Friend has gotten really funny due to my weekend away with man

You should have been more honest when she suggested it

BS. Best friends and good friends tell you the truth. They also want best for you but not always at extent of you treating them as 2nd class citizens. Hope the new relationship is amazing OP as sounds like you’re about to lose someone who was and would’ve been always in your corner. Maybe that’s why she highlighted in vulgar terms your apparent priorities.

Only if she was a massive mug - which hopefully most people aren’t.

You might be ok with being treated like crap but most people would have an issue with this.

Raise your bar.

If this is real then I’m 100% on your friends side.

You could have said no to the trip with her but you agreed but never made plans due to ‘finances’

Then a man gives you a bit of attention and you act desperate and choose him over your long term friend.

People like you give me the ick and I wouldn’t be surprised if this friend ditches you.

Let’s hope your relationship lasts.

She led her friend down the garden path saying they’d do a trip together though. And her friend is right, she is prioritizing the new man due to his genitals

You’re missing the point OP. Her snoring is minor. You might be there if this new beau doesn’t work out, but feeling unappreciated, unimpressed by your actions, point is - she might not. Sorry. Usually Team OP but this is not clear cut. You do seem to have been all in with a virtual stranger vs your so called best friend. If so, don’t blame her saying in not so many words WTAF.

I agree.
I can see why a weekend away with new bf seems more necessary as romance is needed.
but she must feel awful.
don’t forget your friends as you need them if the relationship goes tits up and she may have replaced you .
you have some making up to do- plan some fun nice quality time with her.

Any good friend would say 'good for you, hope it goes well'. Sounds like she's jealous that you have someone else in your life who wants to spend quality time with you.
You don't owe anyone any more of your time than you're prepared to give. I can't imagine what your friend will think/say if you're relationship really takes off and you see her less.

I'm quite surprised by the responses here. Going away with your (In this case new) fella is not like going away with a friend at all. I've got some lovely friends who I love to bits and i do go away with, but they can grate after a day or 2 in constant company. It's just not the same thing.

You are entitled to go away with who you want when you want OP!

Missing a comma, sorry.
Intimate, love, or other relationships.
Translation: a sex holiday, a romantic getaway, or time settling in with a newish partner or time alone with an established partner.
OP's friend cannot meet all OP's needs in these respects.
I am going on a couple of friends holidays this year, but definitely prioritise family.

We go for a week!

‘Intimate love’ good grief 🤢.

You sound worse and worse.

This! I can’t think of much better than a weekend away with my friends.

OP is not wrong. If she wants to date, with a view maybe to a longterm relationship and/or children, she will need to invest time and money, and her life will change.

Unless OP has lots of free time and spare money, she will need to balance her love life with other commitments.

A good friend would support OP and hope she was meeting a good man!

I actively avoid people who want to put friendship in competition with intimate love or family relationships. It does not sound like OP is ditching her friend every other weekend to chase blokes. It sounds like OP's friend wants to use OP as a prop for fancy holidays, and bases the friendship on shared single status.

I was dumped by a very good friend a few years ago when she met a new man. She didn't tell me at first that she'd met anyone, despite me listening to all her divorce stories and how much she hoped to meet someone. Yet, when she did, she kept quiet.

A few years later, I heard from her out of the blue, declaring that she and her boyfriend (that was the first I'd heard of him) were going to come up and visit me in my then-new house in a newly-popular part of the UK. I ignored her text and blocked her. It was so bloody hurtful.

I'm the same age as you and I go away every year with my friend.

Yes I'm married
No it's not odd

Oh yeah I agree. It’s a shit saying but it’s on the MN bingo card. She probably should have been a bit more upfront and told her friend she wasn’t up for it earlier but she isn’t doing anyone wrong by preferring to go away with a new fella. The friend sounds bitter.

Ah man, this site is full of uptight, judgy 90s women, looking at vote outcomes. A) thank you for the laugh, that was hilarious, and B) good for you! Imagine being such a shit friend, you tear them down for trying to get some dick, instead of encouraging them! Ffs. Not a good friend, is she.

To be fair to her: maybe it felt like you were stringing her along. Could you apologise for having not been upfront and maybe explain you didn't want to speak too soon and ask her to be happy for you?

I’ve told her about my planned weekend with the man I’m seeing and she got really funny and asked is that why I can’t go away with her. I said it wasn’t as simple as that. She said we’ve been friends for years and as soon as I’ve got a ‘sniff of cock’ I’ve dropped her. I haven’t dropped her at all. It’s true I probably could have gone away with her, but I didn’t commit to it and can’t afford two trips now. She has made me feel a bit crap

You really lack self awareness OP.

You're prioritising your money in favour of whatever man you're with. That's fair enough and I'd say most people would do this in a committed relationship, but if she really is your best and you've been talking for a while about going away, but haven't, can you really not understand or be more empathetic as to why she'd be hurt by this??

she has some habits which to be honest grate when I’ve had a weekend away with her before, the suggestions she made were all pricier than I’d have liked (I made other suggestions which she wasn’t keen on)

Why have you drip fed this information later on in the thread? Are you trying to justify your decision or make yourself feel better? I think you should be honest with your friend and just tell her that you don't enjoy going away with her and her options were too expensive, but it seems too late for that now.

I don't think so, my 65 year old dad is away with a group of friends at the moment!

But regardless - you wouldn't expect it, so you would leave a vague intention hanging in the air like OP has. If she'd just said no, rather than "I can't at the moment" then friend would know where she stood.

If my friend had been single for three years, and met a nice man, I would be thrilled that she was gonna go away for a little trip with him. Because I care about my friends and they happiness and I know how hard it can be to meet someone

If she was going get a butt hurt about it and jealous, I wouldn’t want her as my friend

Resources and finances are limited. OP can't go on holiday with everyone that asks her - this isn't a first come, first served situation. What if another friend asked, and another?

I seem to have missed the bit why you're friends.

I was too late to add this as an edit to my post. The word jealous was exactly my thoughts too. I couldn't be friends with someone who reffered to me as choosing 'cock' I would be choosing to distance myself from her.