AIBU to object after my ex criticised my ring and writing?

Sorry OP but I think you’re overstepping, particularly about writing about his father so publicly after his death. He wasn’t your father despite your close relationship and I’d be incensed if my ex chose to do that. As for the ring, why would you wear it? Sell it. Make it into something else. Anything rather than wear it. I just don’t get your reasoning. I loved my engagement ring but I’d never wear it again. It’s almost as though you’re clinging on to the marriage.
That being said, he probably didn’t approach it very well. But then, when do exes ever approach things the right way?

For me it’s the photos… I don’t know any ex-wife who would do all this for their ex. At best they’d send old photos round in a bin bag (and at worst…snip snip…). But they certainly wouldn’t be spending time curating photos of his travels!

It really does come across as if you would step right back in in a heartbeat.

He wants to put the engagement ring in a safety deposit box in his shop? He wants the ring, you will never see it again if you agreed. Personally I would wear it on the opposite hand or sell it and buy yourself something amazing. Also tell him to bog off, he's nothing to do with you now he's just your children's father.

Some would say why is she still obsessed with him - wearing the engagement ring still and writing about his fathers funeral.. bit wierd to be honest.

If he wants you to put it in a deposit box in his shop im thinking he wants it back for new lady

I’m with you on the funeral thing. I might look like you’re trying to own the day, even if you weren’t. To show you weren’t, I’d probably take that part down. As for the ring, unless he’s tried to get it back, wear it however you like

i wouldn’t confuse online diversion with real life…

You sound like you haven’t moved on. Why compile a photo box for him and wear your engagement ring? It’s quite weird. Sell the ring and buy yourself an expensive piece of jewellery or keep it for a daughter or daughter in law.

Your ex sounds annoyed that you keep tying yourself to him - I‘m not saying that’s nice or fair but he wants you to just go away.

Create some distance and stop being his ex wife. You’re a person in your own right and by the sounds of it well shot of this self-important twat.

My position: either read my posts more carefully or not bother. At no point in any post did I ever say you were trying to control your DH. Full stop.

I don’t you’re think being honest with yourself about your motivation but I’ve no idea what they are.

So we haven’t travelled anywhere.

The bottom line is no-one gives a toot if you wear it or not, it’s not clear why you’re even here wittering about it.

Why does it not ring true?
It's a bloody ring ffs... I've no clue why it's such a big HooHa to some people that she wants to wear it.

I haven’t conflated the two, you have.

In this circ you’re not trying to control your DH. You may be trying to annoy him - which is fair enough as he’s a eejit.

My example of a controlling ex DH was a completely different scenario. Far from trivialising anything it’s based on a real person.

Nor did I speculate about your motivation - I’ve no idea what it is. But the reasons given here don’t ring true thus I questioned if you were being fully honest with yourself.

The ring belongs to her, why would she give it back!?

Nonsense. If you read my posts more carefully. You simply jumped to that conclusion.

You made a sweeping statement which I pointed out was not true in all circumstances and gave an example. Which was not the OP.

Give it back to him?
What 😂😂😂

Re the ring thing, I guess it may have no significance to you but it clearly does for him as it’s not just any ring on any finger. It’s his engagement ring to you on the finger he placed a wedding ring on. It won’t immediately cost you over £1000 to insure it if you pay insurance in premiums. There’s also safes. Easily concealed safes than no burglar is going to have the time searching a whole house from head to toe looking for. Especially when they don’t even know it’s there.

YABU to still wear the ring, it's symbolic. I'd give it back to him. You need to be able to properly detach.
On everything else, he is massively unreasonable.

And? Just because he said it doesn't mean the controlling asal is being truthful.
You go @Lilifer . He sees you living your best life and he has no say any more.

It’s nobody else’s business whether you do or do not wear that ring. It may have been an engagement ring once upon a time, but is now just your ring, and you can wear it on whichever finger you like without having to justify that to anyone else.
Why the hell should you not go to the funeral of a man who you loved and knew for so many years. Your relationship with him was between the two of you, and you shouldn’t be expected to forget all about him and your long, loving relationship just because you and his son split up. He was not just his son’s father, he was also many other things to many other people. Your ex needs to get over that. Writing about it online is you writing about your experience and about your relationship with him, again, nothing to do with your ex.
Just because some people on here find some of these things ‘odd’, doesn’t mean you don’t have a legitimate reason to feel how you feel and do the things you do. You carry on. And don’t worry about anyone else.

You don't need an invitation to attend a funeral and if OP hadn't gone to the funeral it would have been the talk of the place for some time.

He’s a prick and still trying to control you. When I divorced I no longer wore my rings but kept his name as it was the children’s name and I didn’t want to embarrass them in school. My ex didn’t mind. I also loved his parents (they were like parents to me for 20 years). I went to the funeral and was told by my ex SIL to sit with the family. Ask him what his problem is with you. Maybe it’s coming from the new partner. I would get the ring sized for the other hand.