Feeling uncomfortable after sharing a seat with a very obese passenger

I wonder if someone was literally taking up someone else's seat whether they should be enorucsged to buy two seats ?

Why?
Space on aircraft is at a premium so why should they waste it?

There is also the issue of evacuation in the event of an untoward event.

You can be accommodated with special requirements but you'll need to give 48 hours notice, see here for more info - www.disabilityid.co.uk/blog/flying-with-a-disability-a-practical-guide

Us fat people live for this.
We actively enjoy squishing people like you.
Squish on anonymous larger lady!

Exactly...

I know thinking going by air is public transport doesn't fit with the glamour of flying angle but in case no one has noticed the glamour went a long time ago.

Realistically flying is a form of public transport, most especially on domestic/internal sectors.

Get a private jet if you're that special next time and you don't want to deal with people.

Public transport is for everyone. Not her fault that the seats on planes are so tiny.

And to answer your question, it will me a mix of lifestyle and life long health problems. My aunt, who I love so much, has a brain tumour. She has been living with it for 20 years, it's inoperable, and is affecting her endocrine system. She used to be a size 8, she is now very obese and there is nothing she can do about it. She barely eats. You have no idea what people have to deal with so fuck off.

A genuine question? One where you've not engaged with people giving you answers? People explaining both their personal circumstances, and others explaining about disordered eating.

Why aren't you responding to the answers to the question you genuinely asked?

Then it is up to the airline to have wider seats .

AFAIK airlines will accommodate "people of size" but charge them for 2 seats.

I agree , I think the airlines also have a responsibility to make the rules fairer for everyone . Larger passengers should be properly accommodated for . I used to be very overweight , not so much it woukd affect t someone on a plane but I understand how people can get in the situation, mine was depression , abuse as a child and adhd , I’ve managed to lose almost all my excess weight at the age of 62 so can see both sides

Where I live, the two rows of front seats on our buses (single decker) have seatbelts.

They also have a row of 3 single seats at the front parallel to the side of the bus. These can be lifted up to accommodate a wheelchair or a buggy. They are also useful for "people of size" as they can sit across two of them.

Do other areas not have these ?

This will soon be a problem in the past.

Airbus is certifying a new aircraft which ensures the OP never needs to worry about a plus-sized neighbour.

Isn’t this a problem for the UK
We are scared of confronting certain issues .

obesity is a disease and it costs the NHS significant amounts, it impacts the person themselves and it impacts the quality of life for others when sharing some facilities.

But we all politely avoid the subject.
If someone is obese then why should someone else have to sit in less space on transport or o
at a cinema or theatre? They should need to book extra large seats or two seats.
Hopefully weight loss jabs will have a positive impact on helping people to lose weight but we need to be clear it’s not acceptable to be that weight instead of just making things bigger for people and giving them disabled badges so they park nearer to things and walk less, getting less exercise and adding to the problem.

I know it’s a complex disease and I know it’s hard to break out of, but let’s be clear we can’t just accept it as a society without trying to change things. Why should other people feel uncomfortable

not being funny but you can also book 2 seats if it bothers you so much... just a thought

This has nothing to do with whether the person is happy being that overweight or that obesity is complex etc. let’s counteract that and say perhaps this person loves eating and doesn’t care. The fact is it shouldn’t impact other people in this way.

Anyway imo the OP has a point. You pay for a seat and you should be able to use that seat. If you are sat next to a fat person who is spilling over it’s very uncomfortable and often they are touching you. If you’re so fat you can’t fit in the seat you should buy 2 seats or upgrade to more expensive seats. Why should someone else have to put up with this? This is why I always try and choose an aisle seat so if this happens I can turn away and spill over myself into the aisle. However in the first instance I would ask to move.

If it is a fact that a passenger occupies more than one seat of space and this negatively impacts the experience of the passenger sitting next to them, it should be possible to discuss that reality without blaming the person who raised it.

We all know obesity can be complex but you can't expect normal sized people give up their bought space to accommodate that.

What a kind, well informed reply. Read this, OP, and think with a little bit more consideration than you did.

Why is the train from London to Edinburgh considered public transport but a flight doing the same route not? It is often cheaper to fly as well. Neither is publicly owned, though trains used to be.

In some places there are flight to islands that are the only access - is that considered public transport? What about ferries?

Ah well OP, at least you've got it off your chest now.

I once had this on a very long haul flight. I was in tears by the time I arrived. It really made my journey even more stressful and I was forced to be touched throughout the flight. I often had to travel long haul alone and the amount of times they put me next to an extremely large person who took my seat space as well as their own, was insane. I’m a size 6. I think they do it on purpose. They never seat an obese person next to an obese person on a plane. It’s so unfair. They should pay for two seats if they need to use two, rather than take half of mine. I paid for my seat so only I should be using it.

Did they not ask for a seat belt extender? I am struggling to believe the flight took off without them being securely fastened.

Try harder. Actually, don’t even bother.

i dont know what size she is, she could have been a size 22 and encroached on your seat.

Plenty do. Also there was no mention of the UK

A plane is form or transport and the public gets on it

Spilt is correct.

Surely the passenger should take some responsibility and book an extra seat? The airline can’t weight everyone to check.