To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

Personally, I wouldn’t touch him with a barge pole.

Ask him what he means with faux innocence

Why is it funny?

I guess that proves the saying there's someone out there for everyone, you're in luck that there's not going to be anyone else fighting you for him on the basis of the replies so far 😀

Are you sleeping with him? If yes then I think it is a poor joke but nothing major. If not, then that is date cancelling for me. Major ick from a man im not intimate with.

Well where I’m from a growler is a pork pie 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 but yeah it’s a bit grim after a few dates.

I’ve never heard of a growler. Guessing it’s slang for vulva, but is it like fanny , which I think is neutral, pussy, which I think is ghastly and twee , or is it more like twat or minge, which I would not expect an adult to use?

Thats really funny - made me snort! its how I talk to friends/partner/brothers. If it was a new person I was dating I would be a bit taken aback - but also be quite excited that they had the same crude humour as me/my close circle. Hed probably be a keeper for me. If you aren't that way inclined though then don't go there.

It would depend on how much I liked him and if there was anything else that made me cringe. Over the years I’ve made a decent amount of jokes that have landed flat because sometimes I don’t think before I speak - so on the one hand I kind of get it. On the other hand it’s a minging comment and the word “growler” made me fucking wince.

I just screamed.
If you don't cancel I'll cancel it for you right here right now and I'll cancel it again tomorrow and everyday for the rest of the year.

Way too gross for a new relationship especially!! Eeewww

Have to say that would give me serious ick.

My immediate reaction was Eww.

My major ick is he used the word growler. It says everything about the kind of man he is. And the fact he said it to you. And it wouldn’t be the type I would get involved with.

It sounds exactly like a remark that my ex would make. He thought anything regarding women's bodies and their functions was absolutely hysterical. Basically he had the sense of humour of a thirteen year old boy. At first I put it down to nerves, then to just misjudging tone. It took me longer than I will admit to realise that, no, he really thought like a teenager at the age of fifty.

The thing is, you have to think of the type of man that says this sort of thing. They're not very bright and not educated.

In the years I've known my partner he would never ever say that sort of thing. I also can't think of a male friend who would say that.

Assuming it's given you a major ick I would take it as a sign you're not compatible and not waste any more time with him,which is actually the kindest thing for him as well as you.

Given that a couple of women said they found it funny, but just not on 5th date, there's obviously a woman out there somewhere who doesn't mind this kind of humour.

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stupid man.

I’d dump for “lol” alone.

Idiot.

I suppose it depends on how you usually speak to each other and if you've been intimate at all.

If this is your usual banter then it doesn't seem bad, but if you barely know the man and have just been for a drink/meal/walk with him then it's a bit much 😂

I mean, it is funny but I wouldn’t want to go on another date with him. Too crude, too soon

Yuck.

Definitely cancel. What a vile man with vile attitudes.

This is a good idea

It depends on you. I would cancel as I hate stuff like this and would give mr a clue that we wouldn’t be compatible. I have friends, however, who I know would find this hilarious.

From my husband yes it would be funny I wouldn’t think anything of it. From a man I’d seen a handful of times no it’s not funny.

It’s like a line straight from Jane Austen 🙄 in the bin he goes.