To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

I know right! This place never ceases to amaze me! According to a few people here. 'I'm going to freshen up' means 'I'm going to wash my vulva.' WTAF?! 😂

Yep. And call me old fashioned, but I wouldn't be shagging someone by the 3rd/4th date either (as the OP appears to have done.) And imagine having sex with a man and almost immediately afterwards, he mentions you making sure you clean your smelly fanny!

Do you think he was maybe hinting at something @Datingwoee ?

I would have to have known a man a few years to be able to laugh that one off.so yeah, no decorum, cancel the date.

The OP didn’t bring it up. She didn’t say ‘Let’s delay the date for an hour so I can wash my vulva ready to have sex with you’. She said she wanted to ‘freshen up’ and although a couple of posters have interpreted that as meaning washing genitals (🤔) I think to most people it means have a shower/brush teeth.

Euw that is gross. People fart in front of each other? On purpose?

I think it’s a yellow card, not a red
But he’s definitely on a final warning

But I would add - for him, it may be a sigh of familiarity. Like farting in front of each other when you are a couple etc.

Urban dictionary says so - I had to look it up too!

Does his name begin with A?

It depends on the context. But from your reaction I doubt this is the kind of language you used up to now while chatting so I would firstly make sure he knows you are not amused and dont find it finny - and secondly, would re-evaluate how suitable you are. Some people "get" this kind of "banter", some - don't. If up to now he was a perfect gent and after having sex thinks he can talk to you like this.... I would find it very off putting.

I'm sorry but I did laugh 😂 I personally wouldn't cancel a date over that comment.

I’d find it funny and a bit flirtatious

Young people? I’m middle aged and would immediately lose attraction for a man who spoke like this.

I’d just point out (in person) that you found that joke a bit crude and maybe that’s a level of language to save for jokes with male friends. We can all be guilty of not reading the room so don’t hate him completely. It’s not a funny comment but if he’s otherwise a nice guy give him a chance.

Of course if he gets the arse and makes it about you being ‘sensitive’ then give him the immediate heave-ho. The only right response is a bit of apologetic humility and a good natured sorry.

Me too. It's daft!

Well apart from the fact that his choice of words would have given me the ick on it's own, because it's crude and gross from someone you've only met four times, what would put me right off would be that that was his first and immediate thought. It tells you what's uppermost in his mind and if all he wants is sex then it's not a relationship I would want.

Stop now

Even though OP brought it up first?

I wouldn’t think anything about talking to someone about their sweaty balls.

I would have found his comment funny and I definitely wouldn’t cancel a date over it.

It`s mumsnet everything a man does or says will be offensive.

Yes its either grim comments about women's fannies being smelly or no sex for the rest of your life.

Those are the ONLY two options. 🙄

Good grief

There are loads of men who do things a lot worse than this, and yet, their partners don’t break up with them.

Sorry but this has to be one of the most ridiculous comments on the thread. The fact that some women put up with a lot worse from men means all women have to accept childish, puerile attempts at humour/seduction? Raise your bar FGS!

Maybe it’s better than shagging blokes who refer to your growler.

Horrible

Get over ya self.
It`s a joke.

🤮 I love a joke/ banter but this is revolting and would make me drier than the Sahara

Fucking gross