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Regret blocking my only friend

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LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 20:33

He is my only friend in the city. We started out dating a year ago but it ended after I discovered that he had a partner who he expected me to be poly with. I also recently found out he has a child. The idea of polyamory was suggested to her after she was pregnant, at the end of her childbearing years, and finanically dependent on him. Sounds to me like she was in a bit of a hostage situation and forced to agree.

He is still in love with me and trying to talk me round to moving in with his family and having babies with him immediately. He and his wife are 10 years older than me and I am way too young to have a baby, I also don't have any romantic feelings for him anymore and I'm dating other people.

I blocked him because he talked down on my looks, told me that only desperate low-value women use dating apps (he and I met on bumble) and tried to humiliate me by sexually harassing a young employee of the cafe we were at. (I think the 'looks disparity' between us is localized exclusively in his own brain). He also regurgitated some Redditor rhetoric about how a large amount of rape cases being dismissed = women often lie about rape which I found really repulsive. He went on to say that he has loads and loads of romantic prospects and could walk into town and easily take any woman home to have sex with. I asked why doesn't he do that instead of pursuing me and he told me he 'wants me'.

I have literally no friends and he was the only person in the city who I know who takes me out to do nice things. I feel extremely alone and I regret falling out with him but I can't just let someone treat me however crazy way they want just because they're freaking out about not wanting to get back together and not being in control.

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MyArtfulGreySloth · 23/06/2026 22:25

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:24

I blocked him and am not considering hanging out with him again. Do they do refunds on whichever intensive reading programmes I'm sure you must have been enrolled in?

But your title is literally saying you regret blocking him 😂

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:25

I assure you all I'm not making any of this stuff up, I can post screenshots of the final message I sent him before blocking

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WilfredsPies · 23/06/2026 22:24

Cluelessfirstimer · 23/06/2026 22:23

Excuse the C bomb! I forget not everyone likes that...

I’m all for it, and I think it’s warranted here.

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:24

JazzyJelly · 23/06/2026 22:20

'I have no friends. Should I hang out with an unpleasant man ten years my senior who wants me to move in with his wife and young child who I have never met, and have his babies? No I haven't considered a book or sports club'.

Do they do refunds on degrees?

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I blocked him and am not considering hanging out with him again. Do they do refunds on whichever intensive reading programmes I'm sure you must have been enrolled in?

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MyArtfulGreySloth · 23/06/2026 22:24

He is not in love with you op, he is manipulative and horrible. Actually, you sound like a good match.

Cluelessfirstimer · 23/06/2026 22:23

Cluelessfirstimer · 23/06/2026 22:20

Agree. Either way they need some help. True - youre replies are vile and you have been hurt to the point that youve turned into a bit of a cunt.
Fake - youre just a cunt.

Excuse the C bomb! I forget not everyone likes that...

FirstNationsEnglish · 23/06/2026 22:22

Polyamory? Is that a twee word for shagging around? Once upon a time it was called promiscuity. Whatever this thread is, it certainly is no 'love' story. More accurately it could be called a delusional lust story.

Cluelessfirstimer · 23/06/2026 22:20

Happyjoe · 23/06/2026 22:16

This has to be a wind up.

Agree. Either way they need some help. True - youre replies are vile and you have been hurt to the point that youve turned into a bit of a cunt.
Fake - youre just a cunt.

JazzyJelly · 23/06/2026 22:20

'I have no friends. Should I hang out with an unpleasant man ten years my senior who wants me to move in with his wife and young child who I have never met, and have his babies? No I haven't considered a book or sports club'.

Do they do refunds on degrees?

WilfredsPies · 23/06/2026 22:19

Backedoffhackedoff · 23/06/2026 21:08

What disdain? I don’t understand what this means

It means she’s an arsehole to almost everyone because she thinks she’s better than them. If she was chocolate, she’d have eaten herself.

OP, isn’t it a coincidence that the only person who wants to spend time with you is also an arsehole to almost everyone? And that’s largely because he wants to have sex with you, rather than because he appreciates your personality.

He is wealthy and attractive. She is neither of those things This is where you’ve been particularly shitty and nasty about his wife and I can only assume that you have difficulties with friendships because you needed people to explain this to you.

There are loads of lovely people out there who struggle with friendships because of moving around, or lack of opportunity, or already established friend groups. I’ve no doubt that this heat is making me far meaner than I would usually be, but the contemptuous way you’ve talked about his wife has really pissed me off. You are clearly very clever if you’ve got the qualifications you claim to have, but you are destined for a very lonely life unless you develop some emotional intelligence. Nobody wants to be friends with an arsehole.

Calendulaaria · 23/06/2026 22:18

You sound vulnerable, with low self esteem. Someone this predator-type would attach himself to. The smartest thing you did was block him.

SoggyTissue · 23/06/2026 22:18

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 21:40

He has been begging me to get back with him and I've blocked him. Not that I care if he is or not , I am acutally in love with someone else...

Then why do you regret blocking?

Must be going so well with your new love if he doesn't take you anywhere nice, as per your previous post.

Get some help hun.

