AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

I've never taken a photo of my nethers, drunk or sober. So never had to face the risk of sending it to someone inadvertently. Maybe more men need to follow the same practice (how come they never accidentally send it to their nan?).

Stop that! Seriously. This UK English thing. If you mean "English", say that. Stop dragging the rest of us into it.

We, in Scotland, part of the UK, call it a "fanny". In fact, for a number of years we used rhyming slang and called it a "Shareen".

In tribute to Shareen Nanjiani.

I've had random men sending me dick pictures on Instagram (unsolicited I'm hasten to add) and I report and block. This is different though, it's from a good friend's partner, someone you're exchanged pleasantries with, but you don't know very well.

I would have told the friend in your position OP too. Your friend had a right to know what her partner is up to behind her back. Let's be honest, I doubt it's his first rodeo, he's probably been sending these type of messages to multiple women throughout their relationship.

Yes, alcohol played it's part in the man sending the message and picture but it doesn't excuse him. You are his partner's friend, and he's sending you a dick picture and lusting after you. It's a smack in the mouth to your friend, how awful for her to now know that her partner has been lusting after her friend. It's not exactly going to do much for her self-esteem.

Leave your friend to decide what she wants to do regarding her relationship. I can't imagine she's going to want you to report the incident to the police, but that's your choice if you decide on this path.

I love this idea, it's diplomatic as hell and has the plausible deniability aspect to it 🤔. I think I will be using faux naivety for every sticky, problematic situation going forward fuck em , they can't prove otherwise.

I'm Scottish. A fanny is a fanny, hence the old irn bru advert when the young couple had named their wean "fanny" and the family were like 😱.

But yes, I'm the same. Never, ever occured to me to take my knickers off, take a photo of my fanny and send it to my husband's pals. No matter how drunk I've been.

It was an poor attempt at a joke.

In US English Fanny is backside.

In UK English it's the Vulva.

Apparently some women do

I think they meant because of the difference in what fanny means.
(But I've managed to send neither)

I doubt dick pic guys mum thinks he's the type to do it either

What? I am neither.

British English or US 😶

Have any of the excusers on this thread inadvertantly sent a picture of their bare fanny to a partner of one of their friends when they have a drink in them?

Me too. I've never sent a picture of my dick to anyone. I wouldn't send an unsolicited one ever and I've done some pretty stupid things after a drink too many.

I am stunned that women seem to think this in a innocent "oh he was drunk" type of thing....that's falling over the doorstep...this is sexual abuse

Do you have a partner OP? But in answer to your question, I don't think it matters if he's been flirty with you or not, it's a gross thing to do to you and your friend. How can it be OK?

Well done for handling a hideous situation so well OP. Your poor friend, I am sure she will be grateful for your approach. I would take the lead from your friend on reporting to the police, but I hope her husband is aware of the fact it is a crime and reportable. What a piece of shit he is.

Did you want OP to list every interaction she'd had with him as existing information?
Personal comments about usernames are a bit low.

I've only read OP's comments, but is this for real? Are there actually women on this site excusing the behaviour of this married man?

What fucking 18th century hole have I fallen into?

I’d be telling him I’d be reporting him to the police (it’s considered a crime in the UK) and then telling her.

You actually said football has a lot to answer for.

Look I’m not being argumentative for the sake of it. It’s an important principle. It’s not football that has a lot to answer for. It’s harrassing, entitled, sexually incontinent men that have a lot to answer for. Not the sport of football. Not the millions of sports fans - men and women - that wouldn’t dream of doing this.

The reason it’s important is we should be holding accountable the people who are committing these offences. It’s not a football problem it’s a them problem.

I've never received or sent any explicit pic to anyone including my dh and would be horrified if even he sent one . Tbh what's the point of them ? Surely they don't send anyone into a sexual frenzy or something like that .
However I think you did the right thing telling your friend . Ok he has apologised and blames being drunk , but that does not exonerate people from doing stuff .
You simply cannot use that as an excuse . End of . He deserves his wife to leave him .

God yes, if she's any friend.