AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

I know I shouldn’t but that first line…😂😂😂

Was coming to say that this is just modern day flashing but I see others have already mentioned that. I'd report him to the police.

I’d never trust a man who sends dick pics. You just know you’re not the only one receiving them.

I am torn, my first instinct is to tell the police, because flashing, whether its in person or on cyber, can be a gateway offence to other more serious sexual crimes.

On the other hand, it’s her friend. Her friend must be devastated. Even if her friend is supportive of her now, when her life implodes further than it just has done, she will no longer be her friend.

But also, I wouldn’t want to deal with the police. I wouldn’t want to be in their system.

What is it you think she’s drip fed? She hasn’t.

OP, while it's really admirable of you to consider your friends feelings in this, remember you were the one offended against and going forward it should be your choice what to do to take your power back.
Remember this is how a lot of sa offenders keep their victims silent by knowing their victim doesn't to upset those close to them
It's especially common with pedophiles but can be used with adults too.

You are awesome

Yes, technology has really just changed the way flashing is carried out. It still the same thing though.

In my younger years I worked with some troubled teens.
Years later when Facebook started one lad got in touch - he was applying for a job and asked could I help with a personal reference.
This young man had a very troubled upbringing but had burned many bridges.
I thought I’d give him a chance.
He did ask if he could call me to talk about the positive changes he was making and we had a very pleasant conversation. I felt so positive for him and was so pleased he’d come so far.
He got the position and sent me a text to thank me and I replied well done.
About 3 that morning I got my very first dick pic. I vomited.
He also said even when he was a young lad he knew I fancied him and if I was up for it so was he.
He had been 12 at the time and I’d only ever been professional with him.
It unsettled me for days.
A few years later someone else from his group - a young woman - sent me a friend request on Facebook. She’d done really well and I was proud. I told her what had happened and she said well Lee’s a well known alcoholic where we live. He’s violent, he’s beaten his girlfriend up, he’s even worse than he was before.
I felt a bit of an idiot and went through my mind thinking why did he do it?
He did it because he was drunk, and because he abuses women.
I did not encourage him by being a decent human being.

So we only report sexual offences by complete strangers? Jesus.

Unsolicited dicks pics are the online equivalent of the trenchcoat flasher down the park. As teenagers in the 90s we would take the piss out of them and not bother reporting it. We just thought they were random sex pests who couldn't possibly have a girlfriend. I think most women would want to know if that is who they were in a relationship with.

It lets her friend know her DP’a a dirty cheater. If your DP did this, wouldn’t you want to be told so you could evaluate your relationship with him?

Then it wasn't unsolicited. He wanted the pic she hadn't randomly decided to send one

Yes, this hooks him in, and makes it impossible to then claim it was a mistake. I’d do something like this and then go with incontrovertible proof.

Oh dear 🙄🤦‍♂️ Does your partner regularly does this and you turn a blind eye too?

Just tell him not to be an idiot.

Oh that is how we should deal with sex crimes is it? Of course, it's just men being idiots. What a shame no-one told Wayne Couzens what an idiot he was being when he sent unsolicited photos of his genitals to women; he might never have gone on to rape and murder.

I can't see how telling her will achieve anything. Just tell him not to be an idiot.

Thus could be worse

Yes, sorry, you do have to tell her.
What a fool that man must be. And what contempt for women.

Stop telling everyone off. You’ve posted on a random public forum, people will have a variety of opinions.

We can all see you’re taking this very seriously, which is right, but no need to go after posters who don’t feel it’s appropriate to send to the police.

It may well be a criminal offence, but that doesn’t mean, in this circumstance, that it warrants reporting. He’s a cheating scum bag and should absolutely stop sending inappropriate pictures to people, but your friend has a child with him and if you report it, you are going to blow up her world. Let her handle the situation.

My cousin’s husband messaged me one night asking for pics of me topless.

I messaged my cousin and said I thought Steve’s messenger got hacked.

She replied that it had and we never spoke of it again. Steve is a loser and we both knew he sent it.

I moved on and never thought of it again until I was at a family celebration and he came up to me drunk and apologized for asking to see me naked. I nodded and didn’t say anything. It was so uncomfortable.

This is not your fault. Her husband is an asshole. This is not on you at all. You did the right thing.

My friend was coerced into sending them to a man, who then started pestering her to get her friends involved.

Good advice

I don't actually know of any woman who's sent an unsolicited fanny pic, or any man who's received one