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AIBU to think school closures ignore parents' work commitments?

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OhNoItsThePinkyPonk · 23/06/2026 13:48

AIBU to think that the school doesn’t take much account of parents’ need to work? Primary school have just announced they won’t be opening for the rest of the week, but it’s OK because they’ll be sending us online work for us to do with the children, and whilst they are sorry they have had to cancel sports day we shouldn’t be too upset because they’ve have rescheduled it for a couple of weeks time. Like, I totally get they have to put the safety of the children first and if it’s too hot it’s too hot, but what do they think I’m
doing when the kids are at school, preparing beautiful dinners, ensuring the craft box is topped up, pining wistfully for the moment they come home? FFS, my job obviously comes second to my children and of course I’ll cancel planned surgeries and clinics where I need to. It’s not the emergency that bothers me, it’s the blasé way in which it’s communicated as though it’s a
minor inconvenience, not a major major f’ing headache with serious second and third order effects.

phew, that’s better. Now to go and get the little darlings…

OP posts:
EmmaB1309 · 23/06/2026 20:18

Duvetdayforme · 23/06/2026 14:06

School isn’t childcare. If they feel they can’t safely stay open then that’s an end to it.

You will have to take leave.

With the summer holidays coming up? When A/L entitlement is probably already stretched to the limit trying to cover seven weeks holiday? Ok then.

noblegiraffe · 23/06/2026 20:15

Singlemumsurvivor · 23/06/2026 20:14

It’s ridiculous.

I was talking to the deputy head of my kids acho this morning and she agrees. Relax uniform, provide more breaks and allow kids to fill water bottles as and when.

I spent 20 years working in the fire service, I’ve worked in 40 degree heat. We didn’t shut up shop because it got hot.

how many of those kids will be going to hot countries on holiday?

It's like people don't know the difference between going on holiday and being in school.

EmmaB1309 · 23/06/2026 20:15

Wait for all the posts from the ‘school is not childcare’ brigade……🍿
Yanbu OP.

Singlemumsurvivor · 23/06/2026 20:14

It’s ridiculous.

I was talking to the deputy head of my kids acho this morning and she agrees. Relax uniform, provide more breaks and allow kids to fill water bottles as and when.

I spent 20 years working in the fire service, I’ve worked in 40 degree heat. We didn’t shut up shop because it got hot.

how many of those kids will be going to hot countries on holiday?

EvieBB · 23/06/2026 20:13

OhNoItsThePinkyPonk · 23/06/2026 13:48

AIBU to think that the school doesn’t take much account of parents’ need to work? Primary school have just announced they won’t be opening for the rest of the week, but it’s OK because they’ll be sending us online work for us to do with the children, and whilst they are sorry they have had to cancel sports day we shouldn’t be too upset because they’ve have rescheduled it for a couple of weeks time. Like, I totally get they have to put the safety of the children first and if it’s too hot it’s too hot, but what do they think I’m
doing when the kids are at school, preparing beautiful dinners, ensuring the craft box is topped up, pining wistfully for the moment they come home? FFS, my job obviously comes second to my children and of course I’ll cancel planned surgeries and clinics where I need to. It’s not the emergency that bothers me, it’s the blasé way in which it’s communicated as though it’s a
minor inconvenience, not a major major f’ing headache with serious second and third order effects.

phew, that’s better. Now to go and get the little darlings…

You're lucky that you can cancel clinics and have the authority to do that.... not everyone is so lucky, but yes I do agree with your post:)

noblegiraffe · 23/06/2026 20:09

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 20:01

While their parents are working from home? Who is going to take them?

I love these hypothetical scenarios where both parents are working from a tiny bedroom in a high rise flat with a small child whose school has closed and no possible other childcare options.

In which case they can stick the kid in front of the telly with their feet in a basin of water and an ice lolly and they will still be better off than being in a boiling classroom with 30 other kids.

AngelaF44 · 23/06/2026 20:08

Bumble2468 · 23/06/2026 14:02

I think they should at least ensure keyworker parents are not impacted as that has wider consequences overall and we need to keep the country running!

