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DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

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Fathersdaycry · 21/06/2026 22:08

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

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Sartre · 22/06/2026 06:43

Breakfast in bed would’ve been nice and not much effort, especially since he does this for you on Mother’s Day. Whinging about the heat in the beer garden and his chocolate melting is a bit silly.

Mauro711 · 22/06/2026 06:39

Sometimes I think that maybe it would be nice to meet someone and be in a relationship again. Then the universe throws threads like this my way.

Catullus5 · 22/06/2026 06:37

lydiastattooedladies · 21/06/2026 22:41

Anal for Fathers Day? Normally socks suffice.

Err.. what would he do with the socks?

Crunchymum · 22/06/2026 06:21

Fathersdaycry · 21/06/2026 22:32

Similar to today, I did get breakfast though.

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And did you get a sex act of your choice? (And did he?)

I actually think its disgusting and gross to want a sex act to celebrate fathers day. Although I also think its odd and bizarre someone partakes in a sex act that requires a notice period / and is for special occasions only? WTF do you do that needs notice? And it doesn't sound like it's much enjoyed if you are only "willing" to do it once a year?

Frumpitydoo · 22/06/2026 06:13

Sex as a Father's Day present is giving incest vibes. Weird. And the prep.

He sounds like a complete self absorbed tosser.

NaomiCunninghamHasHadHerWeetabixAgain · 22/06/2026 06:11

You’re not being unreasonable at all. He’s whinged all day from not getting his breakfast to not being entitled to your body because it’s Father’s Day. His behaviour sounds appalling, so no, not unreasonable.

SummitWrong · 22/06/2026 06:07

I'd be telling him to get fucked. And it wouldn't be by me.

EmailsaysOOO · 22/06/2026 05:29

Wingedharpy · 21/06/2026 22:56

Is it using one of those sex chair thingies op? - and you have to drag it down from the loft and polish it - which is why you need notice?

Hey what is this ? Better not post a diagram

Spottyvases · 22/06/2026 05:22

lydiastattooedladies · 21/06/2026 22:41

Anal for Fathers Day? Normally socks suffice.

😂😂😂

EmailsaysOOO · 22/06/2026 05:16

Yikes I've just read the whole thread. "Book the anesthesiast"

EmailsaysOOO · 22/06/2026 05:12

Ibi · 21/06/2026 22:10

I’m intrigued now about the act! What sort of preparations do you need to do that requires advanced warning and is an annual event?! I’m expecting literal fireworks, possibly perfectly timed to a soundtrack.

Where's the smiley face gone !

We need Answers to the critical concern here

Catullus5 · 22/06/2026 04:57

Hedgehogbrown · 22/06/2026 02:01

Hope you gave him a pegging on Mother's Day.

Lol, maybe he was hoping for another one!

Beenwhereyouareagain · 22/06/2026 04:30

DoubleBoubles · 21/06/2026 23:55

Not the point of the thread but surely taking immodium before anal is going to cause a bit of a mess 🤔

I don't think Imodium works the way you think it does. It shuts the plumbing off, so to speak.
But I'm prepared to be wrong. I often am. 😉

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · 22/06/2026 04:05

PressureImplosion · 21/06/2026 22:52

I know its not the point of the thread but why do some men see anal sex as a special treat? It's a shitstained orifice. There is poo in there, literal shit!! That will end up on your genitals, what is sexy about shit?? 🤢🤢🤢

Power.

Of course they know women don’t really like it and for most it’s painful and / extremely uncomfortable, but that’s part of the pleasure for them isn’t it. They get a kick out of a woman subjugating herself for them. If she shits herself that adds to her humiliation.

If they could take a literal shit into a woman’s open mouth I’m sure a lot of men would want to try that.

DurinsBane · 22/06/2026 03:47

suburberphobe · 22/06/2026 01:47

can even be painful for the woman.

Yep. Not normal.

My eventual route to finding out I had endometriosis. This was in the 1970's.
Luckily cured now.

And furious it's now so much more common and women are left to suffer in silence by the medical establishment.

Mind you, I did all kinds of alternative therapies, like acupuncture and energy healing. I think the whole helped me get rid of it.

Pity there's so much scepticism about it on MN.

How did anal help you find that you had endometriosis?

IainTorontoNSW · 22/06/2026 02:42

rainraining · 21/06/2026 22:15

Why does he need to give notice?

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I think that it might be more desirable to him for his partner to NOT be quite so hirsuite. In the past, one of my exes would decide to wax or to shave more often "to be special".

oliviaAustin · 22/06/2026 02:34

JumpingRabbit · 21/06/2026 22:10

I’m most intrigued by what sex act he only gets on his birthday with notice?

Isn’t it obvious? There are some things people aren’t keen on but will do to make their partner happy. But they may have to psych themselves up for.

Yes OP he sounds grumpy and rude. Also, a sex act? It’s Father’s Day it’s from his children not you his wife.

T1Dmama · 22/06/2026 02:11

Llamallamafruitpyjama · 22/06/2026 00:45

I can’t fathom it either because ew. But it’s really shitty when they know women don’t have a prostrate gland and have no pleasure from it. Surely it feels ‘tight’ because it’s not naturally lubricated. We have vaginas for a reason, for consensual sex we also want.

Women can suffer prolapses and do more commonly than men too! More at risk with hormones and childbirth etc. It’s significantly less risky for men but I still know one man who had reconstructive work done because of a previous boyfriend of his.

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There is absolutely no evidence that suggests anal is more risky for a woman than a man.
Anal in itself is risky as the muscles aren’t designed for this.
The only risk to women that men don’t have to worry about is if vaginal sex follows, and obv the bacteria then enters the woman’s body and cause UTI’s etc!

I myself would refuse anal…. I have a perfectly good vagina for sex and if a man wanted that I’d be questioning their sexuality!

Hedgehogbrown · 22/06/2026 02:01

Hope you gave him a pegging on Mother's Day.

suburberphobe · 22/06/2026 01:47

can even be painful for the woman.

Yep. Not normal.

My eventual route to finding out I had endometriosis. This was in the 1970's.
Luckily cured now.

And furious it's now so much more common and women are left to suffer in silence by the medical establishment.

Mind you, I did all kinds of alternative therapies, like acupuncture and energy healing. I think the whole helped me get rid of it.

Pity there's so much scepticism about it on MN.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 22/06/2026 01:43

JumpingRabbit · 21/06/2026 22:10

I’m most intrigued by what sex act he only gets on his birthday with notice?

I assume it requires a lot of equipment and a full day of building / setting up.

(And then the whole kit and caboodle has to be dismantled and packed away in the loft for next year's birthday.)

suburberphobe · 22/06/2026 01:38

He sounds revolting and like a big baby.

Don't know how you put up with it.

watchingthishtread · 22/06/2026 01:28

He has been deliberately finding fault since breakfast with this evenings request in mind. It didn't matter what the kids got him for fathers day. This was his plan all along.

ThatJadeLion · 22/06/2026 01:06

Id much rather be on my own than put up with this

Papster · 22/06/2026 00:49

mediummumma · 22/06/2026 00:02

I’m crying at ‘punishment pegging’ 😂

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Not as much as he’d be

OP should turn it into her own ‘thing’
Put it on his pillow every Saturday night