AIBU to think my friend should mind her own business?

Confused. You had to ask your husband for a handbag contribution, yet you ate out/ had takeaways, for a whole week? I mean you could have budgeted for a new handbag ( which you knew you needed) and not gone out as much, to save money for the bag?

Not everyone talks like this though and not everyone will say i spent £500 eating out this week, or if my husband bought me.a nice bracelet and someone admired it, i wouldn't say aww thanks it cost £800 .

I used to know people who would complain that they were "broke" and other people would then cover their share at drinks or dinner. Later it became clear that they just "didn't want to dip into their savings".

I don't know those people any more.

I think in the context of a friendship where you do talk about your spending habits, then you are opening yourself up to opinions. Sometimes close friendships come with reality checks and I personally appreciate that in a close friend, but if you don’t want comments then you don’t have that topic up for discussion.

In your shoes I would have brought the handbag myself the next month when I had the spare funds because it’s just a handbag and I don’t believe in immediate gratification as in ‘I want something now so therefore I must have it’
However how you run your finances, life, relationships are no one’s business but your own. If you had been telling me I wouldn’t have said you were behaving like a spoilt brat, I may have thought it in my head but I wouldn’t have voiced it.
You say she is a really good friend which is probably why she felt comfortable in telling you she thought you were out of order.

You said "we treated ourselves" so I was being facetious.

When I said I was 'broke'I do not mean I am actually broke as in I cannot survive til pay say - It is just a way of talking

Maybe her husband isn't as generous with her as you think, or maybe it comes with conditions you are unaware of, either way she's clearly had enough of you wittering on about "having no money".. when you clearly do and have access to way more from your DH whenever you want it for whatever you want.. you've turned it into a competition that she can never win.

Tone deaf at best.. completely self involved at worst.

Eating out with the kids for a week because you won't cook is just the icing on the cake.

Sounds like you were boasting about your social life and your new bag.

To be honest, if I was having a convo with one of my friends and she was saying she was skint, and then went on to say she had spent £540 on goin out in the last few weeks I would probably make a comment like that. You're saying you're skint, but then stating you didn't want to dip into your savings so hinted to your DH to give you money towards a new handbag. You make it her business by discussing your finances with her and so she is allowed to give her opinion (and I think she makes a good point). Sometimes friends give us advice we don't want to hear, because we know they are right. It's called being a good friend. Your finances are totally up to you, and as long as you and your husband are on the same page it's fine, so just don't talk about them to other people if you don't want them passing judgement.

Did your children pay for what they had or did you just split the bills? 🤔

Along with saying you're "broke" when you're "not broke" I can see you're prone to telling it like it isn't.

Why does this post sound like a humble brag from the OP? Buy what you want OP you don’t need anyone’s approval but fwiw you do sound kind of spoilt, eating all your meals out to avoid cooking, draining your account to spend on frivolous things and then hinting for more from your husband. Weird dynamic

You ate out for the entire week?

Yeah I missed that I thought she said friend. Yeah it’s none of her business but I think it’s all very wasteful tbh.

How would she have school mum friends if she didn't have kids?! 🤦‍♀️

Good grief you two really do talk about how much things cost don’t you? Spending this, bracelet cost that. No wonder she felt able to pass comment as money was a strong theme of your conversation.

Do you plead poverty, while she actually isn't as well off as you? That does grate on people. If your other posts are true and you've been given £ millions etc by your parents, she's probably just sick of you using terms like broke. Is she single? Perhaps have a bit of tact.

I guess you might go out 5x and spend about £100, or 10x and spend about £50. That's quite a lot but obviously you can afford it.

I don't know why you told your friend about how much you spend though?

She doesn't sound very nice and unless the spoilt bitch thing was a joke and you talk to eachother like that regularly then I'm not surprised you feel hurt.

£540 on a single outing?