To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

It’s definitely more of a 6th date joke than a 5th date joke.

Your sense of humour fails to align. Let him go.

You date the nasty twat then, "Crumpet".

I'd find that funny tbh 🤷😂

You’ve had sex and he’s probably reverting to form now he knows he can get laid.

Bin

This is the kind of thing where you ignore it, keep going and 10 years later get divorced for this reason. It won’t be the last, down the line you’ll be cringing when he says similar stuff to your friends and relatives

"Repulsed". I don't think that was the reaction. This type of comment is what I hate about the Mumsnet forums. We're here to give an opinion and are attacked for voicing a difference compared to the majority. That and the blowing a small issue into some huge problem much bigger than the initial question. Offended for the sake of being offended.

Ugh. Not acceptable nor appropriate unless known someone for ages and both use banter.

Unacceptable. Not at all acceptable unless you have known someone for ages and are both used to banter. Ugh!

That really made me chuckle, it’s a bit of banter what is wrong with everyone. All you needed to do was make a cheeky banter back. If he’s lovely in all other respects. I like a man who can make me laugh & have a bit of banter with. I’m in my 50s so it’s what we did in my day.

Instant ick....

Still no update. Should be a rule that a thread gets deleted once it goes past a certain number of pages and no response or update. Just wastes people's time continuing to comment.

Please update us on what was the outcome. It’s fair to have the ick and cancel. It’s also fair to tell him you didn’t like his joke & try another date. In my experience men are very sensitive & can’t handle any criticism in the first few months. So I can’t see him being open to fixing his mistake & this seems doomed.

As an American, I was a bit puzzled by why anyone would cancel a date over this, as here in the US, a growler is a large container for beer. Smaller than a keg, but bigger than a bottle. 2 countries divided by a common language! Professor Google educated me and, wow, that's a juvenile, offensive remark. Whether it calls for cancelling the date is hard to say without more info. This is the 5th date. Has anything else he's said or done given you reason to think this is typical of him? IMO, if you like him well enough to be going on a 5th date, you might want to have a conversation with him about how that remark landed, and see how that goes. We've all said/sent texts we regret in retrospect. But maybe that's just me😉

@DatingwoeeWhat did you decide to do?

If my husband said it, I'd find it slightly funny. Because I know him well and I know there would be no ill intent like expecting/assuming there will be sex. But a guy I'd met for 5 dates, definitely not. Although the word growler is grim

I just asked my partner his opinion on this and he said the response he would have given is 'ok love no problem, ill see you in an hour' honestly dont even message the guy back, he doesnt deserve that from you, id just block if I were you

Unfortunately, some women insist on going for that type of man. What have us genuine guys got to do? I don't know what is worse, the fact that a man like that can make it to a 5th date, or the fact that the OP is still deciding if he could be the 'one'. It won't be a popular opinion on here, but why not date the nice guys? Simple.

Definitely cancel ‘this’ date. If he keeps being a loser after this, cancel him altogether.

That's utterly repulsive. A couple of people on here found it funny, so there are probably women out there who would enjoy his company but you're clearly not one of them so don't waste your time. yuckkkkk.

This would give me the ick and once that happens I just couldn’t see them the same way again. I’d cancel, and not see him again. But I am long term single and doing absolutely nothing to change that right now

I'd cancel giving reasons, but just a line, not making any drama, so you remain on a different level.

if he insists it was just a joke it doesn't really look good and possibly could go worse over time, after all you don't know him.

He should really struggle to apologise to you to deserve a second chance, that way only he can learn how to deal with a woman.

So don't give it a second thought unless he understands it was quite insulting and he really needs to behave.

I'm old fashioned, and personally at this point I would avoid sex for quite sometimes if he does the right moves. Just so he knows who he is dealing with.

Not sure what that has to do with deciding whether to continue dating someone or not. You don’t have to continue dating someone you’re repulsed by, regardless of any right and wrongs.

Ew. That's just flat out nasty. Would be enough for me to end things permanently.