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AIBU to refuse my neighbour asking to share my car repair booking?

137 replies

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 11:04

Currently have a mobile car body shop repair man on drive. I asked him if he wanted to rearrange due to heat and he replied with ‘if it’s ok I’ll come early and put a tent/shade up, crack on and be gone before heat kicks in.’
great, happy with this. Told my neighbour, just in case she was disturbed and she was fine with it.

Roll on this morning and the guy arrives 7.30 to set up, he’s actually really quiet. Neighbour pops out walking dog and says to him
’seeing as you’re going to be done early can you do a few bits on mine and as tent etc is already up I can move my car so you won’t have to move it’
it is an all day job I was booked for, but he’s started at 7.30 instead of 9.30 and aims to be finished by 2.30 instead of 4.30.
I’ve just had 3 WhatsApp messages to ask me if I can get repair man to agree and that it’s only fair due to her being disturbed very early this morning. I’m literally agog!
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OP posts:
murasaki · 24/06/2026 14:59

I can totally see why he didn't want to spend longer in a sweatbox of a tent than he'd already agreed to. Especially for a rude baggage who you can bet wouldn't have brought him a cold drink. And on the OP's drive.

She's clearly an entitled nightmare, and it would be mean of me to hope the aircon in her car breaks down....

chirrupybird · 24/06/2026 14:57

Tell her you don't employ him and cannot tell him what to do. He came early specifically so he can leave early, he will have done his allotted hours.

zobeit · 24/06/2026 14:56

She wanted to piggyback your booking, use your drive, ignore the conditions he’s working in, selfishly and persistently have you arrange something for her rather than ask herself and then insulted him?
She’s something else isn’t she?
When she needs a favour make yourself scarce.

UncannyFanny · 24/06/2026 14:53

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 14:19

Update: 14.10

I went out to give him a cold drink, he’s nearly finished.

I got no further response from last message I sent stating he wasn’t keen.

As I was taking glass from him she’s popped out and stated ‘and here’s me thinking there’s a cost of living crisis and here you are turning work down’ got in her car and drove off.

To which hopefully the mechanic said ‘and here’s me thinking you can fuck off and get your car done by someone else!’

Triskellion75 · 24/06/2026 14:50

Fucking hell, she sounds deranged.

itwasyourshowallalong · 24/06/2026 14:50

She’s done you a massive favour by revealing exactly how big a dick she is

OutOfApricots · 24/06/2026 14:48

Can't be all that much wrong with her car if she's driven off in it. 😂

Thisthreadhasbeendeleted · 24/06/2026 14:46

Ah, so she's a dick AND a cheeky fucker. Does she have form, OP?

murasaki · 24/06/2026 14:44

Wow, she is so rude. I bet he's very glad he said no.

anyolddinosaur · 24/06/2026 14:35

If she goes off on one again say he did a good job so I'm afraid if you did want to employ him another day he may be too booked up to fit you in.

pinkyredrose · 24/06/2026 14:34

BMW58 · 24/06/2026 14:20

Stupid cow 😂

My thoughts exactly!

Ohthatsabitshit · 24/06/2026 14:32

Wow. That would piss me off. How dare she be so rude to someone you have invited to your property.

HelenaWilson · 24/06/2026 14:29

Well she is an absolute Queen isn't she!

The Queen - whether the late Queen or the present one - would never behave like that!

Fizzybluewater · 24/06/2026 14:29

If she contacts him for work he would be quite entitled to tell her to jog off.

hourspassed · 24/06/2026 14:26

Well she is an absolute Queen isn't she! Haha is she always so entitled and twatty OP?

Rosessmelllovely · 24/06/2026 14:25

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 14:19

Update: 14.10

I went out to give him a cold drink, he’s nearly finished.

I got no further response from last message I sent stating he wasn’t keen.

As I was taking glass from him she’s popped out and stated ‘and here’s me thinking there’s a cost of living crisis and here you are turning work down’ got in her car and drove off.

😂Why can't people just realise they've made enough of a dick head of themselves without doubling down and proving it again.

Glitchymn1 · 24/06/2026 14:25

He’s said no. It’s boiling. The end.

Iocanepowder · 24/06/2026 14:22

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 14:19

Update: 14.10

I went out to give him a cold drink, he’s nearly finished.

I got no further response from last message I sent stating he wasn’t keen.

As I was taking glass from him she’s popped out and stated ‘and here’s me thinking there’s a cost of living crisis and here you are turning work down’ got in her car and drove off.

What an arsehole. If she says anything to you again, i’d raise that you would prefer she didn’t have a go at people who come to your house.

QuietlyWonderful · 24/06/2026 14:20

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 14:19

Update: 14.10

I went out to give him a cold drink, he’s nearly finished.

I got no further response from last message I sent stating he wasn’t keen.

As I was taking glass from him she’s popped out and stated ‘and here’s me thinking there’s a cost of living crisis and here you are turning work down’ got in her car and drove off.

Obviously, she's gone to book herself in at a garage.😀

BMW58 · 24/06/2026 14:20

Stupid cow 😂

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 14:19

Update: 14.10

I went out to give him a cold drink, he’s nearly finished.

I got no further response from last message I sent stating he wasn’t keen.

As I was taking glass from him she’s popped out and stated ‘and here’s me thinking there’s a cost of living crisis and here you are turning work down’ got in her car and drove off.

OP posts:
BillieWiper · 24/06/2026 14:00

I mean if the job is finished early and he wants to take another job I wouldn't necessarily complain.

But I would tell him he needs to make sure he finishes my job fully before he does the other one.

I'd also tell her that he says he can do it but only once yours is fully complete so it might be later.

takealettermsjones · 24/06/2026 13:56

She must think you have powerful persuasion skills, OP 😂

Woodfiresareamazing2 · 24/06/2026 13:53

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 13:09

I did this, I went out and loudly asked if he wanted the job. He’s said no he’s too hot. I’ve messaged her that and added his details.
She’s been ‘typing’ for the last few mins 😬

Either ignore any further messages, or just keep resending 'He said no'.

Also don't let him work on anybody else's car on your drive - oil/power steering fluid spills etc.

And 7.30am start on a week day is absolutely fine.

StarPyjamas · 24/06/2026 13:44

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 13:09

I did this, I went out and loudly asked if he wanted the job. He’s said no he’s too hot. I’ve messaged her that and added his details.
She’s been ‘typing’ for the last few mins 😬

Why are you dragging it out though, by answering her messages and then typing about it on here?

Just. Do. Not. Engage 🤷‍♂️