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Husband and trips abroad

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Mmmama89 · 23/06/2026 15:56

How would you feel about your husband going away on two week long holidays with the “boys” to long hall placed once a year (such as Jamaica Thailand Brazil) I don’t want to be unreasonable but I don’t feel comfortable with it. I’ve lived long enough to know the chances are there is cheating and other things probably. How would you handle this.

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minipie · 23/06/2026 16:34

DH wouldn’t dream of suggesting this and nor would I.

We have both done long weekends away. I can imagine a week being mooted as a one off for a particular reason. 2 weeks? Not a chance.

Miranda65 · 23/06/2026 16:24

If you don't trust your husband, OP, then the length of the holiday is irrelevant.
Personally, I think it's fine for couples to have separate holidays - you're not joined at the hip.

Ponderingwindow · 23/06/2026 16:19

That just isn’t compatible with the demands on our life as parents. We can’t both disappear for 2 weeks a year without an undue burden in the other person.

I know some families have easier children, but that just isn’t our reality.

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Mmmama89 · 23/06/2026 16:15

Together ten years married for half of that we have kids and generally have a good marriage family holidays etc never been given reason to believe he’s been unfaithful but generally think it’s likely given that I would very unlikely to find out . I just think that’s very much single man behaviour however I want to make sure I’m not being overly unreasonable and sensitive

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Kalanthe · 23/06/2026 16:07

If he wants to have bachelor trips he should’ve stayed a bachelor. You can’t have both

fireandlightening · 23/06/2026 16:07

A long weekend, a ski trip etc would be absolutely fine, but two-week long holidays every year? Nope, not okay. Do you have kids? If so, absolutely not. The potential for cheating adds another dimension, but this is presumably the tip of the iceberg of twatty behaviour?

DavidStopActingLikeADisgruntledPelican · 23/06/2026 16:07

Just out of interest do you go on holidays like that as a couple/family? I wouldn’t put up with my husband buggering off for a fortnight at a time with his mates- or not now that we have children anyway.

HollyIvie · 23/06/2026 16:04

Do you get equal time away with your friends? I wouldn’t be happy about this if you don’t. although guess it depends if kids involved.

Would expect the big two week holiday to be a family affair.
Obvs good for you both to do your own thing with friends but I would have thought maybe doing a weekend or night away.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 23/06/2026 16:01

Every year? God no.

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 16:00

Why would he cheat any more on a long haul holiday than a European city break?

Or you don’t agree with couples doing anything separately?

Swiftie1878 · 23/06/2026 16:00

It wouldn’t happen. My DH wouldn’t want to spend two weeks away like that barring a special event like a Rugby World Cup tour or something.

MinnieMountain · 23/06/2026 16:00

DH and I both do our own thing for a week a year, plus odd weekends.

2 weeks wouldn't happen, let alone the type of holiday where there's a risk of cheating etc.

Flamingojune · 23/06/2026 15:59

Its shit but how old and how long married

CeramicRoses · 23/06/2026 15:58

Do you go to nice destinations together, or do the finances get used up on these holidays? Aside from if it interfered with joint holiday plans, I would have no problem with it as I trust my partner. Has he given you reason not to trust him?

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 23/06/2026 15:57

It simply would not happen. And don't listen to the people who will say "It's fine if you go away for two weeks too".