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Friend has gotten really funny due to my weekend away with man

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Laurenn25 · 22/06/2026 18:22

I’ve been single for three years, single Mum to primary age DC who I’ve put first during that time. Only recently did I start looking to date again, I’ve met someone who I get along really well with and we’ve arranged a weekend away for mid-July.

My best friend had been on for a while about the two of us going away for a weekend, but for various reasons I didn’t outright commit to this. I told her it would depend on a few factors including finances.

I’ve told her about my planned weekend with the man I’m seeing and she got really funny and asked is that why I can’t go away with her. I said it wasn’t as simple as that. She said we’ve been friends for years and as soon as I’ve got a ‘sniff of cock’ I’ve dropped her. I haven’t dropped her at all.

It’s true I probably could have gone away with her, but I didn’t commit to it and can’t afford two trips now. She has made me feel a bit crap.

OP posts:
Laurenn25 · 22/06/2026 18:30

p0pple · 22/06/2026 18:28

What were the “various reasons” you didn’t plan a holiday with her? She’s not just any friend, she’s your best friend. You have every right to do as you please with your time and money, but I do understand why she’s hurt.

We see each other 3/4 times a month, she has some habits which to be honest grate when I’ve had a weekend away with her before, the suggestions she made were all pricier than I’d have liked (I made other suggestions which she wasn’t keen on).

OP posts:
Sparrowsandbudgies · 22/06/2026 18:30

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 22/06/2026 18:24

She has kinda got a point though. You have found money to go away with the new man but not your friend.

Her language is vile but I can't fault the sentiment behind it.

Yep. Sorry. But you’ve made a choice.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 22/06/2026 18:29

Maybe the friend snores. Maybe the friend’s idea of a weekend is two days doing slot machines. Maybe the friend’s idea is two days climbing Ben Nevis. Maybe the new man’s idea is something OP would love to do. Who knows 🤷‍♀️.

Don’t drop your friend, but at the same time you don’t have to go away with her just because she suggested it.

MyKindHiker · 22/06/2026 18:29

Sisters before misters.

YABU.

pikkumyy77 · 22/06/2026 18:28

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/06/2026 18:24

Well I can see why she’s a bit upset you’ve gone with a better offer, but also I can understand why you want to do a different sort of weekend away with your new partner. You chose the new guy for a weekend away over her though and she’s upset, so I’d say you owe her an apology

it is not a “better offer” its a different thing entirely . For fuck’s sake the OP isn’t a public utility that has to take all customers.

p0pple · 22/06/2026 18:28

What were the “various reasons” you didn’t plan a holiday with her? She’s not just any friend, she’s your best friend. You have every right to do as you please with your time and money, but I do understand why she’s hurt.

Cosyblankets · 22/06/2026 18:28

I can see her point
Can't you?

somanychristmaslights · 22/06/2026 18:27

Yeah you’ve been a crap friend. Said you can’t go away with her, but then jumped at the chance with a man. Not surprised she’s feeling shit.

millymollymoomoo · 22/06/2026 18:27

She’s right

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 22/06/2026 18:26

Well it’s true isn’t it.

You didn’t bother to go with her, but you’ll go with new man.

At least she knows where your priorities lie now, and it’s not with her.

Id expect her to cool the friendship after this.

CruCru · 22/06/2026 18:25

I think the thing about the friend is a bit of a red herring - I don’t like the phrase “sniff of cock” but she may have a point.

However, you have recently met someone and have already arranged to go away for the weekend next month. Is this a bit soon? Tell someone exactly where you’ll be.

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 22/06/2026 18:24

She has kinda got a point though. You have found money to go away with the new man but not your friend.

Her language is vile but I can't fault the sentiment behind it.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/06/2026 18:24

Well I can see why she’s a bit upset you’ve gone with a better offer, but also I can understand why you want to do a different sort of weekend away with your new partner. You chose the new guy for a weekend away over her though and she’s upset, so I’d say you owe her an apology