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Feeling uncomfortable after sharing a seat with a very obese passenger

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Bayleaftree63 · 22/06/2026 22:03

On public transport earlier. A very large woman sits nexts to me. She couldn’t get the seat belt
round her. Her body spilt over into my seat, leaving me squashed with what little space there was left.

On the journey I couldn’t help be annoyed at the lack of space I was left with and questioning how do people let themselves get to that size. Talking morbidly obese, not just larger - whatever the medical
term.

This isn’t about shaming, more I’m in disbelief people being that big are happy? Why wouldn’t you want to loose some weight for a healthier lifestyle.

OP posts:
Nsky62 · 23/06/2026 16:03

Wasthatwrong · 22/06/2026 22:08

Nice goady post OP.
Obesity is a complex condition

Exactly, certain meds do make some put on weight, the condition is more damaging than the weight gain

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 16:03

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 16:00

"Why everything should revolve around me"

I'm not talking about myself hun. I'm not that large. I'm talking about other overweight people in general. Unlike you, I have compassion for them.

On this thread, fat people were told to book two seats. I pointed out that two seats together are often not available your response to that is that they just shouldn't get on the flight then.

In your world, are they allowed to do anything?

But why is it different if someone needs two seats together for themselves or two seats for a young child next to them?
You were complaining it’s not fair on the former to have to make alternative arrangements but not the latter?

In your world, are they allowed to do anything?
Again with the immature hyperboles.

Numbchill · 23/06/2026 16:02

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:57

That's not really relevant to what I wrote though.

I wrote that they should have large seats and small seats at the same price.

I travel a lot. Aeroplanes are never full when I'm on them. They are often half empty.
If they had large seats for the same price.
They would gain more customers, as more large people would be able to travel

But thin people would book the large seats because what better way to ensure that you have somewhere to inch to should the large person next to you’s fat encroach onto your seat.

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 16:00

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:57

But if you need two seats together, whether it’s for you or for other reasons then too bad? I don’t understand why you think literally everything should revolve around you.
If I can’t book onto a flight because there isn’t space for me and my 2 year old I need to make alternative arrangements. Why would the same not be true for someone who needs two seats due to not fitting in one?

"Why everything should revolve around me"

I'm not talking about myself hun. I'm not that large. I'm talking about other overweight people in general. Unlike you, I have compassion for them.

On this thread, fat people were told to book two seats. I pointed out that two seats together are often not available your response to that is that they just shouldn't get on the flight then.

In your world, are they allowed to do anything?

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:57

notimagain · 23/06/2026 15:53

Maybe, but the evidence of the last thirty years is that the main driver of customer choice is whichever airline offers base/lowest fare on a route or similar routes.

We're sort of into this mess, if I can call it that, because when deregulation arrived many passengers decided not to fly with airlines that offered extras/frills/even more seat pitch in favour of saving a few quid flying with one of the "it does what it says on the tin" brigade.

Now if you could show the likes of Michael O'Leary that there's a sizeable cohort of passengers who will reliably, year in year out, fly with his airline and will always be prepared to pay x amount more than the economy base fare to get more room you might be onto a winner....

But I suspect his response would be something like... "Nope, I know how people work... given the choice of £150 for a large seat on a two hour sector verses £50 for a standard sear when push comes to shove, a few exceptions aside, they'll pay the lower sum and squeeze into the smaller seat"...

"If they want more room tell them to fly with an airline that does shorthaul business class"

That's not really relevant to what I wrote though.

I wrote that they should have large seats and small seats at the same price.

I travel a lot. Aeroplanes are never full when I'm on them. They are often half empty.
If they had large seats for the same price.
They would gain more customers, as more large people would be able to travel

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:57

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:54

I'm responding to people saying that fat people should book two seats.

Two seats together are not available on every flight as we all know. And lucky you that you can just choose another flight. Many people are bound by work times

But if you need two seats together, whether it’s for you or for other reasons then too bad? I don’t understand why you think literally everything should revolve around you.
If I can’t book onto a flight because there isn’t space for me and my 2 year old I need to make alternative arrangements. Why would the same not be true for someone who needs two seats due to not fitting in one?

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:54

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:50

I’m not sure how that’s relevant, when I’m travelling solo with my youngest if there are no seats together then I can’t book that flight.
I don’t act like I’m being persecuted.

I'm responding to people saying that fat people should book two seats.

Two seats together are not available on every flight as we all know. And lucky you that you can just choose another flight. Many people are bound by work times

notimagain · 23/06/2026 15:53

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:36

Well if they made bigger seats - they would meet a demand and cater to a market of people. My friend won't fly at all because he is a big man and the seats on planes are way too uncomfortable for him

Maybe, but the evidence of the last thirty years is that the main driver of customer choice is whichever airline offers base/lowest fare on a route or similar routes.

We're sort of into this mess, if I can call it that, because when deregulation arrived many passengers decided not to fly with airlines that offered extras/frills/even more seat pitch in favour of saving a few quid flying with one of the "it does what it says on the tin" brigade.

