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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 2026-06-24T10:49:11+00:00

We are going into Dd’s class this afternoon to take a cake for her birthday to share. For some reason I feel nervous, is this normal? I feel like most people wouldn’t bother about things like this and would just enjoy the moment. I feel worried about not having enough of everything, cutting the cake properly… Do teachers feel as nervous about parents coming into the classroom? And would you be nervous?

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 17:45

Anewappa · 24/06/2026 17:40

Well let’s be honest… you aren’t the most objective on that point are you @Caponbackwardslikeaknob

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What do you mean?

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Anewappa · 24/06/2026 17:40

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 17:34

Candles, sparkles the whole lot here

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Not short of confidence online are you?! 😆

Anewappa · 24/06/2026 17:40

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 16:53

🙄 Perfectly clean kitchen here

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Well let’s be honest… you aren’t the most objective on that point are you @Caponbackwardslikeaknob

plims · 24/06/2026 17:37

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 17:32

The teacher tucked in 😂😂

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She sounds very polite.

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 17:34

Moonnstarz · 24/06/2026 17:08

Yes any end of term gifts that are food we always check who they came from (some parents are bakers so theirs are always a good one which we will definitely eat!).

Glad it went well OP. I presume this is some private school and some custom that happens in some schools that are abroad as this definitely doesn't happen in the UK. Though we did have one parent turn up with a shop bought cake once and candles and did expect us to do the full on singing and cake cutting with their child (we declined the candles but did sing as we do for all children and did cut the cake for children to take home at the end of the day as we don't allow them to eat sweets/cakes til they ask the adult collecting them).

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Candles, sparkles the whole lot here

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 17:32

plims · 24/06/2026 16:57

She didn’t say you don’t have a clean kitchen. But not everyone does. We get given so many home backed goods at the end of the school year and they are all discretely discarded.

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The teacher tucked in 😂😂

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Mumstheword1983 · 24/06/2026 17:29

RaraRachael · 24/06/2026 17:11

It's never been a thing in any Scottish schools I taught in (NE).
Must be different where you are.

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Must be. Also a teacher. It's common here.

RaraRachael · 24/06/2026 17:11

Mumstheword1983 · 24/06/2026 16:14

Hi it's always been common to send a cake in on birthdays here (Scotland). They all have a piece at break time. The parents doesn't normally go in though the birthday girl or boy takes it in. Party or not.

Nothing to be nervous about 😁

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It's never been a thing in any Scottish schools I taught in (NE).
Must be different where you are.

Moonnstarz · 24/06/2026 17:08

plims · 24/06/2026 16:57

She didn’t say you don’t have a clean kitchen. But not everyone does. We get given so many home backed goods at the end of the school year and they are all discretely discarded.

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Yes any end of term gifts that are food we always check who they came from (some parents are bakers so theirs are always a good one which we will definitely eat!).

Glad it went well OP. I presume this is some private school and some custom that happens in some schools that are abroad as this definitely doesn't happen in the UK. Though we did have one parent turn up with a shop bought cake once and candles and did expect us to do the full on singing and cake cutting with their child (we declined the candles but did sing as we do for all children and did cut the cake for children to take home at the end of the day as we don't allow them to eat sweets/cakes til they ask the adult collecting them).

JohnnieFedora · 24/06/2026 17:07

plims · 24/06/2026 16:57

She didn’t say you don’t have a clean kitchen. But not everyone does. We get given so many home backed goods at the end of the school year and they are all discretely discarded.

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Our teachers eat them.

Human bodies are quite captain coping with cake that has been baked at over 180°

plims · 24/06/2026 16:57

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 16:53

🙄 Perfectly clean kitchen here

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She didn’t say you don’t have a clean kitchen. But not everyone does. We get given so many home backed goods at the end of the school year and they are all discretely discarded.

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 16:56

JohnnieFedora · 24/06/2026 16:54

Share the moment???

Jfc.

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Why is that negative?! It was actually really nice to chat with the teacher, to meet all her friends, we don’t know all of them and to see how she is in her classroom environment and ‘Other life’ away from us

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JohnnieFedora · 24/06/2026 16:55

We're not allowed to send in anything for birthdays.

Make sit much easier.

Also don't have to deal with allergies!

JohnnieFedora · 24/06/2026 16:54

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 11:55

I think it’s so we share the moment with her, other parents have done it before

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Share the moment???

Jfc.

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 16:53

Aninkling · 24/06/2026 16:31

To be fair, I’m not inclined to eat cake baked by a stranger that I have zero idea of their personal and kitchen cleanliness 🤷‍♀️

We can send in cakes but need to individually wrapped . Seems practically sensible it no cutting, not messy and… reassuring

🙄 Perfectly clean kitchen here

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Aninkling · 24/06/2026 16:31

To be fair, I’m not inclined to eat cake baked by a stranger that I have zero idea of their personal and kitchen cleanliness 🤷‍♀️

We can send in cakes but need to individually wrapped . Seems practically sensible it no cutting, not messy and… reassuring

Skybluepinky · 24/06/2026 16:23

No cake at school due to numerous allergies and certainly parents wouldn’t go into a classroom to cut it, they can’t have any risk assessments in place.

Mumstheword1983 · 24/06/2026 16:14

Hi it's always been common to send a cake in on birthdays here (Scotland). They all have a piece at break time. The parents doesn't normally go in though the birthday girl or boy takes it in. Party or not.

Nothing to be nervous about 😁

Despairsquid11 · 24/06/2026 16:09

Oh gosh you’re bringing back traumatic memories of parents sending in cakes and me having to chop it up into 30 tiny pieces 😂I’d have been thrilled if a parent offered to come in and do it for me!!

elliesmummy19 · 24/06/2026 16:08

My daughter’s school allows it and it seems to be done quite often. They just ask that we don’t bring in home made cakes or cakes that need cutting. We take in something like packs of shop bought cupcakes or something like Mini Rolls.

I definitely wouldn’t do it if we weren’t told that it is allowed and common.

Blueberries0761 · 24/06/2026 16:05

Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 15:51

Thank you! Just back, it went very well, teacher was very relaxed and clearly used to it! Kids very noisy but very sweet
Glad its done!

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I'm so glad it went well and the kids enjoyed themselves, you can relax now!

SugarC · 24/06/2026 15:57

This sounds lush! School seems to suck the fun out of everything by secondary school. My kids primary school is amazing but as of september the youngest will have left 😔
Birthdays are supposed to be celebrated. Pleased it went well OP

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Caponbackwardslikeaknob · 24/06/2026 15:51

Blueberries0761 · 24/06/2026 15:21

I hope your dd and the rest of the class enjoy the cake and I hope the event isn't too stressful for you. Let us know how it goes 🎂

Thank you! Just back, it went very well, teacher was very relaxed and clearly used to it! Kids very noisy but very sweet
Glad its done!

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plims · 24/06/2026 15:24

The OP’s drip feed has skewed the replies.

plims · 24/06/2026 15:23

BreakingBroken · 24/06/2026 14:51

I’m in Canada and cup cakes for everyone in the class wasn’t unusual. Small school with small classes, the school secretary was very helpful.

We do similar in the U.K. lots of kids bring cake etc. in for their birthdays. It’s the parent spending time in class which is unusual.