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Do teachers feel nervous about these things too?

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 11:49

We are going into Dd’s class this afternoon to take a cake for her birthday to share. For some reason I feel nervous, is this normal? I feel like most people wouldn’t bother about things like this and would just enjoy the moment.
I feel worried about not having enough of everything, cutting the cake properly…

Do teachers feel as nervous about parents coming into the classroom? And would you be nervous?

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Sartre · 24/06/2026 12:02

Everyone else just gives their kid some sweets to hand out but ok…

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:02

chirrupybird · 24/06/2026 12:00

What sort of knife are you taking? I thought knives in school were a big no no.

ive just packed a normal one from the drawer, not super sharp, maybe they’ll provide from the kitchen, I’m taking in case

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Myfridgeiscool · 24/06/2026 12:02

I doubt the teacher is nervous, rolling their eyes instead. Taking a cake into school is bizarre, packet of haribo each or a few sweets is more usual.
Are you going to ask everyone to sing happy birthday???

Shinyandnew1 · 24/06/2026 12:01

Our head would say no to this as it is taking away teaching time and should be done at home/parties instead. I don’t think anyone would be nervous though-what of?!

saveforthat · 24/06/2026 12:01

Is this actually allowed?

chirrupybird · 24/06/2026 12:00

What sort of knife are you taking? I thought knives in school were a big no no.

LauritaEvita · 24/06/2026 11:59

The teacher won’t, no. They’ll be too busy teaching a class full of kids to give it any thought. Are you in work today? Or is there anything you can do to busy yourself so you’re not thinking about it?

mindutopia · 24/06/2026 11:58

I imagine teachers feel a bit annoyed it’s taking up their time. 😂 I’m pretty sure they don’t feel at all nervous about seeing a parent, unless you’re one of the scary parents who is always complaining about everything. Then they may wish they could hide.

rainbowstardrops · 24/06/2026 11:57

This wasn’t a thing in the school that I worked in. The children might bring a bag of sweets or something in and then the teacher would let them hand them out as they left at the end of the day. The whole cake cutting thing sounds like a bit of a performance!

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 11:55

SleepingStandingUp · 24/06/2026 11:54

Well ours would have had the cake off you and done it, not have parents come in. It's usually individual treats so also solves the portion issues.

I think it’s so we share the moment with her, other parents have done it before

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SleepingStandingUp · 24/06/2026 11:54

Well ours would have had the cake off you and done it, not have parents come in. It's usually individual treats so also solves the portion issues.

Honeyhonay · 24/06/2026 11:50

I don’t imagine teachers would feel particularly nervous about a parent coming in.

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