NannyOf8Girls · 23/06/2026 22:17

Sorry I ticked YANBU by mistake.....please run from this man...

Happyjoe · 23/06/2026 22:16

This has to be a wind up.

SoggyTissue · 23/06/2026 22:15

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 21:34

A lot of you people are lashing out at me because another woman's husband is in love with me and it reminds you of your worst fears. I was NOT aware of his marital status when we first dated.

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Lol 'in love with you'... that had me laughing until I realised how sad you it is that you believe being treated like that is 'love'.

fireandlightening · 23/06/2026 22:15

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:07

It actually is. Apparently she doesn't get other partners. I don't think she could if she wanted to tbh.

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You are coming across as deeply unpleasant and a rank misogynist. Can you just stop with your nastiness and judgment of this woman? You seem fixated on her!

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:14

Kalanthe · 23/06/2026 22:12

Did you watch that manosphere documentary by Louis Theroux? It’s on Netflix. It featured men like this, openly admitting that being poly is only for them and the poor women who birthed their children were not allowed to see other men, just silently tolerate whatever they get put through

No I haven't but have heard a lot about it. Should i watch it?

One time i called him an Andrew Tate prick and he got so pissed he practically threw me out his car.

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Cluelessfirstimer · 23/06/2026 22:13

Sigh ok.

If this is true you need to seriously consider some therapy. Your replies are very juvenile and rude and its almost like you are goading people. You've clearly been stung and I really think you need to see someone. Kindly.

If this is fake then you need to seriously consider therapy. Many women and men feel lonely having been dragged into these kind of situations and its not funny. Its not something to make fun of on an Internet forum and it makes you a really shit human.

I hope its the former and I hope you work on yourself and get the help you need.

Happyjoe · 23/06/2026 22:13

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:10

Erm. It's the truth.

Is it? Or his version of the truth? I take it you've never met her.

SerendipityCat · 23/06/2026 22:13

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 21:55

I meet a lot of guys on Bumble who remind me of my dead bf in some ways or others and fall for them pretty hard immediately because of their proximity to him. But I can't ever stand to stick around otherwise I feel like I risk losing him all over again. Every time I go on dates with a guy who reminds me of him I get a vivid dream of his corpse in some state of decay. I don't really know how to address this issue.

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Oh dear. That's the shark well and truly jumped.

Kalanthe · 23/06/2026 22:12

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:07

It actually is. Apparently she doesn't get other partners. I don't think she could if she wanted to tbh.

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Did you watch that manosphere documentary by Louis Theroux? It’s on Netflix. It featured men like this, openly admitting that being poly is only for them and the poor women who birthed their children were not allowed to see other men, just silently tolerate whatever they get put through

Frugalgal · 23/06/2026 22:11

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 20:33

He is my only friend in the city. We started out dating a year ago but it ended after I discovered that he had a partner who he expected me to be poly with. I also recently found out he has a child. The idea of polyamory was suggested to her after she was pregnant, at the end of her childbearing years, and finanically dependent on him. Sounds to me like she was in a bit of a hostage situation and forced to agree.

He is still in love with me and trying to talk me round to moving in with his family and having babies with him immediately. He and his wife are 10 years older than me and I am way too young to have a baby, I also don't have any romantic feelings for him anymore and I'm dating other people.

I blocked him because he talked down on my looks, told me that only desperate low-value women use dating apps (he and I met on bumble) and tried to humiliate me by sexually harassing a young employee of the cafe we were at. (I think the 'looks disparity' between us is localized exclusively in his own brain). He also regurgitated some Redditor rhetoric about how a large amount of rape cases being dismissed = women often lie about rape which I found really repulsive. He went on to say that he has loads and loads of romantic prospects and could walk into town and easily take any woman home to have sex with. I asked why doesn't he do that instead of pursuing me and he told me he 'wants me'.

I have literally no friends and he was the only person in the city who I know who takes me out to do nice things. I feel extremely alone and I regret falling out with him but I can't just let someone treat me however crazy way they want just because they're freaking out about not wanting to get back together and not being in control.

He sounds absolutely monstrous!! Dear God please do not reconnect with him.

Join some groups, please anything but that creep.

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 22:10

ScotiaLass · 23/06/2026 22:09

This is vile OP!

Erm. It's the truth.

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ScotiaLass · 23/06/2026 22:09

LovingPeachFatball · 23/06/2026 20:45

Though I feel bad for the deliberate timing of the proposal being at her pregnancy, there is literally nothing to suggest she is a victim, the evidence points to her just being a terminal pickme who thinks having a Nigel who cheats on her is better than having no Nigel at all. Probably thinks she can't do better and tbh she might even be right. I literally don't know anything about her or about their relationship to go calling police on them.

Being a pickme is not a crime lmfao

He is wealthy and attractive. She is neither of those things and probably feels lucky to even be there. I think she's choosing this.

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This is vile OP!

OakleyAnnie · 23/06/2026 22:09

Not the point of the thread, but how are you too young to have a baby and she is at the end of her childbearing years but only 10 years older than you? Which years do you see as thechildbearing ones?