To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

If you have to tell people it's funny, then it's not funny.

No don t agree with your comment
.. but..is he a builder ..then thats what you get

It certainly doesn't have to be all newspapers and slippers, I'd actually like to remain attracted to the man I was with, which I wouldn't be if he made such crass 'jokes'....therefore the relationship would end up as newspapers and slippers.

I've seen some videos of couples who talk to each other like this and it is definitely not my idea of fun or banter.

You'd hate to have someone so serious, and plenty of us would hate to have a man who said things like that, there is someone out there for everyone and we're not all going to like the same people.

Had to look that one up...its low class...it won t get better

It’s a joke ffs, men are immature anyway. I don’t know what half of you are expecting. If he’s great in all other ways and has said one thing for a joke… it’s a joke.. it’s a JOKE . . after a few dates loosen up a little, a relationship/ dating doesn’t have to be all newspaper and slippers already. Yes it sounds abit vile, If you don’t like it tell him, if things have been great upto now surely if he’s ok to say words like that you’re ok to tell him you don’t like words like that. Or be even more disgusting and put back there no chance of having a clean growler in this weather 🤣 see what his reaction is. It’s banter. If you can’t have a laugh move on to the next. I’d hate to have someone so serious.

Oh @PebbleBeAPenguin, you’re funny 😁 The Inbetweeners was a comedy. It was popular because the boys reminded many of us of how boys behaved when we were at school in the 90s. They were crass and vulgar and didn’t know how to be attractive to the girls they liked. Yes, we were supposed to be quite fond of the characters in the end, and want them to succeed in their romantic efforts, but they weren’t in any way supposed to represent normal adult men- they were teenagers! No grown woman with any self-respect will be wooed by a Jay Slater making vulgar remarks about clunges and minges.

Men joking about the smell of women’s genitals is misogyny. The intimate areas of human bodies- male or female- will smell unpleasant if not washed properly or if there is infection present. Most women know how to keep their bodies clean. You don’t have to have a ‘whiffy growler’ to find men who make such comments unattractive.

Don't tell him why you cancelled. If you tell him he could hide his real views on some poor future date. Let him show everyone the real him and let them decide.

In other words the only women who are offended by this must not clean themselves properly? 😂😂

I have no interest in being a cool girl and laughing along with jokes I don't find funny or just ignoring them. I'm not desperate.

What do you mean 'we'? Are you a woman?

There's nothing immature about dumping a man who makes a crass comment, and i highly doubt that any man making comments like that treats any woman like a queen or fosters an enjoyable masculine/feminine dynamic within a relationship.

And she would also have decided you weren't worth having in the first place.
A woman dumping a man doesn't mean she is bullying him 😂😂

Oh yes of course she shouldn't trust her own feelings and gut or the opinions of women ad she should go and ask some other men 😂 I'm astounded you would suggest that.

You'd banter back and then later on say you don't like that sort of thing? That's just weird. Why encourage behaviour you don't like only to tell him later you didn't like it?

If that's his attempt at connection then God help him. Maybe he should go and speak to some women he knows and ask how he should connect with women.

You’re*

Ah! Now I do recognize the ‘no, you!’ rebuttal from childhood, up there with ‘my mum says you’re just jealous’ as a sophisticated comeback for seven year olds.

If you truly cannot conceive of this not being someone’s normal experience, or you’re under the impression that standards are nothing more than an affectation then well, like I said, we have very different lives and values.

I’m not sure why you’re assuming expertise on the subject of ‘class’ (still just standards!) as if you’ve ever familiarized yourself with the concept. Not that it has to be beyond you - keep on following that yellow brick road, Dorothy, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll get there in the end.

It appears your you're not "educated enough" to use basic spelling and grammar correctly, or to clarify who you're addressing in this nonsensical post.

This is horrible and is making me squirm and recoil on your behalf. Would put me off completely.
Personally I wouldn’t have said “freshen up” though. I’d have said something like I need time to get changed.

You literally admitted the joke is designed by incels to undermine women, but then blamed the women for being annoyed by it. That’s some Olympic-level mental gymnastics just to defend a bloke who lacks basic manners.

True confidence is calling out cheap, childish insults when you see them, not laughing along with incels just to prove to an internet thread that you use soap.

population of uk 70 Mill population of usa 300 Mill plus millions of English language countries around the globe , a few dozen people on here , insecure about their own personal hygiene doesn't make them the majority, it's only insecure men and women who worry about personal hygiene like that ,the incels make the fishy 'joke' to undermine women and the insecure women take offence. those of us with confidence and soap know we are healthy and ignore the joke or laugh along

population of uk 70 Mill population of usa 300 Mill plus millions of English language countries around the globe , a few dozen people on here , insecure about their own personal hygiene doesn't make them the majority, it's only insecure men and women who worry about personal hygiene like that ,the incels make the fishy 'joke' to undermine women and the insecure women take offence. those of us with confidence and soap know we are healthy and ignore the joke or laugh along

I don't want to give full details but some comment about loose women cos we didn't er wait ever so long to do the do not that he complained at the time.

What was the joke?

If you are going to dump him, please could you say something like 'Sorry Simon, ive decided not to see you again. I've tried to wash my minge but I can't promise it won't still be a bit whiffy so best leave it eh?'

Make him aware the WG comment was the deal breaker.

Yes, I would cancel, block and delete.

It does. Otherwise, why would having a pongy minge matter if you weren't planning to shag the guy?

Or, or, you could try having a sense of humour instead of shutting down all men for daring to feel comfortable around you to make a joke.

‘Successful’? Did we watch the same show…?

If that reflects and reflected you and your peers then I’m not sure what to say except to acknowledge that we have very, very different lives and values, and to appreciate my good fortune.