To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

Cringey and not deserving of your company, poor manners dressed-up as a "joke"? Maybe not, maybe his true-self rearing its head, personally I would not hang around to witness again... your call though 😌

because some people have lower standards or because they let one ''joke'' go and it gradually builds up to something much worse and by that time, they are in too deep and struggle more to get out. It is easier to stop things before deep feelings get involved and lives aren't joint.

I imagine that most people who consider this comment unacceptable would obviously consider worse things unacceptable too.

I would say it reveals his misogyny. For me that’s a very important aspect of character that I would not overlook. I would say it speaks to how he treats other people. I would guess that someone this coarse is unlikely to delicately resolve anything.

If you think misogynistic ‘jokes’ are just bants then you won’t see my point of view. But I’m not writing for you, and you can carry on with your own life where you can find these kind of ‘jokes’ uproariously funny, but I’m writing for the OP and for anyone who wants to avoid misogynistic men.

You can judge people’s characters using any metric you like. There’s no law about it.

And so can I. I don’t need you to tell me what I should be doing. The OP actually asked and I’ve given my opinion.

If that comment is unnacceptable, then why are the countless men who say and do the most horrific things considered appropriate for relationships?

I wouldn't waste your time arguing with this poster. He's always got some sort of oppositional view whenever he pops up, I don't think I've ever seen him make a comment that isn't aimed at stirring the pot, defending men, or making women out to be "just as bad", whatever the given context is. He's known for it.

It's not trolling, but there's always an agenda. Best left ignored.

Nope.

I can't believe the amount of people who've said they laughed at reading that comment.

It's not even remotely funny.

I said YABU because he’s probably just made a clumsy comment trying to be funny

I'd block him and leave him to work it out for himself.

It's the kind of humour I'd associate with a sniggering little boy and I'd find it extremely off putting. Could it be that his mask is slipping?

It's irrelevant really. Just because you'd put up with it, it doesn't mean that OP and pp have to.

Especially in the context of a relationship.

Ugh disgusting. I couldn't be near him after that.

Doubtful. It’s not a case of not being able to bear it, but choosing not to. I don’t need to subject myself to men I find repulsive, so I don’t.

If you wish to accept people speaking to you in such a classless way then that’s up to you. I will not.

She did.

Angela Rayner used that word about herself.

I thought Angela R used the phrase herself when she was talking about distracting the Tory front bench.

@InterIgnis A comment you dislike it not the same thing as a comment that is unacceptable to the point of no return.

Unacceptable to the point of no return?

I really wish you could hear the things that men, women, employers, and colleagues have said to me in the past. It seems like it would be far too extreme for you to bear.

@ruethewhirl (And if you are a man, I can't help wondering if you've said similar things yourself... 🤔)

I don't.

That's disgusting, too. Why do so many people have to conjure up such horrible images? I've seen it a bit on here - someone's username recently made me feel quite sick. There's nothing clever or funny about foul imagery.

Make sure it is his last ever comment to you.

I would be insulted, as well as turned off by the vulgar language. What a prince! I'm not saying he's bad or awful or anything, he might be great, but for me that would be too much of a disconnect. I like refined men.

Also, just that phrase would makes me feel a little sick. It's gross.

What an explanation! Tickled me that has 🤣🤣

Until this thread I had not heard the term "growler" as it refers to female genitalia. It's given me a whole new perspective on the name given to Angela Rayner. I don't particularly like AR but that's just disgusting.
Might as well just call her "fire crotch" and have done with it.

As for the OP. I agree with most of the posters on here. Ditch!

I think it’s just banter! He’s obviously joking,doesn’t think you need to wash your stanky fan fan for an extra hour!

It’s a babyish and faux funny way of saying smelly cunt.
and it’s a 100 million percent no from any sane woman