Feeling uncomfortable after sharing a seat with a very obese passenger

If you are only burning 1200 calories a day then eating less than that to lose weight is very hard. Weight loss injections make that possible.

Or maybe Op just fed up at getting squashed again on public transport.

Both are correct

That's probably true.

I think it relieves some of the tension temporarily then makes their unhappiness spiral deeper longer term.

It's what makes some people happy.

I am in disbelief that people that bitchy are happy

Hmm. Most of the people I know who could never lose weight 'despite eating like a mouse and exercising intensely 5x a week' somehow seem to be losing weight on the jabs.

The psychology might be complex but physiologically obesity is almost always caused by consuming more calories than one burns.

Having lost 4.5 stone on barely any carbohydrates with zero exercise, and my 22st husband is now down to 16 stone on the same regime, I beg to differ.

I dunno - people do complain about addicts of all flavours quite a lot

i think objectively I’d feel the same way esp on a plane I don’t like a very large person having to sit next to me as it’s just physically not comfortable for me and I feel hemmed in. In fact I’ve started booking aisle seats if on my own so I can have space on one side and can get up as will to go to the toilet or whatever.

Seats are often too narrow like at the theatre for example so v difficult if you’re larger. When old theatres were built, people were smaller/slimmer so it’s partly design as well.

i don’t know any larger person who doesn’t want to lose weight (I have a few larger friends) - they often comment on their weight negatively. I doubt anyone wants to be obese ir morbidly obese.

Of course being over weight can be caused by a multitude of factors and of course it brings with it multiple barriers and problems. One of those problems being that you don’t fit in a seat/ride/space. Why is it ok though to take someone else’s space? Address the problem by say buying two seats, rather than making it someone’s else’s problem?

So you think fat people are fat because they have a choice? Sure some do but most don’t. Go educate urself and if ur that prejudiced go private transport from now on.

Can confirm this. It’s the case in my family. Several people who are morbidly obese. They have been through terrible abuse and their problems include/have included poverty and homelessness and being able to just function and survive really. I’m sure other people are offended by how they look and how they take up too much space in seats; honestly, other people’s offended opinions are far down these people’s priority list. Survival day to day is at the top, with a host of barriers and problems.

Metabolic syndrome is caused by eating too many carbohydrates. This is the start of the chain reaction.

@Bayleaftree63

It happened to me on a plane three years ago op and I have posted about it here. I was on the aisle seat and a woman who was at minimum 25 stone sat in the middle seat while her husband who was big to but not as big sat in the window seat. I literally had to sit on my side the whole flight and she was basically sitting on my other hip. It was absolute agony. I discreetly spoke to a member of the cabin crew about moving seats but the flight was fully booked so I had no choice but to sit there and suffer.

I ended up with severe bruising and soft tissue damage. I complained to the airline and got a full refund. If it was to happen again I would refuse to sit beside the person. They need to buy two seats.

Fwiw at my heaviest I was 19 stone so it's not fat shaming.

Agree.

There is something in some people that seems to make them compelled to comment negatively about weight. Without a doubt it's something to do with their own self-image.

How is it that the rest of us can just get on with our own lives?

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Sorry, OP but I think you did very much mean to offend. I have a friend like you, she’s obsessed with ‘obese’ people and every other experience she has seems to involve very overweight people or seeing very overweight people.
To the point of complaining about a package holiday she went on because apparently there were ‘obese’ people everywhere. She’s clearly disgusted. And clearly this is about how she feels about herself and her own self worth rather than anything to do with overweight people.

I don't really care about the rest of this thread.
I just want to say I'm sorry for your losses and how hard life must be for you.

Well on a similar note, it is the only "disease" that people feel they can complain about a person for having.

Except BP is accepting the ‘diseased state’ of obesity whereas BP is accepting the ‘undiseased state’ post breast op. I have been obese myself and don’t judge - I just found it interesting that at the height of BP we started to call bigger bodies ‘diseased’

Well I suppose in the same way that body positivity about having breasts removed for cancer can co-exist with the cancer.

Look up Metabolic Syndrome; the NHS is useless at helping people and obesity and early death is the consequence. It’s awful. I’m sure for some people it is down to lifestyle choices but if she was an older lady, I would suspect she is unwell and getting no support from her GP 🥺

I agree with this. I just find it a really childish desire to want to beat people with that stick.

The "oh but it impacts everyone else" argument is so tired and such a limp cover for a little bit of sanctioned nastiness.

All sorts of things place a negative strain on society in different ways, but we would all be seen as out of line for attacking people for it. I'm not even going to list some, as it isn't fair to shame and guilt trip people for things that are not fully within their control or which complicated circumstances have led them to, and, unlike the fat bashers, I don't want to be that sort of person, but suffice it to say, I'm sure they are categories plenty of the fat bashers fall into.