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AIBU to refuse my neighbour asking to share my car repair booking?

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whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 11:04

Currently have a mobile car body shop repair man on drive. I asked him if he wanted to rearrange due to heat and he replied with ‘if it’s ok I’ll come early and put a tent/shade up, crack on and be gone before heat kicks in.’
great, happy with this. Told my neighbour, just in case she was disturbed and she was fine with it.

Roll on this morning and the guy arrives 7.30 to set up, he’s actually really quiet. Neighbour pops out walking dog and says to him
’seeing as you’re going to be done early can you do a few bits on mine and as tent etc is already up I can move my car so you won’t have to move it’
it is an all day job I was booked for, but he’s started at 7.30 instead of 9.30 and aims to be finished by 2.30 instead of 4.30.
I’ve just had 3 WhatsApp messages to ask me if I can get repair man to agree and that it’s only fair due to her being disturbed very early this morning. I’m literally agog!
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OP posts:
banmusk · 24/06/2026 17:47

No one has ever tried anything like that with me, I wish they would, I'd have so much fun.

WilfredsPies · 24/06/2026 17:45

Nannyfannybanny · 24/06/2026 17:05

I want to know what body shop repairs can be carried out on a drive?

There are loads of things that don’t absolutely demand getting a car up on a ramp. And a good mechanic can find ways to get around most things if they need to.

pictoosh · 24/06/2026 17:26

Nannyfannybanny · 24/06/2026 17:05

I want to know what body shop repairs can be carried out on a drive?

Google it if you're curious. There are five businesses doing this within 10 miles of me.

pictoosh · 24/06/2026 17:23

She sounds like someone who is used to getting her own way.

LondonLass2026 · 24/06/2026 17:13

Nannyfannybanny · 24/06/2026 17:05

I want to know what body shop repairs can be carried out on a drive?

Of course it can. It's a huge industry. My partner has done it for 15 years.

LondonLass2026 · 24/06/2026 17:12

If she was in need of a car body repair guy that much, why didn't she book her own long before she saw yours?

Sickens me how people think it's such an easy job that he can "just pop over and do mine while he's here". My partner does this for a job, and it is HARD. It is literally a mixture of physics and chemistry. You have to use fractions to weigh the various materials needed, and it is long, hard work.

Cheeky cow, and tell her to stop sending stupid messages or you'll block her.

Nannyfannybanny · 24/06/2026 17:05

I want to know what body shop repairs can be carried out on a drive?

Laura95167 · 24/06/2026 16:53

If you dont want to pay for her appt No is the only answer. CF

chocoluv · 24/06/2026 16:51

She sounds bloody awful.

Give her his details and tell her to book him in when he’s next free.

What part of no is she struggling to understand.

PatchworkCow · 24/06/2026 16:40

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 14:19

Update: 14.10

I went out to give him a cold drink, he’s nearly finished.

I got no further response from last message I sent stating he wasn’t keen.

As I was taking glass from him she’s popped out and stated ‘and here’s me thinking there’s a cost of living crisis and here you are turning work down’ got in her car and drove off.

🤣🤣 he'd be mad to work for her after that! She thinks he ought to be grateful for the privilege of being asked to work in a heatwave, as if money is everything and he's got to be poverty stricken. She's a weirdo who'd probably find some reason not to pay him.

liamharha · 24/06/2026 16:32

It up to the repair man surely

Pinkdayss · 24/06/2026 16:09

Avoid her going forward, rude, pushy cheeky fxxker.

BlindSpotForCats · 24/06/2026 16:01

Oh some neighbours are total wankers.

A couple years ago we had a tree surgeon in for a few hours and our neighbour asked if he could lop off a bit of something in the neighbour's garden when he was done. He could, and did. And sent neighbour the bill for the work. Our neighbour was apoplectic as 'he was here anyway... it did not take long, couldn't we either suggest it was no trouble or add it to our bill'.

