AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

Absolutely tell her in fact screenshot it and send it to her. What a revolting pig he’s not a good partner for your friend.

I am horrified at the minimisation going on in this thread - is this anyway to bring our sons and daughters up - it’s ok if a guy sends a dick pic to his girlfriend’s mate - no, it’s not, never.

And drink is never an excuse - I’m a firm believer that what happens when drunk is something you’re pretty ok with sober just your social boundaries are a bit more solid. But either way this is not acceptable.

Are you that are ok with this also thinking that a bit of domestic violence is ok cos beer?

Seriously odd for a mum driven forum - good to see OP and many posters do get the gravity.

Well done @Anyusernamewilldo8963 for telling your friend - whilst it was the right thing to do that doesn’t make it the easiest thing - but best in the longer term for your friend and to ensure her fella doesn’t think silence is some green light 🤢

What happened next??

Agreed.

Arms, shoulders or hands please!

Sorry you've had this horrible experience OP. Well done for telling your friend, it was the decent thing to do.

Personally I would like to see lots of prosecutions for sending dick pics so men get it into their heads that it's very much not ok and not harmless. That said, not many men will tell others they have been prosecuted so word is unlikely to be spread, unless it is in the local press.

I can't believe you are getting stick for this. You have done the right thing by your friend.

So pleased you’re not my friend!

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This happened to me and it was so out of the blue that I just assumed he’d been hacked. I called her immediately to tell her to get him to change his passwords. Turns out he hadn’t been hacked!

If you read her comments she already did

Can you tell us more about how this has come about ? Do you guys chat regularly or did he out of the blue send his wee Willy winky ?

Oh for heavens sake - bring back the laugh emoji 😂

To answer the question, despite not being an excuser, I can't say I have 😉

You are absolutely right, @NeedToTakeTimeToChill. Do these men really think it is an attractive body part? I mean - I love dh, but his willy is not his most attractive feature, for sure!

Not a helpful comment, but I just don’t understand why men think a picture of their naked mole rat is attractive?

They are the ugliest things ever and should only be handled in the dark.

To clarify before anyone asks, I have read the full thread and my thoughts -

OP - I'd do an online 101 Police Report stating facts. Mention your friend has asked you to not take this further but as it is quite clearly a criminal offence you want it logged. And see what the Police suggest going forward. At this point you don't need to let your friend know -

Why? This guy may have previous. This is the sort of stuff that comes up on Claires Law, sexualised behaviour, unsolicited (and unwanted) pics. This may be the first time he's done something like this - and a good scare may make this the last. However he may have done similar before.

Lets not normalise this sort of behaviour in writing it off as "it could have been a mistake" / "he could have been drunk" , etc. The law is there for a reason, it's been bloody fought over to keep us safe, let's use it.

I couldn't imagine clicking a pic of my Shareen and thinking, nice, I'll send that to my best friend's husband. WTF goes through their tiny minds. Disgusting behaviour.

Men who send unsolicited dick pics are plain fucking revolting.

Women who defend it, too.

I overheard a screaming match between 2 sisters about one sisters boyfriend sending dick pick to the other, the sister who’s boyfriend it was sided with the boyfriend. The messenger always gets shot, message him just say think you sent this to the wrong person, and tell her you think he sent you a dick puck ment for her. Block him.

No.

I don't know why men think women want a dick pic. They are ugly things. That only make you go ick.

Personally I would be offended and actually angry enough to not worry about upsetting friend. What if your son or someone else had seen it? I would be telling her that I was pissed off and that it is never to happen again. Hopefully it might be the catalyst for her to get rid. Wonder if you were the only female to get a pic.

FFS it was intended to be a joke about fanny meaning different a thing in the US from the UK.

Doesn't matter. Drunk or sober, I have never had the urge to photograph my genitals, but or breasts and share those images with anyone. The name people use for their anatomy is completely beside the point.

They are like a huge worm.

Sometimes just a worm.

What a load of drama. I would have deleted it and pretend I'd never seen it. Your poor friend.

@Blondiebeachbabe Are you serious? People like you are part of the problem. Thank goodness your unfathomable attitude is one that’s all but disappeared now: I’m so proud of my DD and her friends for absolutely refusing to put up with any of this shit. Women who support abusive men make me sick.

Nutshell. This was no accident.