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AIBU to think my friend should mind her own business?

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MounjaMum · 22/06/2026 10:05

Last month I spent £540 in going out. That does not include when we go out as a family and my husband pays. I wanted a new handbag as I was running shot and didn't want to dip in savings so hinted to my husband and he gave me the money towards it. My friend said that it was unreasonable of me to do so.
She is saying that I should stop going out so much and should have left it till when I have the money. I am actually upset by the way she said it and told her as much and she is saying that I am acting like a spoilt 'bitch' - her exact words.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that she should mind her own business!

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MounjaMum · 22/06/2026 10:10

Statsquestion1 · 22/06/2026 10:07

What do you mean by going out? Drinking? Eating? Both?

Usually out with the girls. I have different groups of friends (university, school mums, gym ) people I have met over the years who have become good friends. It is mainly like meals out, spa, afternoon teas etc.

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catslovehairties · 22/06/2026 10:08

Why are you even telling her that to begin with?

NerrSnerr · 22/06/2026 10:08

Just don’t talk to your friend about money. I wonder if it came across as bragging as I don’t know of anyone who would tell me how much they have spent on going out or discuss asking their husbands for money to buy a bag.

Lomonald · 22/06/2026 10:08

I mean it is you and your husbands money and if you can afford it, what harm are you doing and it is nothing to do with your friend.

Katemax82 · 22/06/2026 10:07

She can mind her own business!!

Statsquestion1 · 22/06/2026 10:07

What do you mean by going out? Drinking? Eating? Both?