitude to all occultists as people - simply because we think and act differently to you - then I would say that falls into the realm of prejudice.

I mean, I think everyone who voted for Trump is a bloody idiot, is that prejudice?

Same with people who enjoy watching cricket. (Absolute weirdos)

Same with people who believe in magic, or religion, or a cult, or most conspiracy theories. Anyone who chooses to ignore reality basically.

I don't wish them ill or harm. I'm not averse to a little light bullying though (especially those cricket freaks)

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:50

CypressGrove · 24/06/2026 15:49

Why on earth are you giving any energy to what some random guy on Facebook said. He sounds like a garden variety idiot with too much time on his hands mouthing off on social media.

@CypressGrove

Because people who try to harm us are a threat, or at least a potential threat.

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CypressGrove · 24/06/2026 15:49

Why on earth are you giving any energy to what some random guy on Facebook said. He sounds like a garden variety idiot with too much time on his hands mouthing off on social media.

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:49

Locutus2000 · 24/06/2026 15:45

Is this a recruitment ad? You have said the word 'occultist' eighty-odd times ITT and six times in one post, it doesn't read right.

@Locutus2000

No, I'm not attempting to recruit people to occultism. It is simply a descriptor of myself and fellow members of my community and thus an appropriate word to use when referring to ourselves. A thread about LGBT people would naturally include the term 'LGBT' a lot.

Some people have said that they don't know much about occultists or expressed curiosity about us, so I've used it more in posts explaining who we are and what we encompass.

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SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:46

Blimms · 24/06/2026 15:42

That’s in the realm of science fiction then. I am a tolerate person, but only of those things that are grounded in some kind of reality.

@Blimms

Well, you don't need to approve of what I do, but if you take a negative attitude to all occultists as people - simply because we think and act differently to you - then I would say that falls into the realm of prejudice.

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Locutus2000 · 24/06/2026 15:45

Is this a recruitment ad? You have said the word 'occultist' eighty-odd times ITT and six times in one post, it doesn't read right.

Blimms · 24/06/2026 15:42

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:33

@Blimms

Yes, sometimes.

That’s in the realm of science fiction then. I am a tolerate person, but only of those things that are grounded in some kind of reality.

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 15:40

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 15:35

Believing in things that aren’t true and encouraging others to believe in things that aren’t true is objectively bad for individuals and society.

@CurlewKate

Well, that's not really the main point of this thread, which is to put the case that wanting to cause harm to occultists comes across as hypocritical in light of their inclusiveness of others.

But as occultists, we naturally don't agree that the things we believe in are not true.

We are also not encouraging others to believe as we do. Occultists don't go out proselytising and trying to persuade others to think the same. If someone is interested and wants to take part, we'll happily accept them, but we don't go out trying to convert non-occultists.

We won't necessarily hide who we are (no one should be expected to do that) but we don't actively encourage non-occultists to share our beliefs.

So I don't think that occultists can be reasonably said to be bad for "society". We are such a tiny minority, and we don't attempt to influence how others think - we really don't have the numbers or influence in order to impact society in any meaningful way.

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cordeliavorkosigan · 24/06/2026 15:40

There is a pattern in those who are vocal about diversity -- they seem to want everyone to look different and have different identities, but think the same. Exactly the same. It misses the point of diversity having advantages, but there we are.

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 15:36

However saying you “intend to do harm to others” is unacceptable.

CurlewKate · 24/06/2026 15:35

Believing in things that aren’t true and encouraging others to believe in things that aren’t true is objectively bad for individuals and society.