AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

Do you realise how stupid this post is? Flashing is the entry level crime of serious sexual
offenders. Yes, a crime.

Jesus all the cool pick me girls on this thread is disgusting. People like you are the reason pervs like Epstein and his ilk can get away with this kind of shit for decades.

@Anyusernamewilldo8963 you've absolutely done the right thing in telling your friend, and if you feel up to it reporting to the police would absolutely not be an overreaction.

But it IS a big deal.
It's disgusting.
Why would a man, drunk or not, send an unsolicited picture of his genitals to his partner's female friend? AND also a message with sexual connotations?
Absolutely no excuse and minimising it is bullshit.
He can face the consequences of his actions.

OP I think you have handled this well. At least your friend is now aware. I have one nagging thought in my head … if he’s prepared to do this to one of her friends …what the hell is he doing behind her back with others!
It’s great that you are there for your friend …be careful he doesn’t try to alienate you now though.

Are you for real ??? 🙄

I can’t believe some of the responses minimising this, even making out you’re over dramatic! And we wonder why women still have to deal with this

Hope you’re ok @Anyusernamewilldo8963

Grow up yourself. And I'm saying that as someone who has shaken her head throughout this thread at how angry people are on here. Is it the heat?

https://www.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/online-safety/online-safety/cyberflashing/

Last line on the above link - People who cyberflash can go on to commit more serious offences. Your report could stop this from happening.

Doesn't sound like the brightest button in the box tbf.

Why would reporting an illegal act be overdoing something ?

I would genuinely ask what illegal acts you would and wouldn’t report to the Police and whether you would be swayed by knowing the person and/or being friends with their partner/spouse ?

Telling OP to grow up a bit is extremely rude.

You can call and have a chat with them. Or pop into your local Police Station (check opening times) and have a talk with the staff at the Counter who will be able to advise. It might depend on If there is previous; if he has history of doing similar to this in the past, with previous partners, their friends (or with children). It is a crime, it should be checked. Police will want his name, date of birth, address - then they can check. They can find out if this is something they need to escalate - the level of how upset you are may be a factor. But certainly worth a chat with 101.

I think you should separate the facts that he has illegally sent you an unsolicited dick pic, and that your friend is his partner.
I don't think this should be your friend's call. It is you who has been victimised here, the fact that he is (was?) your friend's boyfriend is neither here nor there as far as the crime is concerned. Hopefully you'd report any random guy who did this. We need to be calling it out, I think you said previously that this sort of thing has been normalised, and it's not acceptable. What if it hd been your DD on the receiving end? You were targeted because of your connection with your friend, she might be targeted because of her connection with you. The guy is a sicko, please do report him to the police pronto.

Wayne Couzens. Google how many times he exposed himself before murdering, in the most awful way, a young woman. You need to educate yourself on these things. "Grow up a bit"? Yes, you should.

Reporting it to the police a bit to far you’ve told your friend let her deal with it. And grow up a bit he doesn’t need reporting to the police he will be dealt with by his partner. You very well may loose your friendship if you report your friends partner and father to her child to the police 😂 some people I swear they over do everything.

No matter what you do, you’re a great friend.

Emphasis on “wee”. At the end of the day, this guy is a sex pest and the OP is a victim of him.

Remember - he’s blown up her life , OP, not you 💐

It’s a long story and I can’t really detail as it’s very outing and not my story to tell, but initially it was all downplayed and the hacked scenario was happily accepted by the partner. It wasn’t until much later we realised it must have been him.

What a disgusting pathetic prick your mate is lumbered with. I think you did the right thing empowering her as to the next step. Though it would be tempting to let HIM think you are going to the police ...

I know!

Still at it 🤦‍♀️

OP, I’ve only read your comments rather than the whole thread, but I have to say, I think you sound like a really good and loyal friend. I think you absolutely did the right thing by telling her and if she forgives him (which I suspect she might) I hope she doesn’t distance herself from you because it’s easier than being reminded what a sleaze he is every time she sees you.

Keep up at the back 🥰

Disgusted but unfortunately not surprised by the raging misogyny and victim blaming in this thread. OP YANBU.