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AiBU to be angry with husband for slow roasting pork during heatwave?

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Prok · 22/06/2026 14:48

I do my best to keep the house cool when it gets really hot. I do not cope well with heat. I make an effort to draw curtains, keep windows closed etc.

Come down during my lunch break and the formerly cool kitchen is now a sauna. Of all days dh has decided today is the day to use up the frozen pork for pulled pork sandwiches (dinner).

This after I told the kids not to open windows etc.

Dh doesn’t normally work from home so wanted a “treat”. I said it was an incredibly dumb thing to do. And I got called hysterical. And a nag.

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BingoForAll · 23/06/2026 12:43

You need a ninja in your life.

ThreeStripeQueen · 23/06/2026 12:40

GlomOfNit · 22/06/2026 21:22

Does everything that passes your lips have to be cooked? When it's really hot over summer, or on holiday, ideally I aim not to put a pan on a hob at all. We eat cold cured meats, cheese, bread, salad, hummus and other dips, fruit ... Summer holiday food, basically!

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That’s lunch for my lot. I don’t think I could get away serving up a sandwich and salad again in the evening.

cinquanta · 23/06/2026 09:23

SquirrelGG · 23/06/2026 01:27

People seem to have this "UK houses are built to retain heat" drummed into them at birth, as though houses in no other country in the world are. And yes, houses which retain heat usually also keep cool.

Reading MN anyone would think the UK was hotter, colder, more humid etc. than any other country in the world, when in reality it's just that many of the citizens are overly dramatic!

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MN wouldn’t be MN without a generous helping of (over) drama.

Bourneo · 23/06/2026 08:11

Omg! I'd be absolutely livid!!!

Menopausio · 23/06/2026 07:37

TroysMammy · 22/06/2026 14:56

I doubt that people who live in hotter climates for longer eat salad and ice cream every day.

Im in Spain. Yes to colder meals, eating around 9-10 pm plus lots have a Summer ( outdoor ) kitchen.

Gettingbysomehow · 23/06/2026 07:35

Id murder anyone who lit a candle in my house right now.

PomplaMouse · 23/06/2026 06:49

Thechaseison71 · 22/06/2026 22:55

It would be cremated after hours at 200 lol

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Oh, I've just realized that this is a Fahrenheit vs Celcius thing.

Point is, slow cooking something for 6-8 hours at a low heat warms up an average size kitchen by several degrees more than using an oven for an hour at a much higher heat.

So yeah, during a heat wave is the worst time to slow cook using an oven.

BeWittyRobin · 23/06/2026 06:35

Omg please take a long hard look at yourself. A ridiculous over reaction in my opinion

PomplaMouse · 23/06/2026 01:57

Theyreeatingthedogs · 22/06/2026 20:57

Except you don't slow cook at those temperatures. Slow cooking is done at much lower temperatures.

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Much lower than 200-250??

Do you just leave it out on the counter on a hot day?

SquirrelGG · 23/06/2026 01:27

oviraptor21 · 23/06/2026 00:35

Buildings which retains heat usually also keep cool better. Our house certainly does, downstairs at least.
And I'm down south and loving it.

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People seem to have this "UK houses are built to retain heat" drummed into them at birth, as though houses in no other country in the world are. And yes, houses which retain heat usually also keep cool.

Reading MN anyone would think the UK was hotter, colder, more humid etc. than any other country in the world, when in reality it's just that many of the citizens are overly dramatic!

oviraptor21 · 23/06/2026 00:35

WilliamsandWatsonTooLateNSoul · 22/06/2026 15:01

Aye but UK dwellings aren't built for hot weather they're built to retain heat .
Glad I'm NE Scotland
SE people you've my sympathies.

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Buildings which retains heat usually also keep cool better. Our house certainly does, downstairs at least.
And I'm down south and loving it.

SapphireSeptember · 23/06/2026 00:32

Well me and DS had cheesy baked beans on toast for dinner (microwaved the beans) and some cut up vegetables (baby plum tomatoes, cucumber and orange pepper.) I'm not turning the oven on and my kitchen gets hot as I don't have blinds or curtains in there and it gets the sun in the evening. DS ate most of his veggies and all his cheesy beans on toast.

PyongyangKipperbang · 22/06/2026 22:58

Yerdug · 22/06/2026 22:54

Over reaction. Have a Solero and STFU

Wow, do you talk to people like that in real life are you just amazingly offensive online?

Yes that was rhetorical....I already know the answer.

Thechaseison71 · 22/06/2026 22:55

Theyreeatingthedogs · 22/06/2026 20:57

Except you don't slow cook at those temperatures. Slow cooking is done at much lower temperatures.

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It would be cremated after hours at 200 lol

Yerdug · 22/06/2026 22:54

Over reaction. Have a Solero and STFU

raisinglittlepeople12 · 22/06/2026 22:53

Let him live!

Thechaseison71 · 22/06/2026 22:53

GlomOfNit · 22/06/2026 21:22

Does everything that passes your lips have to be cooked? When it's really hot over summer, or on holiday, ideally I aim not to put a pan on a hob at all. We eat cold cured meats, cheese, bread, salad, hummus and other dips, fruit ... Summer holiday food, basically!

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Oh I see. That's you. Id soon be bored with cold picky food

Give me a decent curry or biryani

SquirrelGG · 22/06/2026 22:48

You are being ridiculous. I cook the same food whether it is hot or cold, summer or winter. I have never felt any hotter by having the oven than when it's off.

RafaFan · 22/06/2026 22:30

Kind of ungrateful is it not? Coming home to a home-cooked meal is generally considered to be a positive thing. I'm not surprised he was pissed off.
Pulled pork is also great done in a slow cooker. Doesn't give off nearly as much heat as an oven.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 22/06/2026 22:25

With you totally. My DD BAKED a cake and it was in the oven just as I finished work. I had to sit outside.

Gowlett · 22/06/2026 22:24

It will be raining again next week, he needs to whip round M&S and get the picky bits in, pronto! Forget about roasting a big load of pork… Give that to the dog!

RafaFan · 22/06/2026 22:20

TroysMammy · 22/06/2026 14:56

I doubt that people who live in hotter climates for longer eat salad and ice cream every day.

No, but on the Canadian prairies "summer kitchens" were a thing - basically a shed for cooking in during the summer to avoid heating the house up. They've disappeared now that most houses have air conditioning.

GlomOfNit · 22/06/2026 21:22

Thechaseison71 · 22/06/2026 15:43

So if you aren't allowed to cook because it's hot what is everyone eating

Does everything that passes your lips have to be cooked? When it's really hot over summer, or on holiday, ideally I aim not to put a pan on a hob at all. We eat cold cured meats, cheese, bread, salad, hummus and other dips, fruit ... Summer holiday food, basically!

flirtybird · 22/06/2026 21:09

I made faggots chips and peas, the kitchen was hot as the oven goes on the highest setting. It was good though despite the heat.

chocoluv · 22/06/2026 21:07

WilfredsPies · 22/06/2026 20:08

He called you a hysterical nag after turning the kitchen into a sauna because he wanted a ‘treat’ for lunch? I would be inclined to show him exactly what a hysterical nag actually looked like. Who the fuck does he think he’s talking to? You’re his wife, not some random down the pub he’s fallen out with.

OP called him dumb for cooking food in his own home.

Who does she think she is.
I wouldn’t even say that to my child, let alone someone who owns half the house.

I think she got off lightly and I would have called my DH much worse if he dared call me dumb for cooking food in my own home.