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DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

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Fathersdaycry · 21/06/2026 22:08

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

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T1Dmama · 22/06/2026 00:46

The sex comment ?! 🤮🤢

Llamallamafruitpyjama · 22/06/2026 00:45

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/06/2026 00:41

  • it can be seen as a way of dominating their partner, as many women really don't want to do it

This is what concerns me. It seems like some men just want to have sex with a woman in a way that doesn’t give her pleasure, as though the attraction is that the act is solely for their benefit/ can even be painful for the woman.

Also I’ve read that men’s bodies can tolerate anal sex much better than women’s - so what’s fine for gay men (or straight men who like pegging) is not fine for women.

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I can’t fathom it either because ew. But it’s really shitty when they know women don’t have a prostrate gland and have no pleasure from it. Surely it feels ‘tight’ because it’s not naturally lubricated. We have vaginas for a reason, for consensual sex we also want.

Women can suffer prolapses and do more commonly than men too! More at risk with hormones and childbirth etc. It’s significantly less risky for men but I still know one man who had reconstructive work done because of a previous boyfriend of his.

Llamallamafruitpyjama · 22/06/2026 00:43

alakas · 21/06/2026 22:40

Hello just wanted to say, if you don't like doing something then there shouldn't be pressure for you to engage in that activity (sex act) regardless of what day it is.

Makes me feel unwell op does things she doesn’t seem to like hence them being ‘treats’ (yuck !)

Men that like anal will always be weird to me.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/06/2026 00:41

Woodfiresareamazing2 · 21/06/2026 23:36

Reasons why men want anal:

  • it used to be seen as 'forbidden', and therefore more desirable
  • an arsehole is often tighter than a vagina, so gives more sensation
  • these days many men watch a lot of porn, and anal is done ALL the time, so men think they should be able to do it IRL too
  • it can be seen as a way of dominating their partner, as many women really don't want to do it
  • there's no risk of pregnancy

OP, I hope all of your orifices (orifii?) shut up shop tonight.
And I hope you put the chocolate in the fridge.

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  • it can be seen as a way of dominating their partner, as many women really don't want to do it

This is what concerns me. It seems like some men just want to have sex with a woman in a way that doesn’t give her pleasure, as though the attraction is that the act is solely for their benefit/ can even be painful for the woman.

Also I’ve read that men’s bodies can tolerate anal sex much better than women’s - so what’s fine for gay men (or straight men who like pegging) is not fine for women.

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:32

DoubleBoubles · 22/06/2026 00:12

Ah yes, I was getting confused and thinking imodium was making you go rather than bunging you up. I’ve got it the wrong way round. I get it now 😂

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Now, imagine that. He'd never demand anal again.

I'm crying with laughter 🤣🤣

NorthXNorthWest · 22/06/2026 00:28

I hope this thread makes Classics - like penis beaker and Mexican house thief.

I am literally rolling. 😂

NorthXNorthWest · 22/06/2026 00:24

Wingedharpy · 22/06/2026 00:10

To gather and prepare all necessary equipment, uniforms and to book the anaesthetist.

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😂

NorthXNorthWest · 22/06/2026 00:23

DollopOfFun · 21/06/2026 22:21

Or anal, lots of people like to prep by eating light, taking immodium or douching

And they say romance is dead.

😂

DoubleBoubles · 22/06/2026 00:12

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:02

It prevents the bowels from opening the floodgates during the act.

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Ah yes, I was getting confused and thinking imodium was making you go rather than bunging you up. I’ve got it the wrong way round. I get it now 😂

Katflapkit · 22/06/2026 00:11

JumpingRabbit · 21/06/2026 22:10

I’m most intrigued by what sex act he only gets on his birthday with notice?

Do you dress up as cake?

Wingedharpy · 22/06/2026 00:10

Jollyhockeystickss · 22/06/2026 00:03

I think we all know what the sex act is but why do you need notice??

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To gather and prepare all necessary equipment, uniforms and to book the anaesthetist.

Woodfiresareamazing2 · 22/06/2026 00:10

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:02

It prevents the bowels from opening the floodgates during the act.

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I would have thought an enema would be better prep than Immodium?

I've had to have 2 colonoscopies in the last few years. I can honestly say that after an evening of drinking the evil enema concoction my bowels were completely empty and my arse as clean as clean could be.

Not that I even contemplated letting Mr Woodfires come anywhere near it... each to their own, but not in my repertoire (or my arse, lol).

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:09

Hideawaysomewherenice · 22/06/2026 00:06

To get in the right frame of mind? To down a bottle of wine? For him to clean his cheesy knob?

Can you tell I hate Bj’s 😂

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Audacious.

I just picture OP's drunk husband on the bed, demanding she pleases him.

Hopefully, she went off to sleep wearing her winter coat.

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:07

Jollyhockeystickss · 22/06/2026 00:03

I think we all know what the sex act is but why do you need notice??

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To cleanse and dry the mud chute.

Hideawaysomewherenice · 22/06/2026 00:06

Jollyhockeystickss · 22/06/2026 00:03

I think we all know what the sex act is but why do you need notice??

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To get in the right frame of mind? To down a bottle of wine? For him to clean his cheesy knob?

Can you tell I hate Bj’s 😂

Jollyhockeystickss · 22/06/2026 00:03

JumpingRabbit · 21/06/2026 22:10

I’m most intrigued by what sex act he only gets on his birthday with notice?

I think we all know what the sex act is but why do you need notice??

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:03

mediummumma · 22/06/2026 00:02

I’m crying at ‘punishment pegging’ 😂

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It had me in tears 🤣🤣

BlueFahrenheit · 22/06/2026 00:02

DoubleBoubles · 21/06/2026 23:55

Not the point of the thread but surely taking immodium before anal is going to cause a bit of a mess 🤔

It prevents the bowels from opening the floodgates during the act.

mediummumma · 22/06/2026 00:02

Papster · 21/06/2026 22:58

He’s a twat
Give him a punishment pegging
Teach him a lesson for next year

I’m crying at ‘punishment pegging’ 😂

Justonemorething82 · 22/06/2026 00:01

Papster · 21/06/2026 22:58

He’s a twat
Give him a punishment pegging
Teach him a lesson for next year

“Now I’m the Daddy!”

blubberyboo · 22/06/2026 00:00

@Fathersdaycry

There was literally nothing you could do today to make this arsehole happy (excuse the pun)

He deliberately acted like a sourfaced toddler all day so that he could manipulate you into a sex act that he knows you dont want.

This is why all Fathers Day gifts should be from the kids ..not the spouse.. so that transactional sex doesnt feature

ilovepixie · 21/06/2026 23:58

i have a friend who only gives blow jobs on bank holidays and birthdays 😂😂

DoubleBoubles · 21/06/2026 23:55

Not the point of the thread but surely taking immodium before anal is going to cause a bit of a mess 🤔

Justonemorething82 · 21/06/2026 23:53

Next year, lash a bar of Galaxy at him (for breakfast) saying “that’s the only chocolate you’re getting!”

JohnBullshit · 21/06/2026 23:49

Mould the melty chocolate into a penis shape. Chill well. He doesn't want it, so it's only going to waste if you don't. Hand it to him tomorrow night and tell him you'll do whatever he likes: suck the fuck out of the chocolate or shove the whole thing up his arse.
Whiny fucking baby sulking for better treats.

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