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AIBU to say no to neighbours using my garden daily during heatwave?

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notanEverydayThing · 23/06/2026 15:50

AIBU to say no to neighbours about dc playing in my garden every day this week?

I live in an end terrace house there’s a gate onto a small lane and then a block of flats , I know a couple of the families as the dc go to the same school. They have a small shared grass area behind the flats but it’s not totally enclosed and a bit over grown / messy.

Yesterday I had the paddling pool and splash thing out for my dc and invited the neighbours round . I’ve set it up again today and on the way home they asked can they come again and I said ‘not today sorry but maybe on Friday ?’ One of the mums said ‘but it’s boiling !’ I said I know but I wanted to just have a quiet afternoon/ evening and I have work tomorrow and Thu to which she said ‘so you won’t be there at all? Can we use the garden / pool on those days?’ I said no !!!! I feel she’s being rude! I said happy Friday for everyone to come over again after school but she tutted and walked off

I know it’s hot but I don’t want them here everyday and especially when I’m not home tomorrow and Thursday!!!

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ginasevern · 23/06/2026 16:00

Give her an inch and she'll take a mile. Perhaps the flat dwellers could tidy up their own shared garden instead.

Skybluepinky · 23/06/2026 15:59

Some people are just so cheeky if they wanted a garden they should have bought a house with one.

Pippa12 · 23/06/2026 15:58

She sounds like the type of person that will be sat at your Christmas table at dinner time and you’ve no idea how she ended up being invited.

Don’t make eye contact again.

incognito1991 · 23/06/2026 15:55

You’re not being unreasonable at all, she is rude to even ask. If she lives in a flat and doesn’t have a garden that’s not your problem. That’s like asking someone if they can use your bed whilst away because theirs is broke, silly.