I can see it's difficult for schools/staff/children particularly in buildings which have not been designed for the hotter climate and I assume lack of funds for additional fans / misters / reflective blinds.

The govt response that children are best off in school where they're learning or whatever is bonkers, as younger children in particular are going to struggle to concentrate.

My sons school haven't announced any measures so far, in Northern England.

I’m not a key worker but my wages and loss of wages is just as important as key workers!

toffeeappleturnip · 23/06/2026 20:01

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:54

Where are you getting the 50s? My DDs school hadca sick bay and nurse and that was in the 2000s

And maybe it should exist

Edited

I stated the 1950's because you asked what did I think happened when parents didn't have a home phone and were not contactable at work by phone.

Most people were contactable by phone at home and at work by the 80's so I assumed you were going way back.

Schools are not suddenly going to get sick bays and nurses so they can keep sick children in school while parents are working. They were only ever a temporary measure until a parent arrived to pick them up anyway.

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 20:01

noblegiraffe · 23/06/2026 19:59

They're not literally locked in. They can leave to go somewhere shady or cool like a library or shopping centre.

While their parents are working from home? Who is going to take them?

noblegiraffe · 23/06/2026 19:59

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:48

But im not sure 4 peopleb n a small 1 bed flat with windows that only open an inch are much better off tbh

They're not literally locked in. They can leave to go somewhere shady or cool like a library or shopping centre.

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:54

toffeeappleturnip · 23/06/2026 19:53

There was a sick bay and a school nurse.
That doesn't exist anymore.

We don't have to compare everything to the 1950's do we?

Where are you getting the 50s? My DDs school hadca sick bay and nurse and that was in the 2000s

And maybe it should exist

toffeeappleturnip · 23/06/2026 19:53

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:44

What do you suppose happened if kids were ill and no parent at home or no home phone? Its only the last generation everyone has had mobile phones you know

There was a sick bay and a school nurse.
That doesn't exist anymore.

We don't have to compare everything to the 1950's do we?

GreenCa · 23/06/2026 19:52

topcat2014 · 23/06/2026 14:55

Everyone's jobs are important to the running of our country, not just the blessed key worker ones..

Yes - everyones jobs are important to the running of the country. But for many jobs, whilst a couple of unscheduled days off may be disruptive, work can be caught up on at a later date. For some key workers they just can't be absent e.g. imagine a paeduatric intensive care without sufficient staff because those who are parents have to say home because school is closed.

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:50

Butt3rButt3r · 23/06/2026 19:49

School windows often only open 1 inch and 1 bed flats are often bigger than most classrooms with significantly less people in!

The one im thinkingnof has a front room which is 10ft by 9ft 8.

Schools also have playgrounds to get frsh air as well

Butt3rButt3r · 23/06/2026 19:49

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:48

But im not sure 4 peopleb n a small 1 bed flat with windows that only open an inch are much better off tbh

School windows often only open 1 inch and 1 bed flats are often bigger than most classrooms with significantly less people in!

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:48

Butt3rButt3r · 23/06/2026 18:54

Houses are nothing like schools . You have 30 plus humans crammed in rooms that are far too small with windows that can’t open properly sometimes with 1 or 2 whole walls that are windowed in often metal or horrifically badly designed buildings. I’ve been in school all day, it’s nothing like being in a house with 4 people. Not even close.

But im not sure 4 peopleb n a small 1 bed flat with windows that only open an inch are much better off tbh

TheHateIsNotGood · 23/06/2026 19:46

Thankfully out of this nonsensical situation for a few years now. I agree with OP - yes the safety of children comes first and if it means the school has to close to all dc and most staff, so be it. But the flexibility to drop everything and rearrange things with less than 24 hrs notice is often very, very difficult if not nigh on impossible in many situations.

As many, many posters on MN already know, there might have been a few socio-economic changes that have enabled more women to work whilst having young dc there is still a long way to go. From the home to the workplace.

Thechaseison71 · 23/06/2026 19:44

toffeeappleturnip · 23/06/2026 15:23

That's quite a big presumption, but yes - someone with caring responsibilities for the child always needs to be contactable - what if they are suddenly desperately unwell? You'd want to know asap surely?

