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To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

838 replies

Datingwoee · 23/06/2026 15:52

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

OP posts:
ClearFruit · 23/06/2026 16:25

Huge ick. Do NOT go on the date, or on any other dates with him.

TheMaidofOrleans · 23/06/2026 16:25

Yes I would cancel but tell him why.
Life is too short for this revolving language

InterIgnis · 23/06/2026 16:23

Cancel.

That’s repulsive regardless of how long I’ve known someone.

CurlewKate · 23/06/2026 16:23

The people who are saying it’s a joke-can you explain why it’s funny?

Harrumphhhh · 23/06/2026 16:22

Ugh. No. Cancel.

Have you come across the Burned Haystack method? There’s a Facebook group. It’ll help you feel better about blocking men early in relationships. They don’t improve.

PetulaGordeno · 23/06/2026 16:20

Honestly I think it’s vile.
You don’t know him that well yet and instead of being a gentleman he’s gone straight to grim.

ohyesido · 23/06/2026 16:20

That’s so crass. You are right to cancel

BruceAndNosh · 23/06/2026 16:20

Has he met your growler yet?

ExplodingSmittens · 23/06/2026 16:19

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 23/06/2026 15:55

If it was someone I knew quite well I would find it funny, but not someone I've only seen five times.

I wouldn’t even find that funny from DH and I’ve known him years.

Wishimaywishimight · 23/06/2026 16:19

Oh come on, you can't for a second think this is ok? It's a vile, crude comment and shows the type of man he is.

I would reply "That may be your idea of witty repartee, it's not mine. I won't be seeing you again."

Magicpaintbrush · 23/06/2026 16:18

There's no way I would see him again after that revolting comment. How fucking juvenile and disgusting.

Thepeopleversuswork · 23/06/2026 16:18

Vom. I would never be able to countenance sex with such a person.

Sparkletastic · 23/06/2026 16:18

Urgh amazed anyone thinks that is funny

JoyousOpalLemur · 23/06/2026 16:17

Delete number and block

rwalker · 23/06/2026 16:16

with things like this you need to know your audience
5 dates I’d say no

Sparrowsandbudgies · 23/06/2026 16:15

No. Immediately no. Ick.

ClimbEveryLadder · 23/06/2026 16:14

You can cancel a date for any reason you like.

That’s grim, tells you he’s misogynistic and crude. Throw him back and try again

OhBotherSaidPoo · 23/06/2026 16:09

Well in that case he better wash his face

Alittlefrustrated · 23/06/2026 16:04

No point telling him his joke/language isn't funny, because he thinks it is 🤷
You can't change that. I'd move on.

GisGasGus · 23/06/2026 16:03

Have you slept together yet? Definitely ick if not and still ick if you have really

monkeysox · 23/06/2026 16:02

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 23/06/2026 15:55

If it was someone I knew quite well I would find it funny, but not someone I've only seen five times.

This

outerspacepotato · 23/06/2026 16:01

Ick.

If what he said is what I think he said, he can fuck right off.

geumsun · 23/06/2026 16:01

At least he revealed why he's single early. Next!

Pippa12 · 23/06/2026 16:00

It did make me laugh tbh but I’d be abit shocked if I was sent that early on in a relationship.

Depends how much you like him tho, maybe it’s just a case of telling him you don’t find that language acceptable.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 23/06/2026 16:00

Yuck

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