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AiBU to be angry with husband for slow roasting pork during heatwave?

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Prok · 22/06/2026 14:48

I do my best to keep the house cool when it gets really hot. I do not cope well with heat. I make an effort to draw curtains, keep windows closed etc.

Come down during my lunch break and the formerly cool kitchen is now a sauna. Of all days dh has decided today is the day to use up the frozen pork for pulled pork sandwiches (dinner).

This after I told the kids not to open windows etc.

Dh doesn’t normally work from home so wanted a “treat”. I said it was an incredibly dumb thing to do. And I got called hysterical. And a nag.

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nomas · 22/06/2026 16:45

I love that your username is an anagram of the offending meat. That's all.

anyolddinosaur · 22/06/2026 16:43

If it's a big enough piece of pork to serve cold or in stir fry tomorrow and the next day he's done you a favour.

smilesy · 22/06/2026 16:42

Anyahyacinth · 22/06/2026 16:20

Because….scientific fact ..physics …as confirmed by public health advice for heatwaves

Yes but as pp have said, the impact is small
over a long period of time. So although physics and government advice say otherwise, in practice it doesn’t make a huge difference. Not so huge that we shouldn’t use the oven. Or cook at all. I agree that hot heavy food is not appetising when it’s hot, but pulled pork seems ideal, particularly as the oven is at a relatively low temperature. Although I do agree with those who say pulled pork in a slow cooker is best 😋. As is pulled chicken breast

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:41

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:32

Whatever the laws of thermal dynamics etc say, I can only repeat that roasting a chicken did not make our kitchen hot last night. And it was really hot here.

You should really let someone know that your kitchen doesn't obey the laws of physics 😂

I am not suggesting your room would have been noticeably hotter but over time (over a number of hours) your room would end up a bit hotter than it would have been if you hadn't had the oven on; like a degree or two, not suddenly scorching.

Either way, as you can see, the official advice is not to have ovens on when it's hot. This is why. It makes a difference.

EducatingEater · 22/06/2026 16:40

Someone else is cooking on a very hot day and will hopefully clear up afterwards.

Take the win, return to your cooler room or run a fan on you, up your fluids and put your feet up and relax!

ThatLemonBee · 22/06/2026 16:37

It’s already a sauna so enjoy the pulled pork 🤷🏻‍♀️. At least you won’t need to cook

Pedallleur · 22/06/2026 16:37

Could be worse. He might have put the heating on to dry the washing

Chocyulelog · 22/06/2026 16:37

I'd swap a cool kitchen and no pork for a hot kitchen with pulled pork any day 🤣.

Laugh about it and move on!!

TidyMaid · 22/06/2026 16:34

DH decided that the belly pork in the fridge should be used up. He did a simplified version of The Keith Floyd Cassoulet. No goose joints. It was rather nice.
A minor bonus was that he sharpened all the knives.

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:32

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:29

A hot closed oven is heating the masonry, floor and air around it by a small amount and that in turn raises the temperature of your room. You may not feel it, but it does heat the room up.

The laws of thermal dynamics dictate that it is true -

First Law — conservation of energy. Energy can't be created or destroyed, only converted from one form to another. So every joule of gas or electricity you feed into the oven has to go somewhere — it can't vanish. It all ends up as heat, eventually, in the room. This is why the "does it make the room hotter" answer is an unambiguous yes.

Second Law — entropy always increases. Heat naturally flows from hot to cold, never the other way round without work being done. This is why your oven heats the room and not the reverse.

Whatever the laws of thermal dynamics etc say, I can only repeat that roasting a chicken did not make our kitchen hot last night. And it was really hot here.

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:29

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:22

We don’t have anything fancy. The oven only heats the kitchen when the door is open. We roasted a chicken yesterday to have with salad and it honestly didn’t heat the kitchen

A hot closed oven is heating the masonry, floor and air around it by a small amount and that in turn raises the temperature of your room. You may not feel it, but it does heat the room up.

The laws of thermal dynamics dictate that it is true -

First Law — conservation of energy. Energy can't be created or destroyed, only converted from one form to another. So every joule of gas or electricity you feed into the oven has to go somewhere — it can't vanish. It all ends up as heat, eventually, in the room. This is why the "does it make the room hotter" answer is an unambiguous yes.

Second Law — entropy always increases. Heat naturally flows from hot to cold, never the other way round without work being done. This is why your oven heats the room and not the reverse.

amylou8 · 22/06/2026 16:22

As someone who also doesn't do well with heat YANBU. I won't even put the hair dryer on when it's like this 😂

Anyahyacinth · 22/06/2026 16:22

Blogswife · 22/06/2026 15:49

This hysteria over a 2 day heatwave is hilarious. I’m really enjoying these posts!

…and all the excess deaths? Just a joke? The strain on our public services?