I am a widowed single parent funnily enough - my employer knew I had childcare responsibilities, and as a manager myself, I also gave huge flexibility to all my staff with children, men and women. I made it one of my priorities to ensure my team could all manage their work/life balance as well as possible.

The employers of both parents should be understanding of parental responsibilities and both parents should share emergency cover equally.

I'm not sure how you've crowbarred domestic abuse into this.

Employers need to be much more proactive in how they are part of a good employee work/life balance.

The sole and total care of a child 9-3pm, Mon-Fri, is not the duty of any school.

What do you suppose happened if kids were ill and no parent at home or no home phone? Its only the last generation everyone has had mobile phones you know

VividDeer · 23/06/2026 19:42

Our secondary school is open for key worker kids, they do have a couple of air conditioned rooms. Primary school not at all. Perhaps they should have contingency plans to pool resources to those who most need it

noworklifebalance · 23/06/2026 19:39

cardibach · 23/06/2026 18:42

Homes don't have 32 teenagers packed into small rooms with no blinds and non opening windows usually.

Maybe not 32 but plenty live in crowded homes, maybe high rises, with less than ideal conditions in a heatwaves. Some will have windows with restricted opening.
School may be a relative haven from the heat.
I know it is difficult to accommodate all needs and eventualities but I think there needs to be some degree of flexibility and lateral thinking to manage the heat.

Incidentally, DCs go to school in London and said it wasn’t too hot in the classrooms, no air conditioning. PE was cancelled but they could wear PE kit.

NoSuchBass · 23/06/2026 19:38

I'm sorry, school is 100% free childcare.

Because there is no daytime alternative for school aged children. Part of the deal is: Kids are in school, adults are in work.

It was brought in in Victorian times partly to enable parents to work.

It literally keeps the country running.

NoSuchBass · 23/06/2026 19:34

ALittleDropOfRain · 23/06/2026 14:40

I‘m in Germany, where it’s been hitting up to 36 degrees.

Our primary schools have a policy for closing early if temperatures top a certain number. This happens every year, and whether through organising the day differently or cancelling the final lesson, school closes at 12:20 rather than 13:10, with children who can’t go home relaxing in a classroom for the final hour. The standard hour of homework isn’t given.

However, we‘re also better set up for impromptu closures (barely a week goes by without an impromptu later start). My 9yr old got himself to school for the later 08:30 start this morning and has been doing this adhoc since age 7. it’s also quite normal for kids to spend an hour or so home alone after school at DS‘ age. A lot of raising kids here is encouraging independence.

How do they cope if there's several kids? Don't they wind each other up / fight?

Germany is so organised.

Sometimessmiling · 23/06/2026 19:26

ThatJadeLion · 23/06/2026 18:42

If there is no childcare..... Sorry wrong word.. education.. how does the average family pay their bills, as lets be honest two parents have to work in most areas of employment now just to pay bills. School is education but it also acts as childcare allowing parents to work and contribute to society!

It's not childcare. You may use it as such but they are not there to provide that service. You should always have a back up plan. I understand parents need to work but it's not the schools responsibility to be there just so you can go to work

Bluffingwithmymuffin · 23/06/2026 19:25

ThatJadeLion · 23/06/2026 18:51

I don't think there's many homes that have air con 😂. It's hot at school... oh wait.. it's hot at home too. How are people coping in hospitals and care homes? Not much choice there. If some parents don't work, they lose their pay, they may also lose their job.

Very much agree - low paid workers are the least likely to be able to have flexibility from their employers and the least able to afford time off work.

I'm lucky my DCs school is staying open, like many working parents I barely have enough annual leave to cover school holidays so I would have to take unpaid leave if it closed.

I'm not against schools closing because of the heat but as OP says there should be recognition that closures will be acutely difficult for some.

LoveLite · 23/06/2026 19:21

cardibach · 23/06/2026 18:35

You know nothing that happened in the pandemic was as a result of anything a teacher said, right? Plus we were trying to save your child’s life. Believe me, teaching in person is a fuck ton easier than online…

Their comments about their jobs and the children they taught. I try not to think about it as it enrages me.

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