Fuck Off.

The decision was the mechanics, he made the decision, was clear about it and your neighbour is a CF, OP.

tartyflette · 24/06/2026 15:48

toohotforallthis · 24/06/2026 15:39

It’s not up to you, it’s up to him whether he wants to

And he has declined. Several posts ago.

murasaki · 24/06/2026 15:47

To be fair I did speak to the neighbour's guttering people when the were fixing hers, they were HA, we're private rental, but hers was affecting ours, and I did check with her that it was OK. Not that they did anything to ours, but just made sure hers was better on our side, everyone happy. I would never have spoken to them without speaking to her and she'd agreed hers was the issue so we were on the same page from her booking them in. We showed them together. But then we get on as she's not a lunatic.

toohotforallthis · 24/06/2026 15:39

It’s not up to you, it’s up to him whether he wants to

EmeraldShamrock000 · 24/06/2026 15:34

Some neighbours turn into loons when they notice renovations. I had my kitchen replaced, neighbours kept interrupting the workers to discuss kitchens, cost etc, could they pop into theirs for a quote when fitters don’t know what it cost, it’s society today, everyone wants a piece of what’s happening.

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/06/2026 15:29

Arlanymor · 24/06/2026 11:10

I don't see what it's got to do with you - it's his choice to make. What did he say when she said to him: ’seeing as you’re going to be done early can you do a few bits on mine and as tent etc is already up I can move my car so you won’t have to move it’ Presumably he either said yes or no? If he said yes, then leave them to it and if she messages you again just tell her to communicate with him directly. If he said no, then remind her that he said he no. That's it.

It's the OP's drive. Of course it's her business.

murasaki · 24/06/2026 15:08

I hope the repair man is home soon with a cold beer and an ice cream. He's put in a shift in very hot weather, including being harangued by a nutter (not the OP, who sounds perfectly nice).

Tableforjoan · 24/06/2026 15:07

Women needs to do what everyone else does and just book in her own Bloody work. Cheeky fucker.

We had the boiler man out Ironicly today. Told him I hoped his next job was a trip to the pub for a cold drink.

Ethelspagetti · 24/06/2026 15:07

whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 15:05

She’s been mostly ok, borrowed the odd thing, returned with thanks etc… just been chatting to another neighbour who wandered down and wanted repair man’s details. Gladly passed over.

Repair man said he was sorry he couldn’t do it but he’s rammed, but he didn’t want it to be awkward as apparently this happens a lot 😱

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I thought so. This must happen a lot for him, neighbours asking him to check their cars when he’s fully booked with other cars afterwards.

Livelovelaughfuckoff · 24/06/2026 15:07

After that message if she had the nerve to speak to you again I would tell her that you did not appreciate her rudeness or entitlement towards your visitor. I would probably block her as well but I'm a bitch with zero tolerance for that kind of nonsense.

As someone who is self employed I do enjoy watching the confusion of people like this who seem to think I must be desperate for scraps of work at the drop of hat and enjoy turning them down or pointing out I have a long waiting list so they're aware they are not doing me any favours.

Original poster
whoahokeycokey · 24/06/2026 15:05

Thisthreadhasbeendeleted · 24/06/2026 14:46

Ah, so she's a dick AND a cheeky fucker. Does she have form, OP?

She’s been mostly ok, borrowed the odd thing, returned with thanks etc… just been chatting to another neighbour who wandered down and wanted repair man’s details. Gladly passed over.

Repair man said he was sorry he couldn’t do it but he’s rammed, but he didn’t want it to be awkward as apparently this happens a lot 😱

OP posts:
Musicaltheatremum · 24/06/2026 15:03

@whoahokeycokey but the poor guy has been working since 7.30 so he's done a full days work by the time of your update. She'san idiot.

Skybluepinky · 24/06/2026 15:03

I’m sure she can ask the man if she wants, not for you to get involved.