AIBU to insist we rehome one puppy after my husband bought two?

🚩 breeder was struggling to get rid of a puppy.
🚩 breeder was happy to sell two to the same home

Im willing to bet there are numerous other red flags too.

Rehome both (ideally back to the breeder) and seriously consider rehoming your moronic husband.

Especially with a breed like GSDs - shocking isn't it? And now one of the best case scenarios seems to involve rehoming one of them to an older couple in a rented flat.

I’d rehome both pups! It sounds like work for you!

Also, he needs the DPF clean urgently! I had the misfortune of buying a Range Rover (new) and within 6 years it had issue after issue, every service cost £2k and the DPF filter was a constant problem!

Is he an only child, or at least the only son? This sounds like he's one of those people who expect to get whatever they want, whenever they want it, and have no idea this is unreasonable. Also, apart from this guy bring a totally selfish twat the phrase "£700 below asking" stood out. How much is he squandering? A hundred quid or two to a dog shelter or rescue I can understand, but stupid amounts to the dodgy cruel puppy farms is just not right.

with regards to getting one puppy, we’ve done this before but we were both working full time and didn’t have the time for him and he had behaviour issues

You've phrased this as if the "behaviour issues" were just an additional, coincidental problem last fime you had a dog, when they woud have been a direct consequence of neither of you having time for him.

The only way it's different this time is that there will be be two untrained, demented, massive dogs instead of one, and they will form a little unit of their own. You are not a suitable household for puppies and the the person who sold your husband the dog is wildly irresponsible for letting your husband impulse-buy a second puppy on a whim.

I’m surprised a breeder let two puppies from the same litter go together, particularly as they didn’t meet the whole family and understand your experience with the breed.

Your post is far too long. I’m surprised you have time for one dog, let alone two. Your hours seem all over the shop.

This breeder sounds about as ethical as the Gulag.

He says you don't care about his thoughts or feelings, he clearly didn't care about yours when he made such a massive decision because he wants a German Shepherd.

He should be committing time to finding more hours of sleep than time with dogs he doesn't need right now.

You aren't responding to people commenting on your husband's lack of sleep. People are killed everyday by someone else on the road making poor choices. Your husband is driving one of the biggest things on the road on very little sleep, that's incredibly dangerous.

You love him etc and yet he doesn't seem to care about your opinion or respect you enough to make a joint decision on how money is spent.

Does he prioritise these dogs over your children's needs? It reads that way. I couldn't accept that in a partner. Two new dogs are more important than his own children and wife.

Is your other dog you already have getting all the attention out needs from you and your husband. Reading what you're doing and putting up with it's hard to imagine the dogs needs are being met without more dogs.

I feel sorry for your daughter, her room should surely be a priority.

Why are you in a relationship with a man who can't discuss problems, family issues, party expenses etc.

He behaves like a child, I would be rethinking my relationship as a whole.
You're married to a dick head. He's selfish, unreasonable and immature.

I've said this before on here. I stupidly got 2 pug puppies with my roommate years ago and they grew up so aggressive with so many problems, pugs!! Supposedly the softest dogs around.

The amount of EXTRA effort you would have to put into 2 puppies to prevent this is immense. My friend had to move out with her dog it got that bad. They are 7 now and still have issues around other dogs even after being separated for years (and yes we had trainers and all sorts in!)

2 GSPs is crazy.

I honestly think you should take back both dogs, you already have more on your plate than anyone one person should , you'll be miserable and he won't be there to see it or help deal with them most of the time. You need to make him see that it's not fair on you the dogs or the rest of the family, mentally, physically and financially.

If you keep either puppy make sure you have decent insurance. I'd consider the very fact the breeder dropped prices to encourage your husband to take two together a likely red flag for poor/irresponsible breeding. Did he ask about any health testing?

I'd also echo what others have said re neutering. I think you said they are one male, one female? What was his plan for when she's in season before they are old enough to neuter? Maybe he just hadn't considered it? Taking on any pets should involve research and planning.

You said your husband’s parents live in a flat, even if their landlord agrees to them having a dog it’s still very unlikely to be an appropriate living situation for a fully grown German Shepherd. We have a friend who has one, he’s huge and there is no way he could live safely in any flat I’ve ever been in.

Also, I know this isn’t the point of the thread but can’t your husband go to bed when the children do rather than waiting for you to get home? Three to four hours of sleep on a regular basis surely isn’t safe!

I actually think you're under reacting here. Not just about your dogs but about your husband in general.

He overrides you. He makes decisions that aren't in yours or your family's best interest. He gaslight you when you raise legitimate concerns. He sounds selfish, happy to spend on himself but isn't even keen on giving his daughter a day out on her birthday. He accuses you of 'ruining his dreams' when you point out perfectly valid concerns. It takes you having panic attacks and vomiting before he actually listens to you. Have you heard what you're saying, it's his dream to hsve a German shepherd so you have to facilitate it and do 80pc of the work after already doing 80pc of the work because he doesn't do anything unless you specifically ask him?

