AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

What a load of drama. I would have deleted it and pretend I'd never seen it. Your poor friend.

I didn't know this ,as it should be tho . Imagine if her child had been using her phone at the time 🤢

Absolutely this. Excellent advice. Sorry OP; what a horrible thing to happen.

I would tell her, but I'd confront him first so that I could tell/show her his reply. What a sleaze. The trouble is, you would have to be very clear and non-jokey I think, no "I can do better than that", because then it gets into banter. Really lay down the law about disrespect to you and to her, illegality, what on earth made him think you'd be unfaithful to your friend, etc. What a dick he is(!)

Men who do this should be arrested for gross indecency ,he would be arrested if he whipped it out in Person with a comment like that 🤢

Sending unsolicited genital images is now actually illegal. I'd be telling the friend that he needs to be more careful as he may not be aware of this and obviously make it quite plain that you do not want to receive these images, ever. He could find himself on the sex offenders register if he isn't careful.

It's called the consequences of your actions. If you don't want to be reported to the police, don't break the law and stop being a creepy bastard sending unsolicited dick pics. It's really not difficult. God, all the posts minimising what he's done are so cringe, This is exactly why these horrible men get away with stuff like this.

But think about the aftermath

Maybe that's what he should have done.

A full picture.... Did she say how big it was 😂. Think we need proof haha x

I would send a. 'did you mean this for me?' message first. In the event he meant it for you and there was nothing at all in the previous messages that made it look like you were interested in him, I would contact the Police and let them deal with it.

If you want to tread as lightly as possible re your friend you might say to her, "Your DH sent me a photograph on TikTok that I very much hope and expect was meant for you. I won't forward as it's very explicit but you're obviously welcome to have a look on my phone if you like. Hopefully just a mistake and incredibly embarrassing for all concerned but didn't want you to be the only one unaware!"

Exactly this. I also don't understand people who are saying don't tell her / don't report him. Where would you draw the line? If he groped you? Punched you in the face? OP, he is relying on you not telling her for precisely this reason.

I don't think the police are going to visit anyone over sending an unsolicited dick pic. It happens all the time, unfortunately, and it's an absolute bane, but i'd be stunned if there's any forces that have the manpower to visit people.

They'll tell OP to delete and block him.

Poor poor chap, got drunk and just had to flash his dick to his wife’s best friend. Such a real shame, he must be mortified-not! It is not OPs responsibility to ensure that he doesn’t have the repercussions of his actions here. I have never whilst drunk taken a picture of my fanny. Equally, I have never sent a picture of said fanny to one of DHs friends. He doesn’t get a pass because of football drinking.

I did this with one of my exes new Partners and ended up in a police station for sharing explicit photographs. Never mind that he sent it to me in the first place tread very carefully.

I would tell your friend, however hard it may be. You can’t keep it from her. He thinks he can ‘cheapen’ you by assuming you would be ‘up for it’ and willing to be disloyal to your friend. Report to the police too.

No, you mustn’t forward it. Then you’d be breaking the law too!

Wow - it’s ok to flash folk as he’s a bit drunk. It isn’t ok, it’s a criminal offence, same as standing in front of you and dropping his dick out.

Whether OP does or doesn’t report wasn’t really her main point - it’s about telling her friend. It’s not morally ok to be flashing your wife’s mates either - but you’d be ok with your fella doing it cos he had a few tins on England football night - and ultimately rather not know if he was.

There’s more DA when England plays - is that ok due to the ‘beer’?

Best put Saturday in the calendar for potential dick pics and just hope they don’t get through huh!

PS I agree you should tell her

DO NOT forward the image to her. that would be sharing an intimate image without consent - which is potentially an offence regardless of how it ended up in your phone or how understandable the reason for forwarding it. This can be addressed without the photo itself being shown

Initially I thought it must be a mistake, based on OP's description of the cordial and non-flirty face to face interactions. But if penis guy has previously sought her out on two separate social media platforms and DM'd her, then he obviously fancies her. The timing means he was probably pissed, maybe dozens lucky ladies in the area got one.

I think I would reluctantly tell my friend that she is with a horrible stalky pervert.

I suppose the question is what would you do if a random had posted this to you? If you'd report it to the police then that's what you should do in this case, if you'd just delete it and block the number then that's what you should do in this case.
Let him sweat on what you are going to do.

He should have thought about the aftermath? Why is it his victim’s job to cover for him?

Who on earth mistakingly sends a picture of their penis to a partners friend?

I think Reporting to the police is just daft. He will be mortified when he wakes up. He was probably drunk after watching the football. Do you really want to go that far. I think you will lose your friend and embarrass the kids. As they will find out somehow.
I would just message him back saying how disgusting he is and Never to do it again. I think friend will also turn on you if you make such a bug deal of it.
Yes its gross that men do this. Totally out of order. But think about the aftermath.