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To think this stance is hypocritical?

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SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 12:22

This is in relation to one particular individual, although I am also aware of it as a broader thing.

Not so long ago I had an interaction with a FB acquaintance in which he stated, among other things - "I intend to do harm to the occult community." As an occultist myself, I am part of this community, and naturally don't like the idea of people actively trying to harm it/us. So I questioned him about his attitude.

(NB - he is not religious, he is a completely secular philosophical materialist, who disdains everything mystical or spiritual. That in itself is not an issue - people are entitled to personal opinions and personal disdain - but when people actively say they want to cause harm to myself and my community, that is a different thing entirely.)

Where I think he is hypocritical is in the fact that he is a champion of diversity, equal rights and minority rights. He himself is an ethnic minority where he lives and speaks out about prejudice and hatred towards racial minorities, LGBT, etc.

If someone is genuinely committed to diversity, then surely that diversity should encompass everyone? Every group/community?

A world without occultists is a LESS diverse world. Advocating for the (at best) marginalisation (or at worst, elimination) of occultists is in direct conflict with the values that he appears to hold.

I don't see how someone who champions diversity can desire to do harm to the occult community, and promote its marginalisation, without being hypocritical.

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SorcererGaheris · 26/06/2026 10:46

CombatBarbie · 26/06/2026 03:48

An astrologer?? Really??

Anyway I am getting scientology vibes all over again.

@CombatBarbie

Is that surprising? People practice astrology as a hobby, and for some people it's their full-time job.

Some forms of magic include astrological elements (not all.)

Occultism is a very different kettle of fish to scientology. For one thing, scientology is a religion. Occultism is not a religion, it is a set of multiple diverse practices and there is no moral code that all occultists are demanded to abide by. Occultists choose their moral code themselves.

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CombatBarbie · 26/06/2026 03:48

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 19:28

@Mingou

Not with everyone. There are examples of people calling for the practice of occultism to be illegal. I don't know whether that is a common or mainstream position, but it definitely exists.

A professional astrologer I know of got received death threats on Twitter some years back.

An astrologer?? Really??

Anyway I am getting scientology vibes all over again.

FruitFlyPie · 26/06/2026 01:12

He sounds stupid but for me this falls in to the category of "someone is wrong on the internet".

SorcererGaheris · 26/06/2026 00:35

Mingou · 26/06/2026 00:26

Your complete lack of insight into your own hypocrisy is really something

@Mingou

Can you explain to me what is hypocritical about my own stance?

I do not understand what you are seeing here.

Being hypocritical would be engaging in a behaviour (or viewpoint) which I have criticised or condemned in others.

I have criticised and condemned bigotry against occultists as an entire group.

I have not displayed bigotry against any other entire group myself, though I have been critical of the viewpoints of specific individuals.

I have criticised a person's desire to cause harm to all occultists collectively.

I have not expressed a desire myself to harm any other group collectively, nor have I said it is okay to do so.

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SorcererGaheris · 26/06/2026 00:29

Mingou · 26/06/2026 00:20

In what way? It is a hobby. It's something she does in her spare time which unlike many hobbies produces nothing useful.

@Mingou

Produces nothing useful? I suppose that depends on how you define "useful", but I can say for one thing that meditation practice (a fundamental element of many forms of occultism) helps relax me and helps focus the mind.

There are scientific studies that show the benefits of meditation - it can improve memory, for one thing.

Mind Masters: Tibetan Yogis Have Upgraded Their Brains Through Meditation

The above article explains a study done upon Tibetan yogis and the effect that their exceptionally long time spent in meditation has had on their minds.

I also find many occult practices to be very enjoyable. (As a hedonist, for me, one of the most important things is experiencing pleasure.)

I would say that the fact that occult practices bring me pleasure is something useful (to me), as enjoyment in life is a positive thing.