This marriage does not sound like an equal partnership in any sense

Try to return them. If you can't return, give one to your friend's mum as she is able to accommodate now. If your parents in law still want one, give them the other one (provided their accommodation is suitable)

Rehome the dh. Then the puppies. You don’t have time to deal with either

i think getting just one was a stupid idea tbh. When were you planning to walk it?!

What the first poster said! YWBU to keep either dog.

It’s likely not that you ‘have a habit of “stopping him doing what he wants to do’ at all - likely that he’s the issue.

Im guessing, based on the way you described finance that you dont live in a massive house with a big garden that can actually accommodate these dogs. the house will stink and it will be an unsafe environment for your child.

How did he think through walking 2 at a time, never mind 3. The puppies are not going to walk nicely alongside your older dog. Therefore I’m wondering where 6 hours will come from to walk each dog separately twice a day.

The way you describe finances feels a bit hand to mouth/ pay heck to paycheck. You can’t afford these dogs - unless you’re going to tell me I’m wrong and you do have emergency savings.

How much have you put aside for their vaccinations and neutering? how much is their insurance?

Im assuming your older dog hates this decision.

They both need to go back and your manipulative controlling husband needs to be sent somewhere too.

Christ. Two GSD puppies at the same time. Thats a lot of work even without the possibility of littermate syndrome. Are they the same sex?

My uncle had two GSD siblings at from the Christ. Two GSD puppies at the same time. Thats a lot of work even without the possibility of littermate syndrome. Are they the same sex?

My uncle had two GSD siblings at from the age of 14 months they would attack each other when one would leave the house or coming in from outside. Not just noise but bloodshed. He had to have them barricaded from each other in one small bungalow.

Plus the breeder is clearly shit and I'm sure no health testing was done on these puppie's parents. GSD's are prone to many health problems.

If your husband cared about these dogs at all he would have wanted to ensure they were well bred with healthy parents/grandparents and bred from dogs with stable temperaments.

Shepherds are very prone to be reactive and need ongoing training. So many of them are from shit breeding and are nervy and high strung. Its a disaster with such a large dog.

And of course the huge cost that come with any dog but especially big ones. And the extra cleaning. They are nicknamed German Shedders for a reason.

I would definitely contact a German shepherd rescue to rehome one (or both) I miss mine incredibly but he was a lot of work, we did weekly training classes plus agility and walked for a minimum of 2 hours a day and he was a happy and fulfilled.
BUT I'm single with no kids.

Good luck. I hope these pups get the life they deserve.

I didnt even read beyond the first few lines and clocked children, lorry driver and two German shepherds and thought no, no, no.

Both puppies need to be returned to the breeder. Your life is already chaos without adding another dog into it. It’s not fair on the dogs. Or you. Your husband is very selfish. He’s also very good at manipulating you. He’s not putting you or his children before his own wants.

And it’s madness to think housing a large dog like a GS in an apartment with your parents is a good idea.

Your husband is controlling, both money and the household decisions. Why do you put up with this.

Return the puppies to the breeder and put DH on Gumtree free of charge !

This!!!

I don’t think you can afford either of the puppies from a time, energy or money perspective.

I don’t understand why you don’t have any decision making power in your own home.
You sound exceptionally passive and he sounds very manipulative and controlling. Does he control the finances too?

I hate this for you. This is about so much more than the puppies.

The initial cost price of the pups is almost incidental.

the major cost is the ongoing feeding, vets, insurance, worming etc etc

but also the time cost.

2 pups especially from the same litter in addition to all the toilet training accidents - will need both individual and paired training.

puppies are hard work snd training needs to be little and often around their nap times and play times and all this will need to be supervised and I think he thinks you would do this.

1 puppy is a massive commitment - 2 is practically a full time undertaking for the first 18th months.

these are not little dogs / they are powrrful string and potentially lethal if not socialised and trained from the beginning.

unless your family has the time energy. Nd money to do all these pupppies need - they need to go back to the ‘breeder’

knowing how throughly our breeder vetted us (quite rightly do ) to ensure that his puppie would go to a good home with everything in place for them - I’m a bit dubious about where he got them from.

ours wanted to talk to all the adults in the family - see the garden / place they would live - know our training plans - know why we wanted the fig etc etc etc - really endured his pups going to the right homes - our breader wasn’t just interested in the money - he wanted to ensure it would work and quite rightly so.

all good breaders accept the dogs back (probably won’t get the money back) but it doesn’t sound like your family is in the position to take in 2 dogs at the moment.

stop this now - as it is not going to work unless everyone is on board financially and in giving the time these 2 babies need.