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Witnessed fight and nobody did anything

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ComeOnNowww · 22/06/2026 10:49

We live next to a quiet pub, but it's been much less quiet in recent weeks.

Went to window and there were 10 peole having a scrap in middle of road. In 40s and 50s. Irish (from their shouts) and probably from traveller community - i only say that as that affects how open they'd have been to police interference i guess?

They are all fighting and punches being thrown.Pretty chaotic. My husband is stood behind me also watching. For about 30 seconds, until I kick into action and call 999. A woman is dragged from the scrap and becomes clear it's all about one bloke against the woman. He manages to pin her up against the fence, (others trying to hold him back) and he headbuts her properly. I am narrating all of this to the police on the phone saynig i am witnessing a woman being hit and headbutted in the street.

Husband is behind me (we are by our front door) telling me to get off the phone and stay out of it!! a woman is being assulted in the street! After the headbut the other men manage to sit on the bloke and drag him away and once that guy is dragged away to further down the street - everything becomes calmer v quickly. I tell the police that the violence has stopped andwoman is crying and everyone is comforting her, the man can't be seen. Lots of shouting randomly and chaos still. think the bloke is some way down the stretet shouting things.

The call handler says "can i confirm the fight has dispersed" and i say yes - and then they say thank you for the report and of course no police appear at any point. Call handler ended call pretty quickly.

Both my own husband and the police seem remarkably unconcerned about the assult. I mean to be fair by the time they would have arrived - the people would have probably gone. I don't have a ring doorbell or anything.

I feel a bit dismayed at both my own husband the police. AIBU to expect more a response?

OP posts:
RedPoet · 22/06/2026 11:16

Look this is not going to be popular but if it's travelers the Police don't tend to get involved because literally you and your husband's house would be attacked, you would be attacked by them, they would get on a phone and there would be hundreds turning up.

When there is a traveler funeral here all the businesses shut down even the GPS surgery shuts down because one slight kick off and you literally have hundreds of them kicking off smashing everything up the police are not capable or don't have a number to deal with it so they cannot get involved

Backedoffhackedoff · 22/06/2026 11:16

Whatwerewetalkingabout · 22/06/2026 11:14

Maybe stop discouraging her to get help for the woman getting her face smashed in from the police?

That was just fear taking. We all act irrationally at times. I think this should be viewed in a more generous light- it’s one action from the man the OP married.

IslandAdventure · 22/06/2026 11:15

MajorSamanthaCarter · 22/06/2026 11:06

What did you want your husband to do, go out and get his face smashed in?

She’s very clear that what she is dismayed about is that he didn’t want her to call the police. That she was the only one that seemed to think this was necessary.

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Whatwerewetalkingabout · 22/06/2026 11:14

MajorSamanthaCarter · 22/06/2026 11:06

What did you want your husband to do, go out and get his face smashed in?

Maybe stop discouraging her to get help for the woman getting her face smashed in from the police?

Backedoffhackedoff · 22/06/2026 11:14

I don’t mean to downplay it but this isn’t uncommon in pubs and bars so there is an element of being desensitised to it.

also, the fight has dispersed so the police aren’t required- the victim is of course free to make a report or seek medical attention, but the police can’t attend every call like that when there isn’t any need for them.

fights are shocking when you’re not used to them but sadly lots of people are.

GreenFootstool · 22/06/2026 11:14

If your husband had got involved, he'd had been assaulted too. He made the correct decision to hold back and just be a witness rather than a casualty. Source: ex police officer.

In terms of the police turning up, if everyone has now dispersed, it's no longer a 999 priority for them. They cannot chase up every incident after they fact unfortunately but you'll probably find the pub have also reported it and it'll be reviewed in slow time with them if further offences have also been disclosed. If the woman is identified they may come back to you for a witness statement but otherwise I wouldn't expect much follow up with you.

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 11:12

Someone did do something - you phoned the Police.

And people involved in the fight dragged the man away.

What were you wanting to happen? The Police to attend?

ScaredButUnavoidable · 22/06/2026 11:09

It sounds like there were already lots of men there dragging the violent guy away from the woman? If I've read that right?

MajorSamanthaCarter · 22/06/2026 11:06

What did you want your husband to do, go out and get his face smashed in?

ExtraOnions · 22/06/2026 11:00

I once jumped out of bed, went over the road (in my PJs) as a woman was being assaulted by her husband. He ran out the house with a toddler in his arms trying to drag her in by the hair.
I heard a commotion first, looked out the window and saw her on the floor, I thought she had been attacked by a stranger.
Neighbors opening windows so they could see / hear better, not one of them came out.

I rang the Police, who were there on Blue Lights in minutes, threw him in the back of the van.

i was never asked to give a statement or anything, so assume it went nowhere - they moved out days later

downloadtoad · 22/06/2026 10:55

I would be really disappointed in my husband too but I also wouldn’t want him going out there incase they jumped on him. You did the fight thing calling the police op, unfortunately I think that’s all you could do.

JLou08 · 22/06/2026 10:55

I'd be rethinking my marriage if my DH acted that way.
I suppose for the police, there's no one making a report of being assaulted. However, victims don't need to report domestic abuse for the police to take action now. It sounds like the incident could be recorded on CCTV. The right thing to do would be to attend and gather the evidence to try and find the victim and perpetrator, but maybe they don't have the resources.

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