AIBU to find it odd I’ve never met my friend’s partner?

I think it completely depends on how you socialize. I have longstanding friends whose husbands I have never met, and who have never met mine, because we get together in groups of women.

I find it less weird than someone who never meets without a partner.
my friend of 25 years met someone 3 years ago and I haven’t seen her without him since, it’s one of the reasons Ive pulled away from the friendship.

Is he made up?

I don’t think it’s that weird I first met my friends husband on their wedding day. They’d been together 2 years by that point. Some people don’t socialise in couples regularly.

Exactly! One of my closest friends is in the forces, and we've not lived in the same country for the majority of our friendship 😆

My apologies; I didn't realise I was so boring. Never again; I've learnt my lesson. Thank you.

I think it's a bit odd. I'd have expected her to want you to meet her partner. It is probably more about him not wanting to than you/her. People don't seem to feel the need to show up for their partner so much any more. However I would certainly suggest you visiting her new house. I.e. hi friend would love to pop by one afternoon to see your new house and catch up. How about next weekend?? See what she says.

But if you haven't invited her round in 6 years or vice versa, then it seems normal that you haven't met her partner.

Im with you Op i think it’s rude to ask her to travel to you when she’s pregnant other than that no I don’t think it’s weird you haven’t met him especially when they live 2 hours away

Opinions are what forums are for, generally.
I realise it was shortened, but where does that end? Pre?

I don't think it's weird, it's just if people want to socialise or not. I've been with DP for two years, he's met my dad (over fixing a car) but not my mum and siblings, though he's talked to my mum on the phone a fair bit. But he's socially anxious and I don't want to force him into a social situation. I also dislike feeling like you're obliged to go to things with your partner, as it's the socially acceptable thing to do, I've always lived more independently.

It's for her to decline if she can't attend, not for you to presume her preference.
Preg is a new and cloying abbreviation.......

I have a group of friends that I've been away with, do dinner regularly and then have never met my DH ( over over 20 years).
We all met at work about 15 years ago, I left and the friendships continued ( I have gone back now).
I've been to 3 of their weddings, know all of their partners and been away with them plus their partners BUT the partners work in the same massive company.
DH is shy, works out the country for long periods so was away for the weddings etc and wouldn't enjoy the trips.
Its a running joke that DH is imaginary!

If you really want to go, I'd ask if she's up for a visitor next weekend or whenever and see what she says. Inviting yourself would be saying, "I'm coming over next weekend." So I think it's fine to suggest it.

I've also got friends whose partners I've never met and those whose partners socialise with us regularly. And some of those people are in the same friendship group!

People are different.

Not really odd. I have a friend from a job I left nearly 6 years ago, she left a year before me. I’ve never met her DH and vice versa. We meet for lunch every 2-3 months (although I think our husbands would get on but seems weird to introduce them at this stage).
I often only see friends’ husbands if there’s a party or gathering unless we are ‘couple friends’ she would meet up anyway.

No, it was just people I’d only just met being nosy because they knew what DH did and thought we were rich, so wondered why I cycled everywhere and the house wasn’t an interior-designed grey fest with a hot tub.

Come to think of it, my DPs and my PILs social circle was made up mainly of couples, and that included work colleagues who became friends. I hadn't considered this before.

I've got 4 close friends. One of them, I've never met her husband. The situation has never arisen, and none of us socialise as couples. Two of them, I've met their husbands 'in passing' if I've been round at their houses and he's been in.
One of them, I see her husband very frequently as we share an interest and I would consider him as a friend too.

Are you keen to meet him, Op? Why not just pick a date in the near future and ask if you can come over for a visit?

Think I’m going to go against the flow here and agree with you OP that it is a little strange, though will offer a perspective I was given, being in a similar situation.

Very close friend of mine (she was one of my bridesmaids, met my baby at a couple of days old etc), friends for over 10 years, met her other partners but she has now been with someone for nearly 2 years, moved in together and she is now pregnant, I have met him once, very briefly, almost in passing! We’ve invited him to meet ups but he is often busy (or “busy”, not sure…).

I was chatting about it to a friend who is a lot older about how I found it very strange that I don’t know her partner at all and now she’s living with him and having a baby with him. She said to me, is it strange you haven’t met him or is it strange that she’s having these big life changes with someone you don’t know, so it feels weird because of that and not necessarily because you feel you should know him. I thought it was an interesting point.

Anyway, just my 2ps worth but reading the other replies, would seem I’m in the minority!

Have you asked to meet him?

I've never met one of my friends partners and we've been friends for nearly 20 years.

It's fine, when we see each other we just like to catch up. He'd be bored to tears with all the girltalk. They do socialise as a couple but I rarely see her, so we like it being just us. We do have passive aggressive arguments over the telephone though if he thinks she's been on it too long.

She says "he's standing over me..." in an amused voice and I get the giggles and say I'd better go.

I said YANBU but came back to see she lives 2hrs away. So no i dont think its odd and YABU.

You could invite them both to stay at yours or for a BBQ if youre interested