Now if you could show the likes of Michael O'Leary that there's a sizeable cohort of passengers who will reliably, year in year out, fly with his airline and will always be prepared to pay x amount more than the economy base fare to get more room you might be onto a winner....

But I suspect his response would be something like... "Nope, I know how people work... given the choice of £150 for a large seat on a two hour sector verses £50 for a standard sear when push comes to shove, a few exceptions aside, they'll pay the lower sum and squeeze into the smaller seat"...

"If they want more room tell them to fly with an airline that does shorthaul business class"

LipglossAndLies · 23/06/2026 15:52

Maybe we should look to have seats that are more of a normal size. Even flight seats are getting ridiculously small. One typical train even a person of a healthy size takes up the whole seat and no wiggle room. Only people I see who have room sre those you are size 8 I reckon. Not everyone can be that slim.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 23/06/2026 15:51

I have lots of friends of different shapes, sizes, gay, disabled, and I love them all. They are equally happy to be friends with a twitchy person like me who forgets things quite a bit, and gets worried my involuntary movements make me look a bit "odd. They accept me and my ways, I absolutely accept they are all lovely friends no matter what they do or who they are.

We need to all be kind to who we meet, and tolerate others regardless. People are going through lots of things and you might not know how it affects them. This includes the larger sized lady in the plane seat next to you.

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:50

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:46

Again. Thats the airlines fault. Not theirs.

People saying that the person should buy two seats together. I disagree with that. But anyway that's not always an option.

The last flight that I was on, the woman beside me told me that she had tried to sit next to her husband, but the airplane didn't have any two seats together when they booked.

I’m not sure how that’s relevant, when I’m travelling solo with my youngest if there are no seats together then I can’t book that flight.
I don’t act like I’m being persecuted.

Purplebunnie · 23/06/2026 15:49

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:47

I've never been as sick in my life as when I took mounjaro.

It's not for everyone. I hope you are okay now.

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:47

Purplebunnie · 23/06/2026 15:46

Not everyone can afford weight loss jabs, they start at £175 for 4x2.5ml of Mounjaro, increase the dose and the price increases. I have a high BMI and sleep apnea but I needed to be diabetic and have a heart problem as well my current conditions to be eligible for them free so I paid and was under the care of a pharmacist

I tried them, they made me feel unwell but I was determined to continue with them and lose the weight, I'd bought the 2nd pen

I ended up in A&E and subsequently hospitalised as I had pancreatitis. Tests are still underway to identify the cause of the pancreatitis. Recent ultrasound has shown my gallbladder is not the cause. The consultants I saw feel the pancreatitis was caused by the Mounjaro.

Whilst in A&E I mentioned the Mounjaro as I had been warned about pancreatitis and all the staff I dealt with (phlebotomist, radiographer, consultant) said they had seen a rise with people suffering side effects from Mounjaro. Yes it works for many people, you can see the threads on MN but you can also see that it doesn't work for a lot of people. I've done some reading and one article even said that some peoples DNA means they won't fare well with some weight loss jab - I'm reserving judgement on that article until I've seen the consultant when all tests have been concluded

It's not an easy fix

I've never been as sick in my life as when I took mounjaro.

Purplebunnie · 23/06/2026 15:46

menopausequeen · 23/06/2026 07:28

Isn’t this a problem for the UK
We are scared of confronting certain issues .

obesity is a disease and it costs the NHS significant amounts, it impacts the person themselves and it impacts the quality of life for others when sharing some facilities.

But we all politely avoid the subject.
If someone is obese then why should someone else have to sit in less space on transport or o
at a cinema or theatre? They should need to book extra large seats or two seats.
Hopefully weight loss jabs will have a positive impact on helping people to lose weight but we need to be clear it’s not acceptable to be that weight instead of just making things bigger for people and giving them disabled badges so they park nearer to things and walk less, getting less exercise and adding to the problem.

I know it’s a complex disease and I know it’s hard to break out of, but let’s be clear we can’t just accept it as a society without trying to change things. Why should other people feel uncomfortable

Not everyone can afford weight loss jabs, they start at £175 for 4x2.5ml of Mounjaro, increase the dose and the price increases. I have a high BMI and sleep apnea but I needed to be diabetic and have a heart problem as well my current conditions to be eligible for them free so I paid and was under the care of a pharmacist

I tried them, they made me feel unwell but I was determined to continue with them and lose the weight, I'd bought the 2nd pen

I ended up in A&E and subsequently hospitalised as I had pancreatitis. Tests are still underway to identify the cause of the pancreatitis. Recent ultrasound has shown my gallbladder is not the cause. The consultants I saw feel the pancreatitis was caused by the Mounjaro.

