Any similar child please

Yes and countless other times. I'd have too far to scroll back to find the first one I commented on but I'm sure the daughter was only about 9 months old at the time

Was it the same OP who was convinced her child was autistic a while ago? She def needs help- professionnal- not anything MN can provide.

You know that your anxiety is the biggest threat to your daughter's wellbeing? Seek help now!

First off stop reading articles on the Internet. They are written to generate ad revenue. Not to inform. They are not written by professionals who actually know things based on evidence. Professionals write papers that get peer reviewed and published in journals.

Second, your child can play independently, you said so yourself. For an hour with her teddies. That is independent play. It counts.

Third, your kid is normal. Typical. Standard. Usual. Average. Run of the mill. Nothing to write home about.

Forth, get yourself some mental health support before you actually harm your child's development.

As this is clearly the same frequent flyer, Ive reported the OP to mumsnet in the hope they can reach out with some support.

My nearly 10 year old still prefers to follow me pottering around whittering away, even if he's on his tablet he just likes to be close by. He's not neurodiverse,just likes to be with me.

My 14 yr old is actually ND,and he is just the same.

I take it as a compliment tbh,even tho draining at times

Neither sat still beautifully at 3.5 :/

This OP has been posting about her daughter since she was 9 months old, listing all sorts of normal behavior but fixating on a diagnoses of ADHD and/or Autism. She ignores the 99% of responses that say it's perfectly normal.

I think you need to get a job or hobby and stop obsessing about your perfectly normal child.

"I know all of these might point to adhd"
What???
Sounds like a completely normal 3 year old. Where did you get the idea that it's ADHD?

Mine didn’t play solo, ever.

whatever your reading and fixating on just stop and enjoy your child! I feel worried for her this is so beyond strange your hell bent on her having a disability

Back away from Dr Google. Your daughter is fine.

You, on the other hand, sound like you would benefit from counselling.

Maybe do some research on 3 yos. Like meeting any 3 yo, that would be a start. Do you not have Mum friends with same age kids? If a 10 yo cannot entertain themselves for 15 minutes, that's an indicator. If a 7 yo follows you around the house whining for attention all day long, that's an indicator. If you have a 3 yo who sometimes plays for an HOUR by themselves but needs attention during the day then what you have is ridiculously good luck.

Your daughter sounds like a bright and healthy 3 year old.

Eating out with a preschooler is always a nightmare. I had a bag with busy books, toy cars, colouring stuff, fidget toys, board books, little toys... And I would swap them around every couple of weeks because novelty helped. We played I spy, counting games, tic tac toe etc.

You just have to keep children that age busy.

Poor girl, your post is reading Munchausens.

Sounds like there's nothing wrong with the child but that there's something wrong with the mum...

She is not struggling, she doesn't have a problem, she's 3. STOP expecting her to behave like a much older child.

It's been pointed out to you on other threads that very often, kids her age don't want to spend large amounts of time on their own. She doesn't have siblings and she doesn't attend nursery, so she'll want to spend time with the adults around her, since she seems like a sociable kid. Why won't you take any of this in? The fact you keep talking about the same non-issues over and over and over is just further proof that you need to speak to a professional - for yourself.

Your 3 year old is just behaving like other 3 year olds. You refuse to recognise that her behaviour is nothing out of the ordinary and nothing to be concerned about. Your expectations of her are so unreasonable.

Oh and the restaurant thing - haven’t you seen the memes of parents trying to eat and a kids legs sticking up in the air?

That was my eldest son. Bloody nightmare in restaurants. Had to take a bag full of toys and fiddle things and make aeroplanes and draw for him. Cars he could drive under the table.

Now he orders adult meals, especially fish and chips, and lies prone groaning as he’s eaten too much.

That’s totally normal. It’s an indicator of super pro social skills.

Eldest couldn’t play alone at all and got bored all the time, now he’s a teen he gets extremely focussed on creative projects and spends hours on them.

youngest could play alone and would spend ages doing so; now he’s 8 he’s extremely sociable and constantly wants friends over.

I’d get her into nursery and let her make friends

You do have anxiety and possibly OCD. You have a compulsion to check and be reassured. I recognise it as I do too but thought it was totally normal. It’s not; it’s taking up too much of your time to be healthy.

Why would you seek to diagnose her with ADHD . She is perfectly normal .

3 year olds get bored. That's in their nature. My ND child was a lot more content at the age of 3 than my NT child, who was always on the go. Your daughter sounds completely normal, and that's a good thing.

What does I run to the state agent mean? "I had forgotten my house key and he said he would be in the house to wait for us but didn’t answer his phone or door so I run to the state agent worried about him"

Would you rather have a non verbal child?

Do you realise she’s 3? She’s a small normal acting little girl finding her feet she’s not going to be still, or quite or independent fully at the big age of 3.5 years old, get help

I think Munchausen by proxy unfortunately.