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Mingou · 26/06/2026 00:26

Your complete lack of insight into your own hypocrisy is really something

SorcererGaheris · 26/06/2026 00:22

Mingou · 26/06/2026 00:19

How is that any different from occultists putting hexs on people? It's not is it?

@Mingou

Of course it's not. I never said it was. Again, I have never denied that some individual occultists use magic that is intended to cause some kind of harm.

If someone is bothered by that, then calling out those specific individuals is fair and reasonable. But to wish to harm all occultists is cruel and unreasonable, because many occultists are not guilty of engaging in harmful practices.

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Mingou · 26/06/2026 00:20

maxslice · 25/06/2026 23:44

I think calling OP’s beliefs a “hobby” is dismissive and disrespectful. I don’t share her beliefs, but I think that’s rude.

In what way? It is a hobby. It's something she does in her spare time which unlike many hobbies produces nothing useful.

Mingou · 26/06/2026 00:19

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 19:28

@Mingou

Not with everyone. There are examples of people calling for the practice of occultism to be illegal. I don't know whether that is a common or mainstream position, but it definitely exists.

A professional astrologer I know of got received death threats on Twitter some years back.

How is that any different from occultists putting hexs on people? It's not is it?

SorcererGaheris · 26/06/2026 00:15

maxslice · 25/06/2026 23:44

I think calling OP’s beliefs a “hobby” is dismissive and disrespectful. I don’t share her beliefs, but I think that’s rude.

@maxslice

I appreciate the support, but I'm actually okay with them being called a hobby. I do find many of the associated practices enjoyable, and at the moment I don't earn money from occultism, so it's something I pursue in my free time (I do have a vague dream of perhaps being some kind of professional occultist in the future, but I'm not actively pursuing that right now.)

But your understanding is fully appreciated, thank you. 😊

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maxslice · 25/06/2026 23:44

I think calling OP’s beliefs a “hobby” is dismissive and disrespectful. I don’t share her beliefs, but I think that’s rude.

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 19:28

Mingou · 25/06/2026 17:29

I think you're severely overestimating how much anyone cares about your hobby.

@Mingou

Not with everyone. There are examples of people calling for the practice of occultism to be illegal. I don't know whether that is a common or mainstream position, but it definitely exists.

A professional astrologer I know of got received death threats on Twitter some years back.

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Mingou · 25/06/2026 17:29

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 15:55

@Swiftie1878

Normally I do, but it can pay to be aware of currents of prejudice, especially when I see people calling for occultism (as well as paganism) to be made illegal. I am opposed to such human rights violations and feel even more strongly about it when/if it can affect me.

I think you're severely overestimating how much anyone cares about your hobby.

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 16:31

Jane143 · 25/06/2026 16:17

Surely if you just get on with it and do your stuff in private no one will know or care? Or are you putting it out there on a chat group or something? I don’t understand why you’re worried what a random man (that you’ve already blocked) thinks? I personally don’t believe in it anyway but if I get a curse on me now I’ll know who to blame! ( joking by the way before you take me seriously) all the best

@Jane143

It's not like I go around advertising it, but if I'm asked (or if the subject of religion/spirituality comes up in discussion) then I am usually open about what I am and what I do.

I believe that visibility of occultists, as well as pagan polytheists, can be helpful in combatting prejudice, as it potentially allows people to see that we are for the most part, regular folks like them, getting on with their lives. The downside is that being open and honest about who we are can get us bullied/verbally abused/discriminated against.

It's not so much about the single comment; it's general intolerant and draconian attitudes towards occultism that sometimes bother me. It's not uncommon to see calls for occultism to be made illegal. That would be a huge infringement on the human rights of me and my fellow occultists to be who we are.

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Jane143 · 25/06/2026 16:17

Surely if you just get on with it and do your stuff in private no one will know or care? Or are you putting it out there on a chat group or something? I don’t understand why you’re worried what a random man (that you’ve already blocked) thinks? I personally don’t believe in it anyway but if I get a curse on me now I’ll know who to blame! ( joking by the way before you take me seriously) all the best

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 15:55

Swiftie1878 · 25/06/2026 15:52

I wouldn’t get so hey up about it. Just get on with your life.
I can’t stand Morrissey fans. My bad.