Whilst in A&E I mentioned the Mounjaro as I had been warned about pancreatitis and all the staff I dealt with (phlebotomist, radiographer, consultant) said they had seen a rise with people suffering side effects from Mounjaro. Yes it works for many people, you can see the threads on MN but you can also see that it doesn't work for a lot of people. I've done some reading and one article even said that some peoples DNA means they won't fare well with some weight loss jab - I'm reserving judgement on that article until I've seen the consultant when all tests have been concluded

It's not an easy fix

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:46

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:44

Again read what is explicitly written, I don’t care why they are overweight because it isn’t my business.
I have also never said they should care about me, but that doesn’t change the fact that they aren’t entitled to a portion of my seat.

Again. Thats the airlines fault. Not theirs.

People saying that the person should buy two seats together. I disagree with that. But anyway that's not always an option.

The last flight that I was on, the woman beside me told me that she had tried to sit next to her husband, but the airplane didn't have any two seats together when they booked.

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:44

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:42

If you don't care about them, why should the care about you?

Again read what is explicitly written, I don’t care why they are overweight because it isn’t my business.
I have also never said they should care about me, but that doesn’t change the fact that they aren’t entitled to a portion of my seat.

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:42

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:39

Well I didn’t actually, I stated if they use more space they should pay for it.
Not sure how you think squeezing to anorexic people into one space even falls into the argument, they don’t deserve less space because they have paid for a full ticket.
A child also pays for a full ticket and therefore is entitled to use their seat.

How on earth is that a disgusting comment? I don’t care because it’s non of my business, I don’t care whether a stranger weighed 50lbs or 500lbs because it’s nothing to do with me.

If you don't care about them, why should the care about you?

VikingLady · 23/06/2026 15:40

BettyTheGreat · 22/06/2026 22:05

*lose not loose

What sort of public transport was this, out of curiosity?

Tbh, I like the idea of loosing weight. As though all you have to do is release a few notches of your belt and the fat can just escape into the wild without me.

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:39

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:31

You said you want overweight people to pay double what you pay. It doesnt matter if they are disabled or ill. You said you don't care why they are fat.

Judging by what you are saying. Why don't we squeeze two anorexic people into one seat on an airline. They can fit. Why should they have a seat to themselves? When the airline could make more money by putting them into one seat and selling the other seat.

That is how heartless you sound

You said you don't care why people are the size they are?

Edited

Well I didn’t actually, I stated if they use more space they should pay for it.
Not sure how you think squeezing to anorexic people into one space even falls into the argument, they don’t deserve less space because they have paid for a full ticket.
A child also pays for a full ticket and therefore is entitled to use their seat.

How on earth is that a disgusting comment? I don’t care because it’s non of my business, I don’t care whether a stranger weighed 50lbs or 500lbs because it’s nothing to do with me.

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:39

Badbadbunny · 23/06/2026 15:37

But would he pay double for a wider seat?

No he can't afford it. Have you seen flight prices. Asking people to pay double is a stretch.

I was replying to the poster who said that airplanes would lose customers if they made seats bigger.

But I've often been on airplanes and the seats are often not full.

I was saying if they added large seats at the same price they would reach a new Market and have more customers. Larger people would book the larger seats. Large people cannot fly comfortably at the moment.

MissMoneyFairy · 23/06/2026 15:37

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:36

Well if they made bigger seats - they would meet a demand and cater to a market of people. My friend won't fly at all because he is a big man and the seats on planes are way too uncomfortable for him

Has he looked at different seat sizes?

Badbadbunny · 23/06/2026 15:37

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:36

Well if they made bigger seats - they would meet a demand and cater to a market of people. My friend won't fly at all because he is a big man and the seats on planes are way too uncomfortable for him

But would he pay double for a wider seat?

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:36

Badbadbunny · 23/06/2026 15:32

Estimates vary but generally it's said that the average profit per charter flight passenger is $10! There is NO wriggle room to reduce seats but keep the price the same!

Well if they made bigger seats - they would meet a demand and cater to a market of people. My friend won't fly at all because he is a big man and the seats on planes are way too uncomfortable for him

Badbadbunny · 23/06/2026 15:32

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 13:42

I disagree that it would become loss making.

Slightly less profit. But they should suck that up to provide better health and safety conditions for passengers

Edited

Estimates vary but generally it's said that the average profit per charter flight passenger is $10! There is NO wriggle room to reduce seats but keep the price the same!

Mumbles11 · 23/06/2026 15:31

Honeyhonay · 23/06/2026 15:28

I need to grow up for wanting to sit on my own, paid for seat? Right love.

Free to point out one rude or personal insult I’ve stated against anyone who is larger, because you will not find them.

You said you want overweight people to pay double what you pay. It doesnt matter if they are disabled or ill. You said you don't care why they are fat.

Judging by what you are saying. Why don't we squeeze two anorexic people into one seat on an airline. They can fit. Why should they have a seat to themselves? When the airline could make more money by putting them into one seat and selling the other seat.

That is how heartless you sound

You said you don't care why people are the size they are?

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