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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 2026-06-24T10:49:11+00:00

We are going into Dd’s class this afternoon to take a cake for her birthday to share. For some reason I feel nervous, is this normal? I feel like most people wouldn’t bother about things like this and would just enjoy the moment. I feel worried about not having enough of everything, cutting the cake properly… Do teachers feel as nervous about parents coming into the classroom? And would you be nervous?

Santasbigredbobblehat · 24/06/2026 12:37

GlassBluebird · 24/06/2026 12:03

I'm a teacher and get nervous before any parent event. Assemblies, Sports Day, Parents Evenings - I bloody dread it! We have parents come in to observe and take part in lessons each term, and it is the bane of my life.

These people saying "No" are clearly more well-adjusted than I am...

Me too!

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:28

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:27

So I wouldn’t take her word as gospel

but you have actually run this by the teacher and arranged to go in?

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Of course! We exchanged emails last week

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:28

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:27

Wow definitely not in uk
how many in the class?

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Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:27

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:24

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So I wouldn’t take her word as gospel

but you have actually run this by the teacher and arranged to go in?

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:27

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:25

I checked and all can eat

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Wow definitely not in uk
how many in the class?

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:25

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:16

You have arranged to go in OP?

as for your question… I wouldn t feel nervous about this in the slightest because I have to do a lot of presenting in my work to a much much harder audience that a group of young children about to tuck in to some cake!

have you bought gluten free option out of interest?

I checked and all can eat

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:24

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:16

How old is your dd?

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MaidMiriam · 24/06/2026 12:20

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:06

It helps me to know teachers get nervous too as I feel v nervous

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If it makes you feel better, I was a teacher and got nervous on e.g. open days when parents visited - Would they think I was a rubbish teacher? Would I suddenly forget an important piece of knowledge?

I'm sure the teacher and students will just be so grateful to have cake and something a little out of their usual routine!

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:16

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:03

We are abroad and this seems to be the custom here. It wouldn’t be my plan! Dd asked as everyone does it apparently and yes they sing Happy birthday and I need to bring cups, plates, napkins etc, hence why I’m nervous! It feels like a lot

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How old is your dd?

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 12:16

You have arranged to go in OP?

as for your question… I wouldn t feel nervous about this in the slightest because I have to do a lot of presenting in my work to a much much harder audience that a group of young children about to tuck in to some cake!

have you bought gluten free option out of interest?

Floppyearedlab · 24/06/2026 12:15

Just remember it is their space and you are the invited guest. You do as the teacher says, don't spread yourself out and follow all their instructions.

GlassBluebird · 24/06/2026 12:11

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:06

It helps me to know teachers get nervous too as I feel v nervous

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Based on this post, I'd say you genuinely have nothing to worry about though! The parents who over-think or show self-awareness are the ones we tend to like and get on with. Easier said than done, though, I know!

ExitPursuedByABare · 24/06/2026 12:09

I used to send DD with a fairy cake each for the class and staff.

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:08

Unicornsandprincesses · 24/06/2026 12:06

Yeah definitely not the done thing in the UK. But I think it sounds lovely.

to answer your original question. Yes. I’d be anxious and nervous, I’d totally over think it, down to what type of napkins and plates I’m bringing, I’d prepare for ages, stress about it, about what to say, how to hand it out, how it’s all going to work, etc.

then after, I’d think “that wasn’t so terrible, why was I so wound up?”

then I’d probably get a massive headache and end up going to bed early 🥴🤣

not even joking

🤣This is me exactly

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SugarC · 24/06/2026 12:06

If its the norm then I wouldnt worry.
For us here (NE england) we tend to take in multiple bags of multipack Haribo for the birthday kid to dish out to the class (or class teacher).

Unicornsandprincesses · 24/06/2026 12:06

Yeah definitely not the done thing in the UK. But I think it sounds lovely.

to answer your original question. Yes. I’d be anxious and nervous, I’d totally over think it, down to what type of napkins and plates I’m bringing, I’d prepare for ages, stress about it, about what to say, how to hand it out, how it’s all going to work, etc.

then after, I’d think “that wasn’t so terrible, why was I so wound up?”

then I’d probably get a massive headache and end up going to bed early 🥴🤣

not even joking

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:06

GlassBluebird · 24/06/2026 12:03

I'm a teacher and get nervous before any parent event. Assemblies, Sports Day, Parents Evenings - I bloody dread it! We have parents come in to observe and take part in lessons each term, and it is the bane of my life.

These people saying "No" are clearly more well-adjusted than I am...

It helps me to know teachers get nervous too as I feel v nervous

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:05

SequoiaTree · 24/06/2026 12:02

I used to have a party separate from school for my dc and hand out cake then.

We do this also, but can’t invite the whole class, I think this also helps people who can’t afford parties

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concertinacornflake · 24/06/2026 12:05

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:03

We are abroad and this seems to be the custom here. It wouldn’t be my plan! Dd asked as everyone does it apparently and yes they sing Happy birthday and I need to bring cups, plates, napkins etc, hence why I’m nervous! It feels like a lot

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It didn't feel very UK standard. If it's optional, just don't bother. If everyone else does, probably best to go along with it.

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/06/2026 12:04

I wouldn't want this happening in my class. If you want to share some cake, do it on your own time not mine.

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 12:03

Myfridgeiscool · 24/06/2026 12:02

I doubt the teacher is nervous, rolling their eyes instead. Taking a cake into school is bizarre, packet of haribo each or a few sweets is more usual.
Are you going to ask everyone to sing happy birthday???

We are abroad and this seems to be the custom here. It wouldn’t be my plan! Dd asked as everyone does it apparently and yes they sing Happy birthday and I need to bring cups, plates, napkins etc, hence why I’m nervous! It feels like a lot

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concertinacornflake · 24/06/2026 12:03

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 11:55

I think it’s so we share the moment with her, other parents have done it before

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This is ridiculous.

GlassBluebird · 24/06/2026 12:03

I'm a teacher and get nervous before any parent event. Assemblies, Sports Day, Parents Evenings - I bloody dread it! We have parents come in to observe and take part in lessons each term, and it is the bane of my life.

These people saying "No" are clearly more well-adjusted than I am...

concertinacornflake · 24/06/2026 12:02

I think that's annoying, do all parents do that? I wouldn't wish to do that as a parent and would make me think the school was blurring the home/school boundary too much.

SequoiaTree · 24/06/2026 12:02

I used to have a party separate from school for my dc and hand out cake then.