@Swiftie1878

Normally I do, but it can pay to be aware of currents of prejudice, especially when I see people calling for occultism (as well as paganism) to be made illegal. I am opposed to such human rights violations and feel even more strongly about it when/if it can affect me.

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Swiftie1878 · 25/06/2026 15:52

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 15:47

@MyLimeGuide

Well, I think it's cool, obviously. And as stated, my problem is not with people disbelieving in it, thinking it's nonsense, not having a personal taste for it - my problem is when people direct hatred at occultists for choosing to be occultists.

I wouldn’t get so hey up about it. Just get on with your life.
I can’t stand Morrissey fans. My bad.

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 15:47

MyLimeGuide · 25/06/2026 12:21

Sounds cool 😀 that bloke sounds like a moron.

@MyLimeGuide

Well, I think it's cool, obviously. And as stated, my problem is not with people disbelieving in it, thinking it's nonsense, not having a personal taste for it - my problem is when people direct hatred at occultists for choosing to be occultists.

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takealettermsjones · 25/06/2026 13:50

Sherararara · 25/06/2026 12:17

He's not the Messiah.
He's a secular philosophical materialist!

😂😂😂

MyLimeGuide · 25/06/2026 12:21

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 14:15

@takealettermsjones

I didn't say that occultists should be immune from criticism. That's not what this thread is about.

This is about occultists being harmed and marginalised. Occultists do not deserve that.

An occultist is someone who practices occultism. It encompasses a number of different practices - the practice of magic (as in actual magic spells, not stage magic), divination (such as astrology, geomancy, tarot reading), spirit communication, etc, etc.

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Sounds cool 😀 that bloke sounds like a moron.

Sherararara · 25/06/2026 12:17

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 13:25

@Silverbirchleaf

He's not a Christian. He's a secular philosophical materialist.

He's not the Messiah.
He's a secular philosophical materialist!

SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 12:13

Jane143 · 25/06/2026 12:02

Have you really got the time to worry about all this shit?

@Jane143

This is meant to be a discussion. Not necessarily an example of 'worrying', although I do have concerns about manifestations of prejudice against innocent occultists.

And yes, I do have the time for it.

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SorcererGaheris · 25/06/2026 12:12

Jane143 · 25/06/2026 11:55

I don’t really know what an occultist is or does but the fact you are saying it’s ok to do permanent harm to someone is bad

@Jane143

I never said it was okay to do permanent harm to someone.

I said that there are no fixed morals in occultism, so practitioners abide by their own morals. Some occultists cast spells that are intended to harm the target. I never said that was "okay", I'm just being honest about the fact that some people do it.

Many, if not most, occultists, do not practice harmful or baneful magic.

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Jane143 · 25/06/2026 12:02

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 16:48

@Boreded

I no longer interact with this individual.

The point of the thread is to question his exclusion and prejudice towards me and my community, when in other cases, he supports the notion of diversity.

Have you really got the time to worry about all this shit?

Jane143 · 25/06/2026 11:55

SorcererGaheris · 24/06/2026 14:02

@BillieWiper

I'd hope you wouldn't try and do spells to cause someone permanent harm?

I personally probably wouldn't, but occultism is diverse and encompasses numerous practices and traditions, so as such there is no particular moral code that applies to it as a field. Specific occult orders/groups might have a moral code they abide by, but they alone would be bound by that code, and only for as long as they were members of that group.

It's really considered entirely down to the individuals to form their own moral views and make their own moral decisions. Some occultists would indeed do a spell intended to cause serious harm to someone if they felt it necessary to protect themselves/others.

I don’t really know what an occultist is or does but the fact you are saying it’s ok to do permanent harm to someone is bad