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:22

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:19

All of the heat that the oven produces ultimately ends up in your room. It doesn't disappear unless you had some kind of fancy extraction / heat change system I suppose.

ETA you only notice it when you open the door. The rest of the time the impact is small over a long period of time,

Edited

We don’t have anything fancy. The oven only heats the kitchen when the door is open. We roasted a chicken yesterday to have with salad and it honestly didn’t heat the kitchen

Anyahyacinth · 22/06/2026 16:20

smilesy · 22/06/2026 15:55

Why are everyone’s ovens heating their houses? Do they not have insulated doors? Are people leaving the oven doors open after the food has cooked?Psychologically it’s difficult to imagine roast food when it is hot, but ovens should not really be making the room hotter. Especially a slow cooked piece of meat at a low temperature. Using a hob probably will, even if it is induction because the hot food is poofing steam in to the room 🤷‍♀️

Because….scientific fact ..physics …as confirmed by public health advice for heatwaves

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:19

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:17

Our oven only makes the kitchen hot when the oven door is open. For pulled pork you only open the door for a few seconds to take it out. I wonder if you have a problem with your oven? For me a slow roast joint which then needs very little doing to it makes way more sense than using the hob in this heat

All of the heat that the oven produces ultimately ends up in your room. It doesn't disappear unless you had some kind of fancy extraction / heat change system I suppose.

ETA you only notice it when you open the door. The rest of the time the impact is small over a long period of time,

Boreded · 22/06/2026 16:19

You are definitely being unreasonable, however you are also reacting how I would in the same weather 😂 so cut him some slack, even if he was thick

Anyahyacinth · 22/06/2026 16:19

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:17

Our oven only makes the kitchen hot when the oven door is open. For pulled pork you only open the door for a few seconds to take it out. I wonder if you have a problem with your oven? For me a slow roast joint which then needs very little doing to it makes way more sense than using the hob in this heat

This would be studied by scientists if true..an oven heats the room it’s in ..basic physics

Anyahyacinth · 22/06/2026 16:17

dontmalbeconme · 22/06/2026 15:35

But he didn't cook the pork in the sink or the fridge or something! He used the kitchen and its appliances legitimately for the purpose that they were intended. He's done nothing wrong.

Surely most people still use their kitchens to cook in, even when it's hot? Pulled pork sandwiches sound like a lovely summer dinner.

No they don’t, they follow public health advice not to heat their houses

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:17

smilesy · 22/06/2026 15:55

Why are everyone’s ovens heating their houses? Do they not have insulated doors? Are people leaving the oven doors open after the food has cooked?Psychologically it’s difficult to imagine roast food when it is hot, but ovens should not really be making the room hotter. Especially a slow cooked piece of meat at a low temperature. Using a hob probably will, even if it is induction because the hot food is poofing steam in to the room 🤷‍♀️

The heat doesn't disappear though, so although the oven is insulated, the heat ends up in the room.

Claude can explain it better than me -

Your oven converts electrical or gas energy into heat. Some of that heat goes into cooking your food. But even that portion doesn't disappear — when the food cools down on your counter, it releases that heat back into the room. The rest leaks through the oven walls and door immediately. When you open the oven, another blast goes straight into the kitchen.
So 100% of the energy you put into the oven eventually becomes heat in your living space. None of it escapes — unless you open a window, in which case some convects out.
The same is true of almost every appliance — your fridge, your TV, your lights is just adding to the thermal load of the space.

OMGitsnotgood · 22/06/2026 16:17

Our oven only makes the kitchen hot when the oven door is open. For pulled pork you only open the door for a few seconds to take it out. I wonder if you have a problem with your oven? For me a slow roast joint which then needs very little doing to it makes way more sense than using the hob in this heat

Glittertwins · 22/06/2026 16:14

Should have done it yesterday with half price electricity if you have British Gas!!!

HappiestSleeping · 22/06/2026 16:12

I am terrible for not liking cold food, so will be cooking something hot at some point today. I'm not sure what, I doubt it will be anything that takes long or requires more than a pan and possibly the air fryer.

Now there has been a mention of pulled pork, it may end up being sausages. Nom.

gotmyselfintoapickle · 22/06/2026 16:11

Excited101 · 22/06/2026 15:31

Stupid argument.

A bathroom is for shitting in, but if you came in to a giant turd in the middle of the shower tray, you’d be annoyed.

That's a terrible analogy 😂

Anyahyacinth · 22/06/2026 16:10

dontmalbeconme · 22/06/2026 15:31

Your preferences don't trump his preferences. He's cooked dinner. It's no big deal. You need to calm down and realise that you share space with the rest of the family, so you can't expect to get your own way all of the time.

Where the preference is about the health of the whole family ..1 persons greed doesn’t trump the others well-being