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He said he didn't want a meal then made himself something I don't eat

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Abbyarn · 23/06/2026 16:57

DP went to the supermarket earlier to get us something for our tea. Beforehand, he repeatedly said he didn't want a meal today and just fancied a salad. Its 37 degrees here and he didn't want to add to the heat in the apartment by cooking.

I would've happily had something more substantial but took on board what he said about the heat indoors.

I said fair enough, I'll just have a cheese and pickle sandwich then if you're having salad.

Meal time comes, I have half of my sandwich (which was shit because the cheese was warm) then I go into the kitchen afterwards to see him cooking prawn stir fry, eggs on the side. A big wok full of food.

Wtf? I thought you didn't want a meal I said.. I changed my mind he said.

I said he could have called and said that and I'd have asked him to get me something else.

He said he only changed his mind once he was in the shop.

I hate prawns which he knows very well, so I wasn't going to eat any of it.

AIBU to be pissed off?

OP posts:
Abbyarn · 23/06/2026 17:03

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 17:02

I don’t really see the issue, you didn’t need to have something cold because he was. You were already both having individual meals we why does it matter that he’s now cooking a prawn stir fry when you don’t even like it?

I only opted for a sandwich because he made a big point of not wanting to cook and add to the heat indoors.

I was being considerate of that when I said oh ill just have a sandwich then.

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Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 17:02

I don’t really see the issue, you didn’t need to have something cold because he was. You were already both having individual meals we why does it matter that he’s now cooking a prawn stir fry when you don’t even like it?

SourdoughSally · 23/06/2026 17:01

YABVU - cheese should always be warm

Noshadowsinthedarkness · 23/06/2026 17:01

He got you what you asked for and changed his mind about what he ate… just ask for what you want next time.

MrsDroughtFire · 23/06/2026 17:01

What a selfish toad of a man.

I would make a point of cooking food he doesn’t like every time I cook in future and saying “oh I forgot you didn’t like it.” Just to wind him up.

ManyATrueWord · 23/06/2026 16:59

Crappy behaviour. Learn from it and in future says what you want. Don't make